Amber

Just because you can afford a baby, doesn’t mean you are mentally ready to be a mother. A baby doesn’t just need money. It will depend on YOU for everything. NOT your parents. It isn’t very fair to get pregnant on purpose just to have a baby because it’s cute, and it’s a part of you and your boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend both work, who will watch the baby? and if you hire a nany, your baby is going to be raised by someone else and NOT you. And if you work AND go to school, when are you going to make time for your baby? Also, how will you get into college if you have a baby to care for? You can’t make a good living by the income of two teen age jobs. Also, what if you get laid off? What will you fall back on? That’s the whole point of getting a CAREER. JOB and CAREER are two totally different things. With a CAREER, you can fall back on something, apply for unemployment, still have benefits…etc. Oh, and what if you and your boyfriend break up. I know you may thing you’ll be together forever, and perhaps you will, but there IS a chance you wont. What then? What if your baby gets sick and needs expensive operations or medications? What if something happens to your parents? Because you can’t rely on your parents to raise your baby. That defeats the whole purpose of being a mother. Babies aren’t pets that you can ask other people to come take care of for a while while you’re out. You will have NO “I’m going out to a party” because you put your baby FIRST. When you’re 15, you’re supposed to go out to parties, out to the mall or movies with your friends, have sleep overs, and experience college, and life as an adult WITHOUT a kid. BE 15…experience all that first. By not thinking of all these things, that only proves more that you’re not ready to be a mother. Be fair to your parents and be fair to yourself. And be fair to a baby.

Hmm…why would he file harassment? If anyone should file harassment, it should be you it sounds like. And did you buy the house together? Did you buy any of the items in your home together, because if so, he should be taking part responsibility for paying those bills. He has a responsibility to you and to those bills. I’m not sure about this stuff, I’m a teenager, but I would think that he would HAVE to pay the bills. Talk to his dad in private and tell him everything (if he’s a reasonable man of course) just so he knows that his son is lying. Don’t file for divorce yet…that way he HAS to pay those bills with you. And if he isn’t paying the bills and leaving them all to you, take him to court or something. Find a lawyer, explain your situation and see if they can possibly do some probono. And once you come to some sort of agreement in court, then file for divorce. Most likely, the judge will have him help you pay off the bills. And once you get a divorce, he will have to pay child support. If I had any money, I would send you some. I really would. I go to an expensive school, and my church is helping me pay with incoming donations and I wish I could do that for you. But I will do what I CAN do…and that is pray for you and your two sons. You deserve better and you WILL recieve better. I’m praying for you.

Girl, you’re a total inspiration! 🙂 You made it against all odds, and God wouldn’t have brought you this far, to let you fall. You’ve got no where to go but up 🙂 Hey, I’d like to be friends and chat with you. Just remember that God never let’s you go through something you can’t handle 🙂 I’ll help you and talk to you if you ever need someone. I’d really like to get to know you…congrats…you really are an inspiration! 🙂

Wait hun 🙂 I’m fifteen as well and my boyfriend and I are so in love…I know adults don’t think teens can know what love is, but I know that we do…maybe not the full extent of it, but we do know love. TRUST ME, I KNOW EXACTLY HOW TEMPTING IT IS….but waiting would be the best thing to do. Just think about it, making love for the first time on your wedding night…It’d be perfect. That’s what my boyfriend and I plan on doing and it was actually his idea. I was willing to make love with him once I turned 18, but…he told me that he knew it meant a lot to me and it meant a lot to him that we wait. It’ll be so worth it. If he really loves, you he’ll wait. Trust me, I want to have sex with him all the time, and he wants to as well…but we both know it’s our hormones and that waiting is much better. Just because you want to, doesn’t mean there is anything wrong. I want to, but I want to wait more….You’re not ready, that is obvious, so definitely wait 🙂 It’ll make it a million times more special, you’ll be ready, and it’ll make you want each other even more once it finally happens. Being a teen means that you probably wouldn’t appreciate the full beauty of sex….and sex is a beautiful thing. You are worth waiting for 🙂 And if he loves you, he’ll respect that and wait for you. Goodluck! 🙂

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I agree, you should take him to court if he doesn’t wanna help. It’s just as much his responsibility for this child as it is yours. If he didn’t wanna go to jail, then he should have used some sort of contreaception. That’s not fair. He’s technically an adult, so there’s no reason why he should be such a coward and an idiot. He’s a grown up so he should act like one. Yes, because he is an adult, he would go to prison for statutory rape because you are a minor. My bf just turned 18 and I’m 15 so we can’t have sex…even if we could, we are waiting till mairrage..but just be careful when confronting him about ur child. If you want him to help, tell him that he needs to pay child support or be there or whatever you want him to do or else you will take him to court and he will go to prison tried as an adult raping a minor. You have the control here…take advantage of it 🙂 Use girl power honey. I’m sorry that he’s being such a jerk.

Well did your doctor have you take a regular pregnancy test like a store bought one, or did she take on the medical ones they make women take in the hospital? If it’s the one where you take it in the hospital, you probably are pregnant, even thought there’s a chance you still might not be. My mom and grandma never got morning sickness or any of the bad symptoms…they said they had the best pregnancies so maybe you are, you’re just one of the lucky ones who doesn’t get all the horrible symptoms…did you plan on becoming pregnant or no? 😮

You guys should probably take a pregnancy test. Oooh vet medicine…that should be awesome. And if you are pregnant, don’t give up on your dreams of becoming a vet 🙂 And dentistry sounds cool too. they make really good money.

Be stromg Dayna…be strong for yourself and your lost baby. And be strong for your parents and little sis too. I know it’s gotta be the hardest thing to do right now after everything that you are going through, but trust me, it’ll be okay. I’m here, and so is everyone else here on this site. You’re not alone. I’m praying for you. And it probably would be a good thing to talk about it to someone. I lost my aunt and it was the hardest thing for me because she was the one who held our whole family together and what helped me was thinking about how I have to go on and be strong and make something out of myself to have a bright future…for her. To make her proud. And I thought about how she was okay…she was in God’s hands. There was nothing I could do to bring her back, but I could do something to make her and the Lord proud. Just be strong and do your best to go on for your baby. And it’s okay to feel lost, sad, helpless…just keep praying and don’t give up hope. I’m here whenever you need me girly, always will be. You’re always in my prayers