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Sounds like a tough spot to be in 🙁 I think your mother is motivated out of love for you still. Do keep talking with her about everything. She’s done a lot for you and sometimes when I don’t think so, those people are still the people with great advice. Of course she loves her little girl and of course she wants the best for her grandchild. Maybe if she got to know the bf better first it would help? She might just want to make sure he’s committed to the relationship and won’t every leave you and her grandchild. That is a loving and very caring place she is coming from then. It is a lot safer to know that the father of your child won’t leave you….that’s why a binding marriage relationship where you both promise to love (which means an action of loving, not necessarily always a feeling) is the safest and most rewarding. So, I guess dialoguing with your mom some more might help you see where she is coming from possibly….and it is always nicest if you can maintain a healthy relationship with her. Let her know you love her and care about her thoughts….and also consider what is in the long run healthiest for your little on. Congrats and my prayers as you make these sorts of decisions!

I like the notebook idea. I’m sure they’ll appreciate getting into the mind of their parent and learning from all you learned.

Yes I agree with Teka, be honest and humble and go from there. Of course you’ll never feel ready, but once you let it out I think you’ll feel better. You have my prayers. You can do it mama!

Oh I am so glad to hear that! Way to go momma 🙂 And give your momma a big thanks too.

If it’s hard to consider the situation, think of your baby and not the father. Please think of what will be best for your baby to grow up with and the role models you want your child to see. If he is willing to get help and really change, maybe it is the right thing to stick by his side, love, and support him. Sometimes love means choosing to care for that person. If it will be dangerous for your child (physically, emotionally….), then he it is not a good idea. Do not let his threats make the decision. That would be making a decision out of fear….and really what he does with his life is what HE does, not you. You must make your own decisions and live with those, so do what is right yourself and that is the best you can do. Prayers and blessings.

I love names as well! Sounds like you have a great list going. Your children are lucky their mom is enjoying this process 🙂 I think it’s really cool that names have meanings…sometimes it’s too bad that pretty names have not so nice meanings, but I like that you can find cool names with wonderful meanings. I hope I do this for my children and then I’ll get to tell them…do you know what YOUR name means? it’ll be a special moment.

First off I am really proud of you for making your decision and following through even when it means losing support from your family. That’s an incredible choice and a beautiful sacrifice that you’ve made for your little boy/girl. You can make it!!

I would have to say that the father of your child doesn’t sound like he’ll be around much anyway. His choices seem a bit selfish considering the situation. I love that you care about him, but please do consider what is BEST for your child. Maybe the father would swing around, but I wouldn’t put my trust in that. And I would be very careful on what kind of influences can be around my child. I think the mother/protector in you already knows this, but just needs some support and encouragement. Do you have any friends who are supportive in your mommy journey? Have you looked for community resources. optionline.org could connect you and help you figure out plans for the future.

I’m excited for the beautiful baby you will have soon! Keep it up chica 🙂

Take a deep breath. You can only go a day at a time. I will be praying for your baby’s safety and your peace of mind. Do you have anyone near and close to who will support you through this?

Hi! I’m not a huge fan of extreme baby talk either…(but I think with my own child I’ll probably be pretty bad myself!) And it definitely is not fun to have your wishes ignored (especially when it comes to your own child!) But here is something to consider: I would never have known otherwise if I wasn’t studying speech and hearing sciences (which includes courses on Child language development)….but baby talk, actually termed “motherese” or “parentese” is considered to be helpful in a child’s development of language. As a baby, they have the ability to learn language much faster than if you or I tried to learn a second language. Things like “motherese” can actually help them distinguish different words from the stream of noise….I don’t know all the facts but you could look up on google something like “is motherese important” to find out more. That being said, most babies will learn language well regardless. However it is always important to engage, talk, and read with your child a lot over their growing years!

Hello dear. First off I need to tell you I would give you a huge hug if you were sitting right here in my living room with me. I am incredibly sorry to hear about your abortion and the pain you are facing. I have made choices in my own life that were wrong. The only way I have found to keep living with those mistakes and with myself is seeking forgiveness. It is hard to believe that God can forgive us or wants to, but he has made a way to pay for all our sins because he amazingly still loves us. I am so proud that you are sharing your story. Is there someone you trust that you could talk with? Try checking whiteaswoolministries.org or rachelsvineyard.org. They are a ministries for post-abortion healing and there are women there who have suffered quietly through the choice of an abortion and have found healing. Also, if you go to optionline.org and put in your zipcode you can find pregnancy centers that most often have resources to help those suffering after a loss. I understand that you are hurting badly and I want you to know you aren’t suffering in this alone. I will be praying for you.

I know you posted a while ago, but how are things going now? I hope you have found some help in the situation. Do you have anyone or know of any support groups in your area that could talk with you? optionline.org might be a good resource or they could send you to someone they know. And if you are pregnant again they can help you for sure.

have things gotten any better? any more thoughts on why? I moved last year to a new city and it took a while to adjust. It gets lonely when you don’t have many connections or people to talk to.