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I agree! I think it’s so important to know that there is better out there, and life without someone is better than with someone horrible! Also, if your boyfriend is treating you badly at the beginning of your relationship, these are definitely red flags and getting tangled up in this could lead down a bad road too quickly!! If you are having trouble leaving someone, find accountability and talk with those you know really care. Sometimes you feel so alone, but reach out. There will be someone who will help!

Hey there miss! How are you? How are things with your baby? I hope you were able to get the help you needed and is there anything else you’ve been trying to figure out? Blessings!

Hmmm…it sounds like you are having a lot of crazy things happening with your body. You haven’t really missed a period, but obviously you could still be pregnant before realizing that. Did you try a second test? And if you are pregnant, it probably hasn’t been long. I’d suggest going to a doctor and talking about your symptoms. Actually you might try a pregnancy care center. Go to optionline.org and they can help locate one near you. They’ll be able to help! I’m not an expert, and I do know lots of strange things can happen when you’re pregnant, but your symptoms could possibly be something else. Either way, seeing someone would be helpful. Let me know what the result is! Best wishes!

Hey Miss! I know it’s been a while since you posted this, but I just wanted to check in and see how things are going now? Praying your situation seems less lonesome and you’ve gotten some good support. Also praying for health and continued strength. God be with you.

Autumn, thanks for seeking out advice and choosing to talk through it. I am proud of you! I know that it really helps me to talk when I have the biggest loads on my mind. Your mind is tricky sometimes (I wonder why mine hasn’t exploded at points)….we tend to lean on what we can comprehend or can handle in our minds….but definitely in some cases you need to listen to your heart – your gut feeling or tug. It seems that you’ve already noticed that in the end of it all, “you couldn’t live with yourself after.” Listen to that. 🙂 I think there are many hardships you will be able to bare, but some choices may be unbearable. Your choice either way has eternal consequences to your life. But don’t choose something where you will live with the pain continually. Do not chose that of regret. At least in trying, you have action that you can take. Losing a child is for good, it is not replaceable. You are a brave woman, and stronger than me. Stand up! And know that there are many many many people who will back you up! Blessings <3.

I don’t know a ton about birth control, but I do know there are often strange effects and hormone changes can also influence things. But yes, there is always a chance that you could be pregnant. Though pregnancy tests are accurate a majority of the time, they are not always. I suggest abstaining from sex and finding out for sure if you are pregnant. Go to optionline.org and type in your zip code to find the nearest Pregnancy Help Center. They can give you FREE and CONFIDENTIAL help and advice! They will help you figure out for sure if you are pregnant and are there to support you. Whatever the results, each child is such a gift, and more precious than we know! Let me know what you find out <3 Renee

Are you generally pretty regular with your period? It’s possible something occurred to set you off a bit, and you might feel more swollen due to this. However you seem to think you could be pregnant, so I’d try a pregnancy test. They aren’t 100% accurate, but generally do a good job. Optionline.org can direct you to a Pregnancy Center near you and they can give free and confidential help, even if you just think you are pregnant. Let me know how things go! With love.

Yes, I’m proud of you! Love that baby and you can stay strong. Best wishes and prayers <3.

That’s so fun that she’s started talking! Oh, I bet she’s a cutie! But yes, that would be tough to go through 🙁

Maybe not nil chance of being pregnant.. have you taken a pregnancy test? I would take one (they’re fairly accurate I believe) or see a doctor if you really think so. It definitely could be you are just late, because I know I am sometimes…

..but also think about these lifestyle choices you are making and whether in the long run sex before marriage might be more detrimental. What’s fun now can have bigger effects than you realize, it may be the responsibility of caring for a child (beautiful child – but I’m sure you want to be ready), but it also has emotional and other effects that you carry on to other relationships or into your future marriage. So take some time to think about your life and direction and make some hard and needed decisions. If you haven’t figured out in your heart beforehand, it’s hard to stand firm when other things and feelings are involved.

I’m glad you found some answers. Yes, I know it is in us to want to be mothers…but waiting is a part of life. My mom is “traditional” too, I suppose. But I SO thank her for caring about me, physically and emotionally. You have a choice now on putting yourself in this situation again. Please, for your well being, wait to have sex until you are married to a good man who will care for you, commit his heart and life to you, and be ready to father a child. You will be a great mommy, but make some choices in your heart now! Good to hear from you, and blessings!

Hi there! How are you doing? Yes, pregnancy tests can be wrong sometimes…they say to take them in the morning when you first get up. Do your boobs hurt? That is also a very common, quick sign. I don’t want to scare you, and I am sure you are aware that there is definitely the possibility of being pregnant. If you go to optionline.org you can find a pregnancy resource center near you that should give free and confidential help. Definitely if you think you are pregnant, going here or to your doctor is a good idea.

Two more things, If you are pregnant, IT IS DEFINITELY NOT WRONG to WANT THE BABY! 🙂 Like you said, it’s your maternal instinct and God gave you that so you would love and protect a little life that on it’s own is defenseless. And I’m glad you have that desire before the baby is born. There is something in us that really wants to love this baby and care for it, and do not make decisions on fear or “your own best interest” or what will be “easiest”. Caving to that only brings more heartache later, so be a STANDUP GIRL :).

Lastly, why are you worried to let your mom know about having sex? Would she be against it? I know if you were my baby girl, that I’d loved from before you were born, I’d want what is best. I may be hurt or upset at first, but I’d want you to talk with me and feel comfortable to tell me your worries. I would probably advise you that sex is a gift meant for committed (“put a ring on it”) relationships, where there is a promise made to stay with that person. It can be so devastating for our emotions when we aren’t or they aren’t promised only to us. And there is a lot less safety, (financial, emotional, physical) for a family. I want what’s best for you girl, and prolly your mom does too. So, please consider what you are doing, pregnant or not…it is good to think on the topic of sex before marriage, what is best in the long run, and set some firm boundaries and decisions.

Prayers for you as you have so much going on. Love from your sister online <3 Please keep me posted and I'd love to chat more and here how you are doing, what you're thinking. -Renee

Don’t be embarrassed at all. Maybe mostly women come on the site, but I know a lot of guys do too and that a guy voice is always good. Also, you are good to your girlfriend to seek advice. I am from the states, but there is a website http://www.HeartBeatInternational.org, that can help you find local help in India. Is it okay if I think there’s Christian founding for the groups, but they will help you no matter who you are? Also, it is hard for most people to tell their parents…and a lot of people have had experience doing this, so hear what they’ve had to say. It may be the hardest thing in the world, but often after the initial shock or anger, you find they are just as scared as you and just don’t know how to react. I don’t know your parents personally though, so continue to seek advice on how to handle that. Good luck and you’re in my prayers!