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The guidelines say to gain no more than 25-35 pounds (which I probably had in water weight alone!). Some women just don’t gain like others, water or not. Just as long as you’re eating healthy and your OBGYN isn’t concerned, you should be fine. Weight wise, a lot of women gain less in their second pregnancy, but show more due to the fact that your abdomen muscles don’t have as much work to do stretching wise.
Most women show much sooner in their second pregnancy. This is my first and I didn’t really ‘pop’ until about 26 weeks. It all depends on your body type.
I started to notice changes in my body before I even missed the (barely) periods I was having due to being on Depo for 2 years then the Nuvaring. I was told that with a condition I have that I couldn’t get pregnant anyway 😛 But whoops!
The thing that tipped it for me was noticing my areolas started to darken, then came the constant sleepiness, followed by not even spotting. &tada!
Most practitioners and sources I’ve consulted say 25-35 is the normal weight gain, each of our bodies varies though! If you were underweight before conception your body may be telling you to make more!
I’ve probably gained as much or more than you, don’t worry. I think the stress does it a lot for me…with her father not being very nice, as I believe is your case too unfortunately. I eat when I’m hungry, so I assume baby is hungry. It’s better you eat and gain too much, than gain to little and endanger the little one.
Do you plan to breastfeed? I definitely do, which should help with the weight loss thank goodness.
These tests can’t tell you 100% anything, darling. they give you a guesstimated ratio due to the format of your chromosomes, even a 1/5 change is not absolute.
I was unable to do these tests due to moving and having to get insurance in my early stages, but you know I’m glad I didn’t in retrospect. If there’s no thought of termination, they only make you worry so.
Just keep yourself healthy to keep your baby healthy, that’s all you can do for the time being 🙂
Hm, that’s strange. I’m on public assistance and went to the welfare/TANF/jobs and family services office (what it’s called here in Ohio) and got a casenumber/worker and insurance from that day forward on Medicaid. They set you up with medicaid until you choose CareSource, Anthem Medicaid, and there’s another one…
I would just go to your local office and call low-cost/free clinics because this doesn’t sound right at all. Calling these places never really gets you anywhere.
It’s perfectly normal, some women are just more sensitive than others. If you’re bleeding now, it’ll probably happen after intercourse and pap smears as well. Just as long as it’s the brownish color you’re talking about, suggesting it’s old blood!, it’s okay. If you ever get fresh red blood though, I’d call your OB A.S.A.P.
I’m definitely not guilt tripping about not breast feeding your baby, but thought I throw in a few corrections.
Breast feeding only burns about 500-800 calories a day.
And no matter how much technology has advanced, nature does breast milk better– there is no ‘almost like Mom’s milk.’ Our bodies change as our child grows, it will always contain at least 100 ingredients unattainable through formula supplementation. As you feed the milk is different at the beginning than at the end (there are more calories at the end of a feeding, so the baby feels full and is less likely to keep feeding until they spit up unlike formula), altering all the time to fit nutritional needs.
Pros for the Breast:
-Your body changes the composition as needed.
-Breastfed babies are less likely to suffer from gas and spitting up.
-No expiration date, contamination.
-Babies are generally never allergic to Mom’s milk.
-It’s a natural laxative.
-Boosts the immune system, antibodies consumed every time at the nipple, thus less likely to get a multitude of sicknesses (and recover more quickly if they do)
-Less chubby as the baby/your body knows when to stop feeding.
-Suggested it slightly increases the childs IQ.
-Stronger mouths, better teeth later on in life.
-Convenient
-Cheaper
-Quicker postpartum recovery.Pros for the Formula:
-Longer satisfied baby due to needing longer to digest.
-Easier to monitor intake.
-More freedom for Parents.
-Fewer demands if you’re already exhausted physically.
-No pesky breastfeeding clothes.
-Fewer dietary demands/restrictionsI’m due April 20th and will be breast-feeding as long as possible, as everything I’ve researched says blatantly it is most beneficial.
