persianprincess

dont treat the situation as you have to win and she has to lose… you are putting him in the middle,,, he cant say anything because its his mom and hes probably not much older than you… and he cant defend her, because you are his babymom… the best thing is to keep quiet for him. Sit down with his mom one day and tell her that you love her son, and the baby inside you and you are not the type of girl to sleep around.. etc. Set the record straight by keeping your manner… be polite and patient. You have to understand that she is frustrated a little even if she doesnt say anything…. her grandchild at an early age means that her son is going to be a father now and that may be overwhelming for her. I disagree with "shuving it in her face" because you will want your child to have grandparents and their love and for you and your child to be accepted by his mother and his family… things will run much smoother if you did do that.

I didnt want to tell my parents at all and I was 19… I waited a long time and I wish i hadnt… the stress of keeping something like that gets to you… you can try writing them a letter if you are good at it… i told my mom over the phone one night when she asked because i was getting bigger by the day. She eventually broke it to my dad. They cant kill you for it, which would be the worst case senerio. They are your parents and it will be alot more comfortable for you when its done. They may be so angry and say different things but you have to stick to your words… promise them that you wont be another statistic, you will finish school and you WILL support your own child, you just need their support. It is so important that you get it. about your bf… people confuse the fact that some people who are suicidal are not insane. I was suicidal at one point in my life. I overdosed twice and nearly succeeded… i later found out that it was a side effect of a pill i was taking that i didnt need in the first place. Effixor or somethin. teenagers go through alot of depression at a certain point, its one way of dealing with "the difficult years". please dont see him as a insane person… this baby might actually give him a light at the end of the tunnel… somethin to live for… ofcourse you know him better so the judgement is really on you, if hes in any way actually insane then for sure leave him… good luck hun

Naming is a very stressful time… everyone has a say… What you can do is come to a mutual agreement… i find that worked best for us.. when we had to name our child my mom kept givin me hints on what she wanted and i told her id consider it… my bfs family didnt want any persian names because they are jamaican and it was important for me to have my child with a semi-persian name: like Ava, this went on for months and we faught enough over itwe ended up givin my daughter a first name and two middle names and a last name… i named her Donya for what I wanted… and Noami for what her grandma wanted (bfs side) and since she passed we named her after her grandma also… long name. Its stressful now but you will laugh about it later… plus you can call you child what you want,… they’ll always respond to the name.. share your feelings with your parents: ie. tell them that though you would love to name your child what they want, it is your first baby and it is important for you to make a decision as a family… somethin you can all agree on.. then set some guidelines and ask for their help… dont make them feel left out, like they have to do everything for you and you dont do enough in return, naming is fun so let them help you. You need their support right now,.. more than ever, please dont build two sides and see them working against you, if they were, theyd never be talkin to u or even caring enough to want to help name the baby.. i know you are sensitive and feel that since you are doing all the carrying right now you have the most say, and dont get me wrong, you do…but its still nice for your parents to feel wanted. Imagine when you are having a grandchild, im sure youd make suggestions and would just like to feel appreciated for it so do the same for them. Make best of what you have today instead of wishing things were different hun

no matter how faint, as long as there is a visible line, you are pregnant. No one can tell you for sure, but to make it 100% asccurate go to a doctor and get a blood test. congrats by the way

sickness could have something to do with u missing your period, if your iron levels are low, you can miss a period, if you are stressed, you can miss a period, alot of things can cause you to miss your period besides pregnancy. If you are that late, go to the doctor, so you know whats wrong. At 5 weeks late, a positive pregnancy test would have shown up. So get checked

if you were pregnant, it WOULD have shown at the doctors, especially by a bloodtest. chances of them being wrong arent very strong. If you had had a miscarriage recently, because the hgc levels would still be high, you will show a positive. Do you have an irregular cycle? It could be stress, lack of iron, or just a totally different thing. go to ur appt and see

Give him sometime. I know they can be stressful at times, and trust me, Ive had my share of running out of the house in the middle of the night, but he will have your back. AFter 5 years, its hard not to. Good luck hun, and dont worry, itll be ok

