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I felt like I could not breathe
I got there and sat in the waiting room with the millions of other girls sitting there alone and by themselves. But I wasn't alone I had my boyfriend there, and I still felt as alone as ever. I felt like cattle or something. I went into the room by myself and...
Abortion Distress Lasts For Years – Study
The pain of having an abortion may take years to emerge, according to a new study published today. Researchers in Norway compared the experiences of women who suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage with those who underwent abortion. Women were interviewed...
Encouragement from a Stand Up Guy
So, what I wanted to say to any girl who is pregnant and in uncertain times, struggling or afraid, is that their babies are beautiful and precious! If anyone is worried that they are somehow less beautiful inside or less desirable to good guys because they have had...
A Visit With Rebecca St. James
Rebecca St James, with several gold albums and singles to her credit, granted StandUpGirl an interview. We discussed what she hears from young women as she tours on concert around the world, depression, redemption, and self-esteem. In her career as a singer, she...
A guy who was a lot older
I went to a birthday party. It was like my first time going to a real party. I met a guy who was a lot older than me. At that time he was 23, we started dating a few days after the party, he was so sweet, he would always call me like a hundred times a day, gave me...
Half way through my Senior year
I was 17 and halfway through my senior year in high school. I also had no place to live. When I told my boyfriend, he freaked out and told me he would pay for an abortion, but would not hang around if I didn't get one. Dear Becky -- Hey. Last December, I found out...
Nothing prepared me for what happened
The day I went to have it done, the clinic gave me 2 pills. One to take there and one at home. I did it alone because of the overwhelming shame I felt. I followed the directions word for word, but nothing prepared me for what happened. First off, it was the...
Dreams can come true
I had my son Damon at age 16. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done in my life. I dropped out of school when I was 3 months pregnant and always told myself I can return next year. Dear Becky -- I had my son Damon at age 16. It was one of the hardest...
Waiting Can be Cool
Hey Lisa. I am 16 years old and I need some answers. I am thinking more and more every day I am pregnant. Can you help? Dearest Emily - I would love to help you. Really the only way I can truly help you is to maybe refer you to a center where you can have a free...
Nick Cannon Offers Help
Nick Cannon, actor and popular singer who's music video "Can I Live" relates so well to so many visitors to this site, is offering to help young women raising children on their own. He's so proud of his own mother for giving him life, he wants to encourage other...
I’m just a 15 year old who wanted love
He came to me. The guy who forever changed my life. James! He just happened to be 5 years older. But it didn't matter, for I was in love. I really fell hard for the guy. For once in my life, I was happy. James was so different. He made me feel loved. Of course, my...
We didn’t plan on having sex until we were married
We didn't plan on having sex until we were married. Well, one night things all changed, and we did end up having sex, the first time, and I got pregnant. What a shock huh? Well, it was for me, being only 16 and still in school, and pregnant. Dear Becky -- I am now...
Abortion and Preemies
Abortion Raises the Risk of Premature Delivery Later in Life: Women with a history of induced abortion were at higher risk of very preterm delivery than those with no such history (OR + 1.5, 95% CI 1.12.0); the risk was even higher for extremely preterm deliveries...
Women Deserve Better Campaign
Abortion is a reflection that we have not met the needs of women. Women deserve better than abortion. Feminists For Life Are you pregnant unexpectedly? Do you need concrete, practical help? You are not alone. Below are some resources that can help, and some stories...
My Baby, My Angel, My Life
I came across your website while doing research for a school paper and I was inspired by the stories I have read. I wanted to share my story with you. In 1991, as a sophomore in high school, I found myself a growing statistic. I was the proverbial pregnant...
He Was Married
Dear Becky -- I am a nineteen year old, single, 3 month pregnant girl. I was faced with the decision to have an abortion in March. I chose not to have one. I had an appointment at an abortion clinic in Knoxville and backed out the day before going and decided not...
Please Forgive Me-My Abortion Story
When I was 19, I felt I had the right to do whatever I wanted because I was legally an adult. I became involved with a young man and when we dated and had sex, sometimes we would have protection and sometimes we did not. One of those times we did not use any....
I Called Planned Parenthood
I appreciate your website. Eighteen years ago I unexpectedly became pregnant after I married my second husband. He had two children and I had a five-year -old daughter. I knew the night I became pregnant. He urged me to get the morning after pill, so I called...
I Had Been Raped
Dear Becky -- Hi, my name is Kortni. I was 14 years old when I found out I was pregnant. I had been raped by my brothers best friend, on June 13, 2003. I knew I was pregnant before I even took the tests. Just to be sure, I took one E.P.T and it came out positive....
An Uneasy Silence
Dear Becky, I came across your site quite by accident. Your video captured my interest and I read a few of the stories. I can relate to many of the issues these girls are talking about. My life was great. I was attending an Ivy League college, had a wonderful...
To Tell My Parents
Becky, Your website address was in my church's bulletin this week, and I am so glad that I visited your site. It is amazing how one person can positively touch the lives of many. My sister was that person for me. I became pregnant at 19, and I was very alone. My...
So desperately confused
I am confused because I just realized yesterday that my period should have started a week ago, and it is NEVER off because I am on birth control. I do not know if I am pregnant yet, but I do know that i am so scared. I am almost in tears just sitting here writing...