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November 3, 2008 at 5:17 am #22958Steph91892
I am 16 years old and 2 months pregnant. I was on the depo shot and still managed to get pregnant. My boyfriend (of about 2 years) is extremely supportive (as is his family). We are defiantly planning on keeping the baby as, to us, getting pregnant while on the depo shot is a sign that it is meant to be. I am just scared to tell my parents and family because I come from a very conservative family (no sex until you are married). I am sure there are other girls out there that have been in my shoes and would just like a little advice on how to break the news, etc. I know each situation is different but just some pointers would be nice.
-StephanieNovember 5, 2008 at 9:49 pm #22997Anonymous
Well, first of all, congrats on your pregnancy! I am so glad that you are going to keep your baby! 🙂
Sometimes writing a letter to your parents is a good idea because then they kind of have to ‘hear you out’.
Another idea is to tell them while you are out at a restaurant for supper or something (hey, they can’t exactly kill you in public, right?).
Other than that, you can just sit them down and tell them straight out.
If you go through the forums you will notice that there are a lot of posts about “Telling the parents” or “How to tell my parents”, and if you look at those you can find a lot of advice.
Let us know how it works out, ok hun?November 6, 2008 at 1:59 am #22998rocky51
i think the best way is to write a letter.
leave it somewhere they will see it before you go to school, or work.
tell them everything.
if i were you i would say something like this
mom and dad, im telling you this because your my parents and you deserve the truth in any situation.i know your beliefs and your views so im very scared to how you will react to what im about to say
im blank weeks pregnant. the father and his parents already know and are very supportive. ive done alot of researh. then throw some satistics at them. tell them what your baby has already developed. tell them where you will be getting help. like wic. even tell them about this website if you want.
tell them you know if must feel like a huge burdon has plopped in there laps and your very sorry but the deed is done.
ive decided im going to keep it. there is no changing my mind. im sorry
or however you think is best.November 6, 2008 at 5:25 pm #23007jessey223
I think the best way to do it is face to face but thats me. I think you should sit everyone down and have your bf there if you want him there. Truth is there is no easy way to break this news. Your parents are going to be disappointed and a little taken back by this but thats normal. Just know that they will come around. It may not be right away or next month but it will happen. Best of luck to you. JessicaJanuary 17, 2009 at 12:23 am #23813LilysDoubleTrouble
^^I did it kind of like that. I worte a note and told them I was spending the night at a freinds house. I went to school the next day and when I came home I did get yelled at but know they are so glad to have their two beautiful grandchildran!January 17, 2009 at 9:22 am #23827Evangeline
Hi there, the other girls have given you great advice already and I agree 100% that you should tell them the truth, it’ll show you’re being responsible and are ready to face up to your actions. Make sure they hear it from you and no one else, that’ll just cause unwanted negative vibes. If you need extra support, take along a supportive, trusted family member.
Sometimes adults also need reassurance, so tell them that despite your choices in the past, you are not making a mistake now and that you plan on keeping the baby and raising him/her. You can also ask them for their support, tell them that their input is important to you and that you value their advice in your decision making:)
Tension creates tension, so tell them in a calm environment. Try and eliminate interruptions, there’s nothing worse than having to re-start a difficult conversation.
Expect some strong emotions, they just need time to process everything you’ve told them. Be open to listening to their opinions and feelings, you expect them to do the same for you, right? But at the same time, don’t let them change your mind about keeping the baby.
I really hope this helps in some way, let us know how it goes.
Hugs, Evangeline.January 17, 2009 at 11:10 pm #23846sophia roses mummy
I think the best way to do it is face to face but thats me. I think you should sit everyone down and have your bf there if you want him there. Truth is there is no easy way to break this news. Your parents are going to be disappointed and a little taken back by this but thats normal. Just know that they will come around. It may not be right away or next month but it will happen. Best of luck to you. luv gabby xoJanuary 22, 2009 at 3:44 pm #23876tpsw123
you’ve made the hardest decision, keeping your baby…Im sure your parents will support your decision.
I come from a very strong catholic family and I didnt tell my mum until after I had the abortion, however she was so supportive & upset that I felt that I couldnt go to her…
Good luck & keep us posted. xxJanuary 26, 2009 at 6:43 pm #23913liquidsunshine13
hey well i think the best thing is to just sit down maybe with just one of your parents if you find one of them particularly easy to talk to and they can help break the news to your other parent. If you’re not finding it easy to sit down and just come out with it ( really there is no right time or right way) then maybe put it down in writing and give it to them. That way if you’re worried about how they might react you dont even necessarily have to be there while they read so you can always talk to them later when the news has sunk in a bit. hope that helps 🙂 good luck xxxFebruary 2, 2009 at 6:27 am #23958tracymom
Well if you have not told them yet…I wish you all the best! CONGRATULATIONS MOMMY! YOU are not barren – blessed are you. Just remeber that they might be angry , but they will probably realise that it’s all done. Don’t let them talk you into an abortion! God bless you for choosing to keep what is rightfully YOURS! This is a very exciting time! Concentrate on the positive! You can do this, and many have even done it on their own! when your baby is here, your parents will dote and all will be forgotten! It might be best to have another adult with you to support you when you tell your parents! To keep the situation under control! What about your boyfriends mom? You are a blessed woman to have a supportive boyfriend!
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