myangelsinheaven

There’s a point that you will just have to!!! Go to your parents and ask for help…Please! You’re parents will want to help you, and would not want you keeping them in the dark. If you try and handle this situation on your own, you could possibly make some choices you will regret, just for fear of having to face your parents?…..They may be very supportive if you are pregnant. But you will never know if you don’t give them a chance.

You said it yourself, you’re scared. People who are scared need people who love them. They will guide you, cry with you, look after you, and hug you. We will try to help you the best way we can, but your family should be your priority. Turn to them and have faith that GOD will reward you for taking responsibility for your actions. If you are pregnant, you will need a lot of support. I would advise coming clean with your parents and tell them how scared you are. We all make mistakes, but there’s a time where you have to stop making them and grow up. It may be very difficult to confess having sex with your boyfriend to your parents…..but don’t live your life hiding in fear of your secrets. I lived a life of that before I met my husband and it tore our family apart….and I left home in fear of having to tell my parents the mistakes I made while in high school. I hated who I was….but I was trying to fit in and follow all the new fads. I couldn’t tell my friends NO, so I ditched my family instead. Start new today!! I’m sure you will feel so relieved.

If you are stressing your system worrying about what has happened, you may be just late due to that. But….remember something about this point in your life. If you’re not pregnant….Phewwwww!! I’m sure you’ll say when the test is negative. But then what? Back to the boyfriend and premarital sex? You may not be so lucky next time, even inspite of your best birth control methods. (which will all fail in some way) Abstainance is the only true birth control!!
I won’t sugar coat it….I’ve heard enough stories about young girls scared out of their minds worried about what they’re going to do…..the best advise I think any mature experienced woman will give you and others in your situation is…..Don’t continue having sex with your boyfriend!!! Wait until you’re old enough and married to him. It’s common sense. Make a promise to one another that you will wait until marriage…..because then, it will be a true gift to oneanother the way God intended it to be.

Best wishes,
myangelsinheaven

Hello, and congratulations on your baby!! I am happy to hear that you and your family as well as your boyfriend are in support of the life of your baby. It is a true blessing and a gift from God. Even at your age you can see the importance of that. That is refreshing to hear. It is obvious your parents taught you some valuable lessons about love and life.

As far as your boyfriend and his family are concerned….there may be a lot of bitterness in that situation, some pride on the parts of some of them, and past hurts that have nothing to do with you and the new baby. They are trying to live after a broken marriage and there’s no telling what could have happened. Try not to take that personal and you could offer a prayer of healing for your boyfriend and his relationship with his parents. I married into an identical situation and just gave my husband support on my end. Your boyfriend may be wanting to protect you from the bad relations that his parents demonstrate toward one another…and by his actions so far…I can see a young man who is trying to possibly break the chain of dysfunction that he’s lived. He may be waiting for them to prove themselves worthy of being part of his child’s life. That is what my husband did as well. The cycle of unhealthy relationships has to be broken somewhere for our next generations to live better than what we are witnessing in today’s society.

You are doing your part in that effort as well. By accepting this child, YOUR child, and by your parents supporting you giving THEIR grandchild life, you will be telling the world in your small community…….WE DON”T KILL INNOCENT BABIES…WE LET THEM GROW IN THEIR MOTHER’S WOMB, WE LET THEM TAKE THEIR FIRST BREATH AND WE GIVE THEM LIFE!!

If more young pregnant mothers, wed or unwed along with their mothers and fathers would follow this humane Christian way of thinking, we can wipe out the sin of aborting babies.

May God bless you and your family for your beautiful decision. THEIR IS HOPE for future generation of youth.

Christ’s Peace,
myangelsinheaven

If the test comes out negative, may I suggest that you could take that opportunity to discuss your relationship with your boyfriend? I hope you’re not trying to get pregnant on purpose….especially if you and he are not married. Think about what you’re doing and make some mature decisions as a young couple to abstain from sex until marriage. It is wonderful to know and feel love….but to respect your partner until you commit to one another completely in marriage…..is true love!!

My bumper sticker reads…
Right is right…even if nobody is doing it. Wrong is wrong….even if everyone is doing it.

Hopefully, people will apply that saying to their everyday lives…but its intent is directed especially to the situations dealing with premarital sex, and abortion.

I will be thinking about you and your situation, Good luck!
myangelsinheaven

Hi Luckylove,
Everyone posted wonderful advice to you. I hope you’ve really heard what they’ve tried to tell you.

I will however add, that the life inside you was given to you by the grace and blessing of God. Life is not for us to take freely, for any reason!!! There is no justification…..there will only be pain and despair at the loss of that unseen face, unheard voice, skin that would never be caressed and the loss of a smile that the world will never see.

