Meg11

Sorry to be blunt but you want advice. QUIT HAVING SEX. you wont need anymore tests. It really is the only way to guarantee no babies 🙂 Please wait untill your married it took me a long time to finally do that. after 10 years of being sexually active and 2 kids later I said NO MORE heatache , unplanned pregnancies, risks of diseases,feeling used, etc.etc.etc. I stayed abstenant for 3 1/2 years untill my wedding night. You can do it!!!! I know you can 🙂

The fact that you have chosen life has brought a smile to the Lords face. I know that my God is faithfull and He can and will be your God to if you ask Him to be. So what I have to say is simple. God can cause this baby to be born completely healthy all 10 fingers all 10 toes He honors those who do His will. But in the event that He allows this baby to have a struggle or two just know that you and that baby belong to Him and He will take care of you. He will not give you more than you can handle. Any questions? visit my profile page and say hi…..Love and Prayers Meg

well angela I would go to a doctor and get a blood test if a hpt had a very light line than a blood test should deffinately be able to tell. Now untill you do that you will have to sit in confusion and wonder and that is no fun 🙁 so my encouragement to you would be to think real hard. Why did I sleep with my EX? If we are in love why did we break up ? If we are soooooo in love why dont we get married? If we are so in love and want to be married why dont we wait until marriage to have sex? Do we want the same things in life? Can I tell him everything that goes through my head? Do I hold things back because I dont want him to laugh at me? How many people have we both slept with? Why? Would I be content in a relationship without sex? Why? Why not? Please ponder these thoughts as you wait and wonder they are not fun. Take this time to be honest in your own heart I want the best for you and hopefully you wont end up on the same road I did for so long. It was some of these kinds of questions that helped me CHOSE a different road to walk on. If there are any questions please visit my guest book and ask me I would love to help. Take care and I hope that all works out for your best. Love Meg

I have never taken the morning after pill but I was offered it. Little did I know I was going to conceive. Had I taken that pill I could have killed my son who is now 2 1/2. There is nothing you can do at this point in regards to if you would have been preg or not and from the sounds of it you dont want or need a baby right now. I would encourage you to call your doctor or the clinic you got them from and ask about side effects and symptoms and make sure that you will be fine and then please please please learn from this!!!! Birth controll, morning after pills and other such things may help you to not get preg but they will not mend your broken heart after you have given yourself over to a guy or many guys. Those things will not keep you from diseases or having rumors spread about you. They will not keep you from feeling empty and lonely or used. They will not keep you from dissapointing your parents or others who love you and look after you. So please reconsider the path you are on right now. I know we have chatted before and if no one else does know that I care for you and so does Jesus. It is never too late to stop and committ your ways to the Lord. He will guide you on to paths that are healthy and good for you. I hope and pray that you will be fine and that your pain will ease up but dont forget the pain entirely let it always remind you of where we can so easily end up when me dont make good choices. Love ya lots …Meg

Hey if you cant talk to him now what makes you think you will be able to when your married??? I have just learned that what ever is difficult before you are married is 10x more difficult after you are married. I got married in Nov. to the only guy I never slept with that I dated. Yep thats right we saved that part for our wedding night. Previously I had been with over 30 guys in 10 yrs and I have 2 children. Two wrongs dont make a right. Please talk to him and make sure you are both on the same page because if there are issues between you and neither of you bring it up it will only hurt your marriage down the road. Also I understand your fear of resenting your child. It is avery real fear and it will pop up at times I wont lie about that but…..the joy that child will bring and the changes that will take place in your heart FAR out way the small visits to resntment land LOL and the times when you do feel resentful only cause you to strive harder to raise your child in a way that will encourage them to make better choices than we have. Please if you need to talk just leave a note in my guest book. My heart goes out to you so much…and ps dont rob yourself any longer of excitement…rub that tummy of yours and smile over the little blessing that dwels in there 🙂 "For You formed my inward parts;You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works,and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You,when I was made in secret, and skillfuly wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substanance,being yet unformed.And in Your book they all were written,the days fashioned for me,when as yet there were none of them." wow what a Creator we have Psalm 139:13-16 My prayers are with you Love Meg