If you decide to go this route I would tell the nurses to put a sign on where you baby sleeps/lays in the hospital nursery indicating he/she is breastfed, no pacifiers/bottle feeding until the baby has developed a strong suckle and is used to the breast! Some little ones have trouble ‘latching’ to the nipple, often you have to try different positions or even get nipple shields. I figure if this happens I will breast pump milk for her bottle.
A few basic reasons I choose to breastfeed:
Your body changes it’s milk nutrient to fit the growing child’s needs. Lactoferrin provides optimal absorption of iron and protects the gut from harmful bacteria; lipases assist in digestion of fats; and special growth factors and hormones contribute to optimal growth and development.
Mothers milk/colostrum is the baby’s first building of immune system. Artificially fed babies have higher rates of middle ear infections, pneumonia, and cases of gastroenteritis (stomach flu) and breastfed babies generally mount a more effective response to childhood immunizations. Especially important if the baby is premature!
Skin to skin contact with your infant, this breast-feeding bond soothes and makes an automatic deep emotional impact on your infant. Where better than hearing Mommy’s heart and feeling her breathe!
A lot of times it helps you DROP THAT BABY WEIGHT! Not going through total engorgement of the breasts after birth is a plus too…I hear it’s mighty painful. Breast-feeding helps the uterus contract back, seriously lessening Mother’s risk of postpartum hemorrhage.
Just do your research, it will help you decide for yourself. :laugh:
It depends for every woman, depending on how long your abs will hold out. I’m 21 weeks and outwardly still just look fat. I’m on a birthclub April 2007 forum where everyone updates their belly pictures every month and it ranges from still looking very thin with a little pudge to looking as if they may have twins in there when they definitely do not ;).
It generally takes longer to show if you’re a first time mom.
If it says it can disrupt your normal menstrual flow, then that’s probably what is happening, especially if implantation did occur. Just watch closely for symptoms this next month…
Well, coming from a person who has never met my father (he skipped out after he found out my mother was pregnant, MALES!). I honestly don’t think my mother had to tell me much, just that he left when he found out she was pregnant. I decided that if he didn’t want to be involved, it was definitely his loss, I bore nothing but hostility for him as a child. Child support would have been nice though! I wouldn’t suggest necessarily lying to your child, just tell them what happened in the most simple vague terms, that can get more detailed as the child grows.
Your concerns are perfectly natural, just remember your stress is your babies stress though; you can only take care of yourself the best you can and hope for the best. I’m 21 weeks and will worry for the rest of my life now :X. It will be comforting when you get to see that baby for the first time [ I haven’t even had my first official ultrasound, only a peak at the ER 🙁 ]. Also, since technology is progressing so much, they’re able to see a lot of things they may point out to worry you (spots on the brain, kidneys, etc. that turn out completely okay!).
Just take care of your body, so you take care of baby.
My aunt missed two days of her pill and boop! End up with a second little one. It’s definitely possible. I’ve heard countless stories of women getting pregnant on birth control when they don’t miss pills, especially on the "Lo" versions of the meds, it just depends. Erratic menstrual behavior can certainly be a sign.
I’m pretty thankful to be a vegetarian and just not have to worry about a lot of it, which doesn’t protect me obviously, I’ve been craving brie and feta since the start and just pout! 😀 I had heard vaguely of listeria in the beginning of my pregnancy, and accidentally was watching something on The Learning Channel about this woman losing her baby because of it. The risks may be low, but it’s still scary. She went into labor and was just bleeding everywhere on a ferry, I felt so awful for her. I just don’t like to take chances, now that I’ve fought this hard for my child, and completely relocated again, I want a healthy happy baby!
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancycomplications/listeria.html
What is Listeria?