You believe this man to be your ‘soulmate’ so try and understand that he is a blessing as well that God sent to you. He brought the two of you together for a reason…..if you believe him to be your soulmate, you can be sure that God did not intend to have you kill the child that he created out of your love for oneanother. That would be a slap in God’s face. He is giving you a chance at happiness and asking you to walk the path of FAITH and trust. Trust that this man will love you for loving his child. It may take until he sees the baby’s face in ultrasound, or feel it’s first movements in your womb…..have Faith that God will bring this ‘soulmate’ of yours one step further for you and your baby.

If you accept LIFE, and carry this beautiful baby, He will bless you with more rewards for your obedience.

God constantly gives us opportunities to turn our lives around and make a better one full of healthy choices and one that shows LOVE for oneanother. This includes the unborn!!

Your choice can make a difference for other young women. We have to make a stand sometime concerning abortion.

There doesn’t have to be LEGAL HOMOCIDE in the United States, but it is available because we ask for it.

If you have any faith in the Lord, I ask you to talk to Him now, and ask Him for the strength to stand up for your baby….and say no to killing a child.

Your ‘soulmate’ may feel this is the only answer, but he may just need to hear you tell him how wrong it is. He may say, “You know, you’re right…we can do this, we can have this baby, and still get married. There’s no way this world is going to pressure us into letting go of this child.” You can be the one to change the views of your soulmate, the views of those immediately around you, for the future pregnant women…for the future babies who may be mothers one day.

We are called to minister to one another. It is our duty…and so I am ministering to you friend in your time of need. I hope to raise you up when you are low and carry you when you are weak. Through prayer and council I hope to do for you what no one did for me.

You and your baby will be in my prayers,
myangelsinheaven

Congratulations on being a young mother who is saying “Yes, to life” and accepting the responsibility for you and your bf’s actions.

You’re act of Love for your baby will pave the way for many more girls to follow your lead. You’re maturity is heartwarming.

Surround yourself with positive people who love you and support you. By that I mean, don’t be brought down daily by your boyfriend’s inability to handle the stress. He is reacting to everything that’s going on in his head. He may not do well for awhile if his emotions are all over the place. Just try and be patient with him, but you should NOT allow him to abuse you verbally. This brings me to my next suggestion.

You should stay in touch with his parents as frequently as you can to encourage that relationship for your baby and his/her new grandparents. What about your parents? If they are just as supportive, then include them in how you’re feeling, your appointment that’s coming up, and discuss your relationship with your bf to them. They may offer some advice to you in that area and be there to protect you if he gets out of line. Friends at school or cousins and soon to be aunts are a wonderful team of supportive women and can offer some more local consistent support.

THIS IS FOR YOU & BABY:

Practice tuning out the negative influences in your life…….but you will have to replace the void with positive things. REST, REST, REST…..feed your body. It’s very important that you eat. If you can,just take your own lunch. (fruit, protein, grains) But don’t go without eating small meals all day long. And you have to drink as much water as you can tolerate. Take long walks in the fresh air (and bf’s only aloud to go if he’s quiet and holds your hand):) If you’ve been brought up with faith in God, you could turn to him in prayer, or visit a church and sit. Spend time researching what’s going on with your body and what you can expect in these first critical months of growth for your baby. This is a fragile time for your little one, so take care of mommy.

I’ll be looking forward to hearing about the Dr. Apt on Friday. Good luck!!

Blessing,
myangelsinheaven

Your decision is the only one that matters, for the life of your baby!!

Anyone can try and rationalize killing a baby for many reasons…..but there is only one simple answer not to…It goes against God!

You can make a difference in the life of your baby by acccepting the call to be a mother, and prove to the world that we do not want this in society any longer. One girl asked, “Why is abortion legal?” It’s because we’ve demanded it.

Each young girl facing the same decision as you, can walk away from the world’s ideas and be stronger, confident and help to bring about a new country where we do not murder our babies.

You have it inside you to be a mother…listen to your baby and your heart speak to you.

You are in my prayers this evening.
Your friend in Christ,
myangelsinheaven

Hello new friend,

Oh your story…how can I begin. It rings too familiar in today’s world. “They want me to, they think that I should, I’m afraid of what they’ll think…” It goes on and on, and I’m challenging you sweet girl to look beyond what others may say, feel or do as a result of your actions.
You already know the answers….I’ve read them. Take your post and cut out all the parts about everyone else….give it a try and read what’s left.:)
Be a leader my friend and trust in yourself.

As for the others, there’s a natural instinct in all humans to be who God created them to be. He also created us with a free will.
Now, we can chose to become who He wanted us to be, by listening to our hearts and following God’s call to us……which we would then be rewarded. Even after sinning, we can stop our sinful past by asking for forgiveness,amend our lives and still be rewarded.

