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My advice would be to not freak yourself out until you take the test. Although I strongly believe gut feelings are usually right. If you are pregnant you are in an ok situation in my mind. Sure it’s not going to be a walk in the park but it is entirely do able. You will be preg for 9 months only leaving another 9 months for school (you said a year and a half left). You can wing it you will be pregnant in school and then once you have the baby you can put the child in daycare. If you have to you can use student loans or try to save up money before the baby comes to cover it. So keep your chin up you have come a long way. Best of luck. Jessica

I also don’t think you are misusing the site. In fact people like you is why I started on this site to begin with to give my point of view and advise because I was once in those shoes. I think it is great that you and your bf are being responsible and getting opinions. But I think a lot of the girls on here feel very strongly (including myself) that your very fortunate for your situation and should wait until your married next year. However you have to do what is best for you and your bf we are just trying to give you the advise you asked for. I do wish you the best of luck no matter what you decide to do. Jessica

Just take a test and you will know. Not taking the test is not going to change the outcome. Best of luck. Jessica

Is Medicaid an option? I think it is very important that babies are insured from day one and you should be too. I don’t think it is worth taking a risk as far as trying to wing it without insurance. I know it’s not the ideal but it is better then nothing. Jessica

I Anna nice to meet you. My name is Jessica and I got pregnant at 17 almost 18. I would strongly advise getting married first. If you are sure you are with your true sole mate what is the harm in waiting 9 months until after the wedding. If not why don’t you just elope that way you can have a baby before September. Down the line you don’t want for your child to ask how many years you have been married and put two and two together that you were pregnant before you got married. And then always wonder well did they get married because of me? Or think that it’s ok for them to do the same get pregnant without being married. I just think you have such a wonderful thing and you should take advantage of it, wait until your married. I wish you the best of luck. Jessica

Autumn,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t know if there is such a thing as prenatal depression but it does sound like you are very stressed. This I can relate to BIG TIME when I was pregnant 6 years ago my story was EXACTLY the same as yours. My sister was into drugs but really really bad. She tried committing suicide and was in drug rehab finally after my daughter was born. This was soooo hard for me while I was pregnant and needless to say my parents were up to their max. My parents too are yellers and I felt I was not bringing my daughter into a calm environment. My family too looked normal from the outside, nice house, nice cars, good jobs, nice parents and three kids. My pregnancy was very stressful, I loved being pregnant but still to this day I look back and know how stressed I was. Well when I had my daughter I remember feeling bad in the hospital knowing I was not going to a safe, calm place. However when I had her things seemed to calm down and I did a lot with her. I played with her and held her and spent most of my time one on one with her in my room. I know that sounds really funny but it was great. It was like I had my own space but in my parents house. I did everything for her, woke up in the night, bought everything for her and this made me feel empowered. I was 18 when I had her and I know you are still in high school maybe if you get a part time job or do some babysitting. The key is to get into your own routine. I lived with my parents for two years and I did spend quite a bit of time at my bf’s house. Then I moved out and bought my own place and it was wonderful. I guess the point of me telling you my story is because when I read your blog I saw me and where I was when I was pregnant. It does work out, just because you live with your parents segregate yourself a little when your son is born. I did and my daughter was not at all introduced to stress. You are going to be a great mother just follow your instincts and enjoy your pregnancy. Understand there is nothing you can do to change what your brother is doing. And nothing is more important then the needs of your child. Your dad will get over it, this too shall pass. I am here anytime to chat. I do feel for you, just try not to let this stuff stress you out. Jessica

Driving yourself crazy is not going to change the result. Make the appointment for the Doctor’s as soon as you can. But stress plays a hugh toll on not getting your period. Best of luck. Jessica

Congratulations. Best of luck to you. Jessica

I’m sorry for the waiting and worrying your going thru. I did not have placenta previa but was on bed rest for a short period of time during my pregnancy. My advice would be to think positive it could be worse atleast you know what to do to try to prevent the bleeding. You are very fortunate that you are able to do that as well. I know the days are long but make use of them. Do you do scrapbooking? Or write letters to both of your children. Good news with the 4 year old is he/she will not remember. Worst case your bf and child come and visit you in the hospital, it’s all for a good reason to make sure the baby is ok. Best of luck. Jessica

Ummm im not sure. I know me personally I don’t get a regular period never have really and I have had my period for over 12 years. When I was pregnant with my daughter I knew right away I was pregnant because I was very sick and as big as a house but I did get my period for the first two months. Some people don’t even look pregnant ever. I did not see the show but it is interesting. Jessica

Best of luck to you. Keep us posted. Jessica

I feel for you I really do, you have a hard decision to make. But if he is not ready for a baby and you have only been together for a month why are you and he not using protection. Not using protection is how you get pregnant. What did he think was going to happen? Honestly you need to do what you feel is best for both you and your baby. This is a guy you have not been with for very long so he may or may not be around and you are going to have to live with this decision. But the way he has reacted, not taking responsibility for his actions speaks for itself. I wish you the best of luck in making this decision. Just keep in mind if you are pregnant the baby did not ask to be here and your the only one that can protect it. Jessica

Just go to a primary care and have them take a look at you. They will run some tests and should be able to give you some answers or point you in the right direction. It seems you are not pregnant so you need to find out what if anything is going on. Best of luck. Jessica