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You are sooo sooo young. I don’t know what the legal age to work in your state is… but in mine it is fourteen. You can not support a child with no job unless you are planning on having your parents raise it. Even with a job… they have a cap on how many hours you can work per week until the age of sixteen. Money is going to be a huge issue if you do become pregnant again. I can not imagine having a miscarriage and how devastating it must feel. But remind yourself of the life you have to live.
Wow… you are all soooo young. You all have sooo much life to live yet. While I would never judge anyone for being a teen mother, I must say it is such a huge and life-changing decision. There are a lot of variables that go along with having a child. I hope none of you feel pressured to have an abortion. As someone who is ttc, I can not stand the thought of someone willingly ending a child’s life before they even get to live it. Just remember that there are so many options out there. I really think you need to go and get a test anyway. If you wait, the damage to your unborn child could be great due to inadequate prenatal care.
cams2know wrote:
ugh.! what made you say you are pregnant? did you take a test? and got a POSITIVE? i think spreading the news without clarification is bad enough..
I agree… why did you spread the news if you were unsure? Were you hoping to be and are now scared? Or was it something where you wanted the support just in case. I have never heard of anyone telling everyone before they had even tested. If this is the case… I encourage you to wait for a baby. A child of your own is a very difficult thing to have when you yourself are still a child. I know you may think you are not because you are going on seventeen… but you still have a lot of life to live before you dive into motherhood. You need to make sure you are ready to devote yourself to the life that motherhood gives you before you dive into it. It’s a big decision.
:S You are kind of making it sound like you want to be pregnant? I’m sorry hon but college is not a good time to be having a child. College is already a very stressful time, especially if you are looking at something that involves a lot of schooling such as being a vet does. If you are not pregnant, I would strongly encourage you to use protection. If you are pregnant, it is going to be very difficult to complete school with a child there. I am not saying it is impossible… but it adds a lot of pressure and some very difficult decisions. Are you sure you are ready to choose between studying for a final or dealing with a colicky baby?
At sixteen you are nowhere near ready to be a parent. While I know it can be done, and I have seen many of my close friends do it, it is very difficult and life-changing. If you are not pregnant, I would consider abstinence or birth control to help alleviate the stress of wondering. If you have missed your period, I would take a hpt and see how it comes out. If it is positive, you will need to start exploring your options.
In most cases I would recommend being financially stable before the fact… but I realize that isn’t very practical. There are many couples out there ttc who are not financially stable and are walking into it not realizing the expenses that accompany a child. My husband and I have been ttc for over a year now with no luck due to low sperm count. During that time we have been saving money for when the day does come that we have a child (plus IVF is expensive). However… there are a lot of government assistance programs out there for moments just like this. If I was you, I would find out about assistance that is available in your area, find out some details about it and what qualifications you have to meet and present them to your partner. 😆
There are tons of sites online that offer things like monogramming and stuff like that for baby items. My sister-in-law just got a monogrammed diaper bag. :cheer:
First off, you are obviously not ready for a child if you are this stressed about it. Therefore… you really should look into birth control options. I do think your periods are very irregular and that you are stressing yourself out way too much. Stress can delay a period along with several other things. Calm down and get checked out.
You might have to see a doctor to find out about that one. It could be something that is all in your head. Your mind is a powerful thing. If you stress about it, it can push your period off and make it very irregular.