Or sadly, we can pull away from HIS plan and exercise our free will. This usually leads to selfish actions, worldly desires, and the list goes on and on. This unfortunately leads to pain, suffering, feeling lost and empty……and we will find no solace in life. The yearning will not be satisfied…

This is the life after an abortion….this is the life your boyfriend and his mother want for you? They want YOU to live with THEIR decision. Nothing will ever justify having an abortion.

You’re family however, should be commended for standing behind you…..virtuous family life produces virtuous families. They’ve helped develop who you are so therefore you are open to life. Don’t change!! There’s not enough of young girls who are being brought up in families like yours. You are very fortunate to have been given these values of life…….

What is your bf’s mother talking about? You may not seem old enough in the eyes of the world by way of age or experience, but you have a better head on your shoulders than most.

I will pray for you and please stay in touch.
God bless you and your baby, (whom you love already)
myangelsinheaven

Hi Autumn,
I’m not sure what all the details are about your boyfriend and your relationship with him, but I just want to say that you should be proud of the fact that you chose life. You now have a child that needs you. It’s easy to get weighed down with the pressure and stress of seperating from the baby’s father, but the baby still needs mom.
I would try to take one day at a time, making it a goal to be the best mom you can be for Caden. Dress him, feed him, play with him and take him out for a walk in a stroller or just sit in the yard and breath some fresh air. It will help you clear your mind. And the vitamins from the sun will rejuvinate your spirit. Make sure that Caden and yourself are getting what you need, and that you’re doing the best you can at being a mother and a friend to yourself. Small steps first with everything after having a baby. If Caden is just an infant then you really need to give yourself some slack……take one hour, or one minute at a time and handle the most important thing in front of you. Even if it’s just showering with the baby near you in a baby seat, bathe the baby and feed him.

Emotions are very deep after coming out of a pregnancy. Your hormones are going to be leveling out for the next 6-8 weeks, and sometimes it will take longer when you have other stresses factored in. (seperating from a loved one) I remember crying at the silliest things, or getting angry at some of our older children for rediculous reasons. You have to sit quietly and close your eyes, and let God speak to you.

Your parents are probably just seeing your stress and wanting to help out by way of advice and recommendations. They love you and the baby or they wouldn’t be involved, trust me. Just try not to take offense at that.

Your relationship seems to need healing before it can become stronger. The pain of your history with one another has to be dealt with through communicating with each other. Just tell him how your truly feeling and offer to listen to him as well. Don’t hide behind half attempts at affection and meaningless chit chat. You will go nowhere with that and you both will become more annoyed at the failed attempt at resolving things. And remember, Caden needs attention.

I hope this helps; I’ve been with the same man for over 20 yrs. and we have had terrible periods in our life together. There can be healing and forgiveness and then a new relationship will develop.

God bless,
myangelsinheaven

You shouldn’t feel ashamed of being pregnant with another baby. God makes no mistakes, and has seen you fit to mother children. As he has with all women. Whether they listen to that call by God is an individual situation. Listen to what your heart as a mother is telling you. Don’t be a follower of society and the new trend of murdering helpless babies.

If you just found out your pregnant, you can expect approx. a whole year of growth for your little ones. They will be 3, and 5.
I have a house full of children and they’re a wide range of ages. I’m not ashamed one bit because they are all a gift from God. If I were to be ashamed of them, it would be denying God and his creation.

I am so proud of our family and will tell you that your little ones will help you more than you can imagine in 9 mos. God will give you the strength you need to raise another baby if you’re open to His call to motherhood. It’s a gift to you from HIM once you open your heart to life.

I will pray for your decision.
myangelsinheaven

Hi, and I’m sorry you’re feeling lost and confused. There is power in educating yourself about your cycle and your body as a young woman. For now, I can advise that there are pregnancy tests that you can purchase at a drug store that will pick up the hormone level in your urine very early. You can get a pack and try now, and if the test is neg. then wait a few days and take the test again. (4-5 days later) Your body will begin to produce the hormone levels at a stronger ratio as you progress into your pregnancy. If it’s positive I would then advise seeking a friend who has your best interest at heart and who has some faith in God. Your mom may be a wonderful person to turn to at that moment and discuss her supporting you in this and if you feel you cannot keep the baby, then look into adoption opportunities. But, please don’t resort to murdering your baby. You will never be rid of the pain and loss of that life.

God bless you in your situation,

That’s wonderful that your boyfriend and his family are supporting you. You are very fortunate as well as your babies!!:) I will pray for a healthy pregnancy and delivery.
God bless,
myangelsinheaven