You need to forgive yourself for anything and everything. When I was 17 I got pregnant, I was terrified. I found out I was pregnant when I was at school. I had done a bloodtest and called the doctor on my break to get the results, and when I was told, i nearly fell off my chair. I called my bf right away and his exact words were "why are you calling me, call your mom" and then he hung up. I was so hurt and upset. When I got home, I called him again and he asked for me to come over. I went, he hugged me and kissed me and told me that he wants me to carry his first child and all the rest. He had never told me he loved me, and he didnt start then.
That was not acceptable to me, to not hear that he loves me but wants us to have children. about a week later, his mom found out I was pregnant. God bless her, she always knew if someone around her was pregnant. So we told her about my parents and how they wouldnt EVER cope with something like this, I was only 17 after all. I told my mom the same day, and she talked me into an abortion. My bf didnt want to hear of it, but he supported my decision all the same. I had an abortion 3 days before my 18th b-day. I was 7 weeks along. I cried and cried and didnt think I could make it. The day after my abortion, I told my bf I wanted to start trying for a baby in a month. He didnt say anything. We werent trying, because he didnt want another abortion and neither did i. I came to my senses. But i never forgave my mom, for not letting me choose. Exactly a year after I found out I was pregnant, I found that Im pregnant yet again. This time, I told my bf and his family, and not my family. I moved in with him and his parents, We told my parents, when I was 4 month and by the time, it had hit them, there was no going back option. We saw them on the weekends and all were "fine".
On feb 4th, the police knocked on the door to announce that his mom had died in a car crash and his dad was brain dead. He died on Feb 7th, less than 12 hours later, Early on feb 8th, I gave birth to a beautiful babygirl. I was 26 weeks along, and 5 days later she died. She didnt make it because she was critically ill. or so they said. we burried his parents on feb 17th and my daughter next to them, on feb 21st.
Its always easier to be mad at the world, and I was, for taking away his parents, but it cost me my daughters life. I was so stressed I went into labor, (10 cm dilated by the time we reached the hospital).

All im saying is, I know its hard, i know you have a tough road ahead, but many girls have stepped in that route and came out with successful stories. trust me, you can forgive yourself, you are doing the best you can for that child, but dont stress PLEASE. as for your ex, we are not required to forgive the ones that dont want to be forgiven, if we do, its because we are bigger people. I told you my story not so that you can feel sorry for me, but so you can feel happy for yourself atleast a lil bit. You have LIFE inside of you, and No ONe, is more precious than that life, try to cherish it, and enjoy it. Life may throw things at you that you are not prepared for, and then, you will be begging to be where you are now. So be grateful and go with god

I know how you feel. I watched my newborn daughter go through hell with doctors, in venilators, and all I could do as a mother was watch and pray for the best. Im so so so sorry, you are stronger than you think, and You and Your boyfriend will make it. How old is she? Email me if and when you have time. We lost our daughter right after my bf lost both his parents in a car accident. Ask lots of questions from the doctors, everything you can think of to ask, and try to find different ways to deal with this. I know the information is gonna fly through your brain, but it will help you in the long run. You will always search for answers.

possible, yes, but very rare. the possibility of you getting pregnant because of precum is higher I would think

im sorry for your loss and you have the right to be mad at the whole world, let alone this whole website. The fact remains tho that we cant help the ones that have past but try to make better of ourselves. I dont think i read your forums when u posted them, but i lost my 5 day old babygirl in feb too, so i know EXACTLY how that feels. I know how u want another baby, like this is what your body needs. Trust me, I argue with everyone over this, but you have to give yourself sometime.

Atleast find out what went wrong exactly, let your body rest for a half a year, if you get pregnant a year from now, your baby will be just as precious. I went on vacation recently and saw one of my family. She had lost her child at one point in time and thought that she could "replace" the pain with love if she was to bring another child into the world. (what i thought, also). She got pregnant and gave to a beautiful babygirl who happens to be slow because of the stress and depression she was dealing with during her pregnancy. This girl cant live a normal life because her mom was selfish and put her own feelings before hers. Please give someone a life to live, when you really can handle it. Its not fair to take the joys of living from someone whos alive.

trust me, when i was pregnant i lost it a good couple of times. One time, over a wendy’s potato because my bf got it for me in 45 min and not that second, so i went hysteric and started driving around the city not knowing what to do and crying so much i couldnt see. I always cried for food, i had to tell ppl around me pretty quick because of the jerk i was being. I remmebr falling asleep on the couch one time and waking up and crying, running to the store for some airfreshner, because the couch "smelt". MANY weird cravings, my fav: garden salad+plain yogurt+ lemonjuice+ranch dressing+ coconut+pineapple & finally rasberries, and if i didnt have that, id kill somebody. You’ll get over it in a lil while tho so just take it easy and do what u feel and eat what u want.

Babies get attracted to alot of things in a person, but I had never heard that one. I heard that if you ARE pregnant and girls come to you all the time you are having a boy and if boys come to you all the time, youre having a girl. But a blood test could let u know:)