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Try talking about the lost baby, ever so gently, it is hard to accept another baby when you haven’t grieved, so he maybe in that place of needing to talk about his loss.As a young mother you need to be out of there. Your mother in law needs medical input, she maybe suffering bi-polar and going through the down stage of the illness. Anyway your concern is for yourself , baby and man. All the best and let us know how you get on.
Hi Some women do know very early if they are with child. I used to get bloated after sex but it was an allergy to sperm.
Hey there, you are in that group who really do not need abortion. Having your baby will help you develop who you really are and besides you already are bonded with your baby. And you parents will be so proud of you when they come to see baby when she/he is born. Just hang in there and in a little while you will feel a whole lot more positive about your situation. All the best.
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Did you give your baby a name?
It will be emotional and a good time to talk about your feelings to someone you trust. Tears can be helpful at this time.Hi how’s it going.
Did you get any help with housing?
You will be surprised at how much stuff you are given when baby comes. My daughter has lots of baby clothes, really nice, some hardly worn and some brand new. People also gave her a pushchair and bouncy chair and even a cot.
All the bestIs circumcision another of those medical procedures that are just a step too far? I know it is a requirement for the Jewish people isn’t it? Why would God require something like this?
I asked my daughter where she was going to sit the new baby in the car when it was born. She said the boy will be in the front and "the girls" in the back. At the time we looked at each other. When the baby came… you guessed it! A Girl. My daughter says she did not know with her head but something in her knew.
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Have you got any other support, your mum, your dad, sister, teachers?
Is your boyfriend having any supoort from any adults?
Let us know how you are getting on.I had 2 natural births with a bit of gas and air at the end. It was very painfulsome of the time but I am glad I did it.
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Maybe it is to do with wanting to be cared for as a baby. A deeply felt and ancient longing going back to her own babylife. Then there is a strong drive to life that females experience, if the female is from a neglecting home situation she is unlikely to have sufficient social skills and education in place to work out the reality from the fairytale. She wants the dream life, add to this a boy coming on with a lot of interest and she thinks it is love and falls for the oldest con "I love you and will care for you".I experienced other deaths in my family, including suicide and becoming an orphan in childhood, all of that pales into insignificance when compared to my babys death at 10 weeks pregnant. Even now after so many years and a lot of grief counselling I just can;t sort it. Besides which some men become impotent after pushing their girls into abortion, there is something really ghastly about doing this to self and others. It goes against life, and life kicks back.
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Being pregnant when you are young is a good thing, it is only our crazy culture that makes you think you are not able to do this. You are able to have your baby and the baby will help you become good parents, by gazing at you and smiling and cooing when you understand what the baby needs. You may need a bit of help with getting a home and if you approach churches or helping agencies they will be pleased to help. However, the person who you need most is your boyfriend, encourage him to look after you, be kind to each other. Let us know how you are getting on.Hi
I am sorry you are sad, in a way that is a healthy reaction to the loss of your pregnancy. Allow yourself to feel what you feel.
Write it down as you may want to refer back to it if you get stuck. You will need support of others who know what you are going through, there are some really helpful people out there and some shark so take care.
