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It is very frustrating that adoption is either not considered, not presented or presented as such a weak option by most of the people posting here.
There are thousands of women like myself who cry ourselves to sleep at night because we can’t get pregnant.
I think it’s ironic that so many women take their fertility for granted and assume they can have another baby some day when the time is “right” for them.
That is not always the case!Why won’t anyone here consider giving a child life by creating an adoption plan instead of killing their baby?
I really, really do not understand why noone here talks about it unless as an after thought like this post.
I am a wonderful Mom and I would do absolutely anything legal to adopt again. Why won’t someone here consider allowing me to adopt their baby instead of killing it? WHY?I’m wondering why noone ever mentions adoption as an option?
Every post I read pretty much just talks about having an abortion or keeping the baby. Creating an adoption plan is a wondeful option for someone who does not want to have an abortion but feels unprepared to parent right now.My husband and I cannot have children of our own due to infertility and we want so badly to adopt a baby.
Thanks for reading and God Bless.
You definitely do not need to have any name listed to receive child support or welfare. Many mothers choose not to name the father – some do not even know who the father of the baby is until a paternity test is done, some women are raped but choose to have the baby, etc. My son’s father refused to come to the hospital, refused to sign the birth certificate – this was a non issue when it came to child support.
You could seek free legal advice from your local university’s law school – they usually offer free legal aid.CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!
Yay for home birth!!! I love it.
Have you seen the film The Business of Being Born? Such an excellent film – every pregnant woman should see it.
Amazing, amazing film!!!Thanks so much for posting that!
Adoption is an incredible gift and such a blessing for the adoptive parents who cannot have children of their own.
Just as birthmothers struggle with unplanned pregnancies and the difficult time it can be, adoptive parents have typically struggled through YEARS of infertility, miscarriage, failed attempts at IVF, etc. I know people who have gone through ten years of infertility before finally getting pregnant or adopting.Hi, I know this is a tough time for you and I just wanted to let you know I’m here if you need to talk. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my son and my Mom was so angry. She wanted me to get an abortion but I refused – I did not tell my parents until it was too late for an abortion on purpose. My Dad was very pro-life so of course he told my Mom "no way" and said they would help support me and the baby financially. it’s not easy being a teen Mom but you can do it if you set your mind to it! I think I did a damn good job and my son will be 18 years old next month. I went to college at night and then went full time after he started Kindergarten full day. I became a teacher, got a Master’s degree and now own my own business – not bad for a teen Mom and HS dropout who got a GED!!! Keep the faith and don’t let anyone tell you that there is anything you can’t achieve. If I beat the odds, you can too!
I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve had a miscarriage also and it is so painful. My best friend just found out yesterday on the ultrasound that her baby had no more heartbeat. She was 11 weeks and they think the baby died at around 9 weeks 🙁 They had to do a D&C today.
She is so sad and I am sad for her. Hang in there!Hi,
I really feel for you.
I got pregnant as a teen and I know how tough it is to be in ur situation.
I certainly cannot give u advice – u have to follow ur heart and do what is best for YOU, not what is best for ur family.
You are the one who will be responsible for this child for the rest of ur life if u decide to parent.
Your family can say they will disown u or whatever but what they say and what they will actually do are probably real different. I hope that ur family would never actually disown u no matter what u decide to do.
If u decide to create an adoption plan please let me know because my friends are incredible parents who adopted a baby girl and they want to adopt again in the next year.Good luck with your decision and God Bless!
MJhi Jenny,
I had my son when i was 18 years old. It was really hard and I missed out on alot of stuff that I wish I hadn’t missed out on. I can understand why you feel overwhelmed right now.
As far as adoption, I know someone who adopted a little girl at birth. The birth Mom had been in an abusive relationship and did not want to have any future contact with the abusive ex for any reason. She opted for a "closed" adoption where she does not have contact with the adoptive family – she could have but she chose not to. My friend is looking to adopt again so please let me know if you do decide to place your son because I am sure my friend might be interested in meeting you.
Good luck and God bless!
MJI am so sorry about the pain you are in right now! I have been there and I completely understand what you are going through. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my son and it was really hard. I’m here if you need to talk!
On a side note, if you decide that you do want to create an adoption plan for your baby I know someone who is looking to adopt.God bless!
MJ
