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Hey Chrissy, my names Anna I’m 15 and 36 weeks pregnant with a little boy. I found out I was pregnant when I was 5 months and 1 week, I had gotten the deprovera shot but was pregnant before so I had no reason to suspect I was pregnant, I found out by accident pretty much. I went to a regular doctor appointment and then remembered me and boyfriend that it was a good idea I get a pregnancy test, so if I was pregnant it would be only a couple weeks. Wrong. The test came back positive and my doctor, upon examining me felt a good four month lump in my belly. I was beside myself, when I went outside my mom wasn’t in the car but when she got there she asked me what was wrong and i said I was pregnant. Four months at least. … She was more excited than me I’ll tell you that much. Then I had to tell Daddy who lives with us when he got home from work and I was really scared because I thought he would be angry, or leave me. He took it well and said that we’d get through this. I was scared to tell the rest of the family, especially my Dad I thought he would lose it but I was wrong, he was excited and even said "what a wonderful thing". I was SO scared! I had to go to the hospital to find out how far long I was and I couldn’t look at the Ultra sound, i was so upset. I was five months and 1 week. The doctor said I had three options. Abortion, Adoption or keeping the baby. I wanted an abortion because I was so scared but first I had to know…was my baby healthy? Perfectly, she said. I was now left with the decision to kill a perfectly healthy, beautiful baby that could at this point, feel. I decided I couldn’t do it so my next choice was adoption or keeping him. I had to talk to my boyfriend and tell him I wouldn’t get an abortion, this was really scary because I love him so much and didn’t want him to leave me or be mad. He said, I don’t want the baby to be put up for adoption. and then he said: So we’re having a baby? and here I am 8 months and almost ready to hold my son Odin in my arms finally. I got a 3d ultrasound and couldn’t believe what I saw, a beautiful living baby inside of me, protected by me. I love feeling him kick and move around in me, I write him letters and prepare his clothes and everything. I can’t imagine how my life would be if I decided to kill him. It scares me. Sometimes I wish that I had waited a little while so I could have little Odin when I was older but he kept himself a secret for FIVE MONTHS! thats gotta mean something. Anyways, what I’m trying to say is BE BRAVE GIRL because you don’t know what you’re destroying and it could be the biggest mistake of your life. Your parents may be upset, your boyfriend may be upset but your BABY will ALWAYS love you and be so happy and thankful that you are there Momma. Think of all the poopy diapers, wakeful nights, scratched up knees and runny noses you’ll miss out on…It’s too good to give up, give life to your baby for you, give life to your baby for him or her. In the long run, you guys will make it through this and it will be ok. Good luck, I am always here if you need me.
Lots of love,
Anna

Wow, honestly this seems like you’re putting your self dignity at stake here girly. I don’t see why you would wait for him to do something, haven’t you waited enough?? You are setting yourself up to become the used and abused sweetie and you need to stop before it becomes a lifestyle. This jerk has hurt you so many times in so many ways would you even waste ONE more second on him?? I’m angry, not at you but at him for being such a piece of crap and manipulating a "friend" into waiting by his side until he becomes interested in you again. You said should I wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend?? Why? So he can go back to you until he finds something better? This man has ravaged your mind and body, hurt you mentally and pyshically, and YOU are better than that and don’t need that bullsh*t in your life! If he ever loved and cared about you like he said he did your whole story would be completely different. What’s happening here is the direct result of someone seeing you trust them and setting you up to be USED and ABUSED! I know this because it has happened to me mannnny times before and although it hurt to realize that they never loved me I so desperatley wanted love. True love is out there waiting for you. I found my true love, forget this dumbass and go find yours!!
Good luck and tell me how things go!
love,
Anna

My suggestion is if you are really worrying big time then go straight to your Doctor and get a test there, it’s free and I find, a lot more accurate. Go there to put your mind at ease.
Good luck, tell me how things work out.
Love,
Anna

Good luck hun! I am 15 and 6 months, my due date is October 28th!! My boyfriend Neil is 21 and he has a 3 year old daughter from a previous relationship, my parents are behind us 100% as well, Neil doesn’t talk with his family so they don’t even know. We haven’t been told for sure what we are having but I am 99.9% sure it’s going to be a boy, we’ve named him Odin already but we’ll see!!

Good Luck!! That’s real cool that our due dates are in the same month!! Keep me updated on how things are going!!

Love,
Anna

I think what you are doing right now is the best and safest way of caring for your child. Congrats on standing up to an abusive relationship and taking the neccassary steps to creating a better world for you and your child to live in. My mother and I lived togethor while she was undiagnosed with bi-polar, these are my childhood years and I spend alot of time taking care of her. Bi polar is a hard and manipulative mental disease to be involved in and as of right now I truly belive everything you’ve done has been done in the best possible manner. The fact that he has been mentally abusive to you is in no way a healthy relationship but thankfully your young child may very well not understand the turmoil in the home. The fact that he has been psyichal with you is a horrible thing both for you and your child because that even a young one can understand and it would be taken as a very scary thing. You are his Mother and to him you are invincible, seeing you sad and hurting (or worse, being hurt) is a terrifying reality, after all, if Mommy isn’t able to keep herself self then who will keep him safe?? By protecting your family from a destructive person (who is not acting in the role of Daddy at the moment and therefore doesn’t deserve the title) you are ensuring that your child does not grow up faster then he should. I believe you are doing what is safe and proper for your child and yourself and that the Father should not be too involved until he is damn well ready to be. And this is up to YOU to decide when he is. I wish you the best of luck in all that you are going through and even though he has manipulated your friends into believing he is the victim you know what’s right and I applaud you for staying strong during this time. You are doing just fine, don’t feel guilty for being a good Mother.

Lots of Love,
Anna

Just remember hun, you don’t simply have TWO options there is THREE readily available options for you. You have the option of Keeping the baby, Aborting the baby and putting the baby up for ADOPTION! Explain this to your Mother and the Father’s family. It is a win win situation for both you AND the baby! There are some couples (with homes, cars and financial stability) that are so sad because they cannot have a child of their own, you can offer that life to both them AND your baby. This does not simply have to be a live or die situation. You can put the baby up for adoption and move on with your life until you are ready to have one. Do not kill a perfectly healthy, very much alive baby….I couldn’t. Even then if your Mom still does not agree with your choice to put it up for adoption you sincerely need to think in your, AND THE BABY’S, best interest. Do it for yourself, and do it for your unborn child. Give another family a chance, and the baby.

You really can help instead of hurt and that should be so much more rewarding, but after all that, believe in yourself and the answer for what is right FOR you will come. The decision is your’s choose wisely because you only get too once. Good luck hun.
~Anna~

That’s such a terrible thing to happen to you, but be strong. Look through your tears and grab on to anything you can, accept all the support you can. Everyone has a guardian angel and I believe yours will be standing by you the whole time. I can’t say this will get better, because maybe it won’t but if you just get pushing through this you’ll come out from this dark time and reach the light where you can finally take a deep breath and let it all out. Please be strong, you can’t quit now, your children need you and you need them, togethor you guys will make it through this and come out stronger. No one should have to struggle (especially over the selfish act of your husband) but the life loves to test us and I believe you are strong enough to get through it. Cry till you can’t anymore and take one day at a time. I truthfully hate that advice, especially when I’m getting it, but I’ve found it to work in situations like these. I believe in you, and I believe in your children. Hold on to eachother for dear life because finally, at the end of it all you are NOT the only one there for you, your children are they too, and they love you for loving them. Believe, and you can do it.
Good luck always,
Anna