Listeria monocytogenes is a type of bacteria that is found in water and soil. Vegetables can become contaminated from the soil, and animals can also be carriers. Listeria has been found in uncooked meats, uncooked vegetables, unpasteurized milk, foods from unpasteurized milk and processed foods. Listeria is killed by pasteurization and cooking. There is a chance that contamination may occur in ready-to-eat foods such as hot dogs and deli meats because contamination may occur after cooking and before packaging.
Can Listeriosis harm my baby?
If you are pregnant and are infected with Listeriosis, you could experience:
* Miscarriage
* Premature delivery
* Infection to the newborn
* Death to the newborn (only 22% of cases with perinatal Listeriosis result in stillbirth or neonatal death)Early treatment may prevent fetal infection and fetal death.
Do not eat hot dogs, luncheon meats or deli meats unless they are properly reheated to steaming (or 160 F): Eating out at certain restaurants that provide deli meat sandwiches such as Subway is not recommended for pregnant women since they do not reheat their deli meats. Therefore Subway recommends that pregnant women eat non-luncheon meat items such as meatball, steak & cheese, roasted chicken, seafood & crab and tuna (limit 2 servings a week).
Do not eat refrigerated pates or meat spreads.
Do not eat refrigerated smoked seafood unless it is contained in a cooked dish, such as a casserole.
There is more on the site concerning safe food handling.
Do NOT talk to his family anymore about them wanting to ‘adopt’ your child. I wouldn’t want them to try and use anything against you if they attempt in the future. You and your baby’s father have paternal rights. You’ll be the one taking care of your babelet it would seem, and possession is 9/10th of the law. Just be very apprehensive of their motives. Tell his family it is not up for discussion. Don’t be scared dollface.
Deli meat is fine if you heat it up in the microwave. The concern is that you’ll get a bacterial infection called listeria that can make you miscarry.
Avoid anything raw (sushi), reheat lunch meats, no soft cheeses such as feta or brie.
It could definitely be psychosomatic, especially if you’re no stranger to missed periods. You’ve heard of womens menstrual periods coming at the same time when they’re around each other often, perhaps it’s something similar!
Have you discussed with your doctor about your missed cycles? You definitely should to make sure every thing is okay.
In lieu of your tendency to get sick often, do you also miss your period occasionally as a rule? Are you underweight? This can definitely contribute to missed periods.
Did you and your boyfriend use any protection whatsoever/pull-out? Two weeks is a fairly long time to be missing your period. I would definitely suggest testing again, reading the directions very closely. In the morning, when your urine has had sufficient time to soak up HCG hormones is a good time.
Loss of appetite is very common for early pregnancy. Considering "morning sickness" is most prevalent in the first trimester, it can happen all the way up to the 2nd, or even throughout the entire gestation (god forbid!) Considering lack of appetite and even vomiting in the early stages, it’s not uncommon to lose weight either, which isn’t really a danger unless you’re fairly underweight to begin with.
It’s normal to get PPD before & even 18 months AFTER you have your little one. Emotions and hormones are running high combined with all the anxiety in waiting for your little one to come into the world! I’m only 18 weeks and have been pretty sad throughout my pregnancy, so it’s not so uncommon. Perhaps talk about it with your doc? Nutrition, exercise, and sun deficiencies can add up too. Hope this helps.
When it comes down to it darling, it is OUR decision! Definitely don’t let your step-Father force you into something you may very well regret for the rest of your life. I believe a woman should have the right to choose themselves, personally, in my heart, I just wasn’t able to take my baby out of the world. Even if you feel you may not be able to raise the child, there are other options, such as open adoption where the baby can grow up knowing you.
Perhaps if you decide not to, you could show your step-Father some of the abortion videos that have been listed numerous times here. I don’t think he’d have much to argue about after that.
There is always the margin of a home pregnancy test failing, be it from an error on our own part, an expired test, et cetera. If you test too early, it won’t be able to detect very low levels of HCG (pregnancy hormone it looks for). Make sure to follow the instructions, it’s good to test in the morning with a fuller bladder after you’ve missed your period (as difficult as it can be to wait).
Re-testing is always a good idea if you’re unsure!
