jessey223

Kaylee, I think at any age a pregnancy can take you by surprise and make you feel as if maybe it’s not real and the idea doesn’t totally stick at first. I was 18 when I had my daughter and I felt the same way. She is 7 now and I can’t imagine my life without her. So what once was the unknown and was very scary turned out to be one of the highlights of my life. You will realize through this process that people may judge you for this or a million other things you do but it’s you and only you that has to live with it. Life is what you make of it so if you set your mind to having this baby and providing for it the best you can, you will. Best of luck! Jessica

littlenikki,
I know how you feel. As a mom when you see your little baby getting bigger it makes you want another one. But the most important thing about being a mom is doing for your child and not for yourself. And having a baby now is not in the child you have’s interest or a new babies. They need a mommy that finishes school so you are able to provide for them. They also need to have a father figure in the picture and it doesn’t sound like you have one that will for sure be there forever for them. Trust me it is a challenge as a child gets older if they don’t have that father figure. I wish you all the best. Be patient your time will come and when it does it will be that much more special. -Jessica

Hey Gabby I am really sorry to hear you are having issues with your mom. Maybe you should sit down and try to talk to her. As a mom I totally understand her worrying about you being able to raise a baby and being scared for your future. Even though I was once in your shoes now as a mom I would never want my daughter to go through what I went through. I do not agree with her hitting you and that is why I think you need to talk to her, maybe she does not know how to express her feelings. If you honestly feel deep down inside you that she is capable of doing harm to you or your unborn child you should consider finding another place to live. I wish you the best of luck.

Gaby,
As much as it hurts and there is still so much time you are going to need to heal look at your life today, if you had the baby last year chances are you would not be pregnant with your precious little girl now. Sometimes life is really hard and we make choices we can’t go back on but we learn from them and they make us who we are today. As a pregnant teen and new mom you will appreciate being there even more because of what you went through. Just do yourself a favor and try to enjoy each moment of this pregnancy and the new baby because it will go bye sooooo fast. I wish you the best of luck and I am here anytime to chat. Jessica

Well my advice would be not to fight it. Let yourself grieve that’s the only way your going to heal and grow from this. It is going to hurt this year and for years to come. It will be something you will always remember, but the sooner you accept the better off you will be in the long run. I wish you the best of luck finding peace. Jessica

No I don’t think your crazy….just a little depressed. And to be honest that is completely warranted given what you have gone through the last couple of months. But going out and just having sex and hope to get pregnant is not going to make the pain go away. It is not going to solve your problems. You need to look at the whole picture let’s say you do go out and have sex and do get pregnant how fair is that to your child? They will never know their father because you don’t know the father. Most kids would REALLY struggle with not knowing or getting to ever see one of their parents. Not to mention the “father” of the child you have no idea who he is what if he has a wife or is abusive or a felon and one day your child finds him and wants to have a relationship. Having a baby might seem like it will fill the void but it wont. Being a parent now or for future children is about doing for them not for yourself. Deal with the pain and in time it will get easier you will find the right man that you know will be a wonderful father and get married and then have a baby. That’s my advice take it or leave it. I wish you all the best and I am here anytime to chat. Jessica

Uhhhh I am no expert but I think that is totally normal. You had a baby growing inside of you for 9 months and everything you did revolved around that. Once you have the baby sometimes you can feel empty or like that stage is over and this makes you want another one. In time that should go away some. Enjoy the little one you have! If you had another one right now it would take away from your new little angel. Best of luck! Jessica

Unfortunately people are always going to judge. That’s on thing that is very hard about being a teen mom or a young mom for that matter. People wether they say it or not think we can’t do it or we are ruining our life or that poor child. Truth of the matter is even as you go into your 20’s people will still give you that look or ask half jokingly if that is your sibling. You just have to be proud of the decision you made and prove them all wrong. I always say im glad I had my daughter when I was young I have more energy to run after her. And that is my response when someone says wow you look too young to have a 6 year old. Best of luck to you. Jessica

Everyone does it a little different but I waited until my daughter showed interest in wanting to learn. She was about 2 years and then as a reward she would get m & m’s. Best of luck! Jessica

Autumn,
I was once in your shoes and did not know what to do or where to turn without who at the time seemed like my sole mate, my high school sweetheart. So my advice would be to do as you say and move on. In order to move on you need to let go of the fact that you are going to be with him one day. Focus on who you are actually hoping to be with the father of your child and he has not seen his son in two months. Sure you broke up with him but that does not excuse his actions. The is a slim to none chance that he will change and that is not something you or your son need in your life. Don’t focus on replacing your ex because you need better and just like kids can not be replaced neither can men. Spend this time and be a mommy and excel in school. When it’s the right time you will find the right person. Best of luck and I am here anytime to chat. Jessica

My advice would be to follow your heart. When this storm has passed and the decision whatever it may be is made you and only you are going to have to live with it. If you honestly think putting the baby up for adoption will work out for you in the long run, all power to you there are a lot of women out there that are unable to have children and your child would be a blessing to them. But some moms may not be able to handle the thought of actually giving the baby up. You and only you can answer that question. I wish you all the luck in the world and I am here anytime to chat. Jessica

At 16 or at 36 you don’t need anyone. It is very important that you find out who you are and be able to function without someone else to lean on. If not you are going to find yourself in a relationship you are not happy in and feel very stuck as you do now as an adult. Take sometime and find you what do you like to do? What makes you tick? You have to find yourself before you can give anyone else all of you/love and get married.

Wow what a surprise…..my advice as a mom of 1 is just to tell your husband know. Sometimes the best things in life are not great news initially but it will be. Keep in mind he too thought your 10 month old was the last baby and he is entitled to be shocked or a little beside himself. He may act differently then you did and you should support him. It takes two to tango and Im sure he will come around and love this child just like all of the others. And money as you well know somehow you make do as you have with the four you have. Somehow it all works out. Take a deep breath and tell him. Best of luck..

Jessica