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March 31, 2011 at 8:42 am #28130KenziiRose
So, Im 15 and me and my boyfriend recently got pregnant. Up until now, i had thought if i got pregnant, id get an abortion, but were keeping it. Theres a life inside me that needs me. We didn’t try to make it happen, it just kind of did. We talked about it and decided that would be the best thing. Im still a freshman in highschool but, im hoping to plan everything out to still graduate with my class. In or out of school.
I know, im young&its probably a bad choice, but we think its the right one. were gunna work hard to keep everything in line&have our jobs as long as possible[i work at a seasonal resturaunt so i left like a twig&im coming back like a balloon!!].
We are pretty happy&a little excited. but still really scared!
please dont hate, i just wanted to get out and say it.March 31, 2011 at 6:25 pm #28131Laremar
God luck to you in your pregnancy!! I am so glad to hear you and your boyfriend are keeping the baby. Abortion is a horrible thing, and very painful, I hear. My husband and I are looking into adoption, and I know how hard it is for young girls to give their babies up..so I truly commend you both for being adults about it. How are your families taking it? I really hope they are supporting your decisions. Good luck and God Bless!!
LaraMarch 31, 2011 at 6:32 pm #28132Anonymous
If you work hard and do your best, you can give your baby a beautiful life. It’s good that your boyfriend is being supportive, and I’m glad you decided to choose life and keep your baby. It’s gunna be hard, sure. But don’t ever give up,a nd you’ll make it :).April 1, 2011 at 2:53 am #28133Anonymous
Im 15, and i had my bubs just over 3 weeks ago. people told me i was making the biggest mistake ever by keeping my baby.. but honestly its been the most amazing thing ever being a mum 🙂 .. so what if we are 15.. im sure there are alot of older mums out there that are alot worse than us!.. good luck with your bubba xxApril 1, 2011 at 2:57 am #28134TaylaFaith
Hey there! You won’t regret keeping your baby; your baby will love you for it! Anyways, all the best, and congrats. I took some online courses in high school (from home) and they went really well. Let me know if you ever need anything, and all the best 🙂April 1, 2011 at 8:29 pm #28135MaryAlle
i envy you actually, me and my boyfriend have been trying, and i miscarried once, we live about four hours away,but it doesnt ruin our love , i sound a bit stupid for saying that i want one, i am actually 15 also, but i feel that it would help me. good luck!April 2, 2011 at 8:35 am #28137KenziiRose
Thanks everyone[: I love the support.
I have dissappointing news though. I was just going by my period[being two/three weeks late&being sexually active&trying for a baby ud think so too]&I didnt take a test and I got my period this morning.
But me&my boyfriend talked about it and were gunna try. We want a baby[:
I really love all the nice comments you ladies posted[:<3April 3, 2011 at 8:01 am #28140Meg11
I am really glad that when facing the reality of pregnancy you were ready to embrace motherhood, however with no finding out that you are not pregnant, would you see it as wise to wait it out a while longer before purposely trying? How old is your bf? Do you BOTH have steady jobs? Do you have your drivers license yet? Insurance? I mean if you are going to purposely try I just want to make sure that you have your ducks in a row….April 5, 2011 at 3:00 pm #28146Anonymous
Honey, please listen to me. By getting pregnant right now, you are putting a huge burden on those around you. There is no way you can afford a baby right now and you are still to young to even drive. Your going to need help whether from family or government assistance. Hard-working peoples taxes essentially go to government assistance programs. Tax payers don’t mind supporting those who really need it and it is a slap in the face when someone gets pregnant on purpose and then has to live off of everyone else. I know you are young so I am urging you to PLEASE take a step back and look at those around you. Is it fair to them? What can you give a baby right now? love? It takes a lot more than love to raise a child. Please re-consider. Wait until you have a stable life. Children need stability and you can’t give them that at only 15. You just can’t. I’m sorry.April 13, 2011 at 10:21 pm #28173KenziiRose
Meg11, We both have stable jobs, He is 17 with his lisence. We both have money, insurance and more. We feel we could take care of the baby and give it everything we can. We have our ducks in a nice row. We have stopped trying, but if it does happen we are going to keep it.
Maeghanalyson, Both me and my boyfriend have very supportive families. We both have well paying jobs and we aren’t going to need government assistance. I come from a wealthy family and my father said if we were truly struggling he would help us. When we found out I wasn’t we did talk about it but we both wanted a baby and believe we can raise it. We have stopped trying, but if it does happen, then we will keep it.April 17, 2011 at 1:59 am #28177Amber
Just because you can afford a baby, doesn’t mean you are mentally ready to be a mother. A baby doesn’t just need money. It will depend on YOU for everything. NOT your parents. It isn’t very fair to get pregnant on purpose just to have a baby because it’s cute, and it’s a part of you and your boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend both work, who will watch the baby? and if you hire a nany, your baby is going to be raised by someone else and NOT you. And if you work AND go to school, when are you going to make time for your baby? Also, how will you get into college if you have a baby to care for? You can’t make a good living by the income of two teen age jobs. Also, what if you get laid off? What will you fall back on? That’s the whole point of getting a CAREER. JOB and CAREER are two totally different things. With a CAREER, you can fall back on something, apply for unemployment, still have benefits…etc. Oh, and what if you and your boyfriend break up. I know you may thing you’ll be together forever, and perhaps you will, but there IS a chance you wont. What then? What if your baby gets sick and needs expensive operations or medications? What if something happens to your parents? Because you can’t rely on your parents to raise your baby. That defeats the whole purpose of being a mother. Babies aren’t pets that you can ask other people to come take care of for a while while you’re out. You will have NO “I’m going out to a party” because you put your baby FIRST. When you’re 15, you’re supposed to go out to parties, out to the mall or movies with your friends, have sleep overs, and experience college, and life as an adult WITHOUT a kid. BE 15…experience all that first. By not thinking of all these things, that only proves more that you’re not ready to be a mother. Be fair to your parents and be fair to yourself. And be fair to a baby.October 9, 2011 at 8:07 pm #28372Leopard
Congratulations on the new little life inside of you. I believe you have made the right decision and I wish you the best of luck in the future.
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