I agree that you need to get away from this guy. Not only for you and the baby but for him also. I left my daughters dad for the same reasons. He never hit me but I almost wish he would have because words seem like they do so much more damage. He left me scared so deep inside and caused me to believe that I was just used up trash and that no one else would ever want to be with me and that I wouldnt find a job and he was gonna take my daughter and I would just end up starving on the street. I finally left him anyways and decided that if all those things were true than that was fine but I couldnt handle one more minute of his control and emotional abuse. well 4 1/2 years later I am alive I have my daughter I dont work now because I just got married in Nov. and my husband lets me stay home with the kids. The lies he told me were not true. I did have to struggle for a while and I learned how to be thrifty with my money and I fell in love with being a mom. Even if it meant that I had to do it alone. So I encourage you to stand up for what is right and dont let him believe that it is ok to throw you around and hit you. If you let him you are really telling him that it is ok to do it. Get away while you can. Dont replace him with some other guy either. Please just take this time to get your life together find a job even if its not the best. Just do what you can to survive and let God take care of the rest. Commit your ways to the Lord and He shall direct your paths. It has worked for me I encourage you to do the same 🙂 lots of love and prayers Meg

Good for you!!! what an awesome testimony of what more people should do. Both you your boyfriend and your parents. The decision to be apart untill youre married is so difficult but much more honorable. I respect your parents very much for making that possible. Thank you for your courage to do what was right even though you knew what got you there was wrong 🙂 I found out that I was preg with my 2nd after I had gotten saved and was attending church regularly for some time. I hurt so many and stumbled others. But I just kept going to church and I made the decision to not have sex again untill I was married. well 3 1/2 years after I made that choice I did get married and I did keep that promise I had made to the Lord. You and your soon to be husband are going to experience so much blessing from the choice you have made. May the Lord give you strength and wisdom on how to raise your child. This is just one more example of Gods grace. If we had to be "good enough" to get to heaven no one would be there. But when you turn from what you are doing wrong and choose to do it the right way it is pleasing to the Lord. He desires obedience more than a sacrifice. God bless you and your family…Congrats Love meg

I completly agree with all the other ladies. Thank you for choosing life. There are so many recources out there to help you be a parent. I have never felt bad for receiving food stamps because I was always working and paying my taxes. I put in there fore I received what I needed. Now that I am married I no longer receive food stamps because the Lord has brought me new provision. Dont let anyone put you down for wanting to keep the baby or for using the recources you might have to to keep your head above water. Being a mom is wonderful but make sure that you learn from this situation. In most cases I have heard of a Husband rarely asks his wife to abort and would most likely not want to put the child up for adoption. There fore I would encourage you to stand on the truth and not put yourself into a position that could get you preg again untill your married. If a man wont marry you before you have sex with him then in MOST cases (not all) he wont stand by you through the hard times. After 10 yrs of being sexually active and 2 kids later I made that choice. I went through both pregnancies on my own ( 2 diff dads) at that point I decided never again. I kept both of my children and spent 4 yrs as a single parent. I am now married to a man that I did not have sex with untill our wedding night and I know we will both rejoice when we find out that Im pregnant. I hope and pray that you will join me in having an awesome testimony some day and that if this man truly loves you he will marry you or that single parent hood will strengthen you as much as it did me 🙂 love and God bless Meg

I agree with everyone else that if you are on your period 99%sure your not preg. but to answer your question I believe it is more acurate to take a test with your first pee in the morning 🙂 sounds like if you are taking a test on your period that you are hoping to be preg?? is that right??? if so…..if your not married and still in school please wait. dont try to get pregnant you can bring alot of heart ache to your life. kids are wonderful but being a single struggling parent who feels rejected isnt so lovely I did that for 4 1/2 years on my own. take care of yourself lots of love

stagetory rape is a very serious thing and even if you dont think you are a victem of it you are. you may not feel victemized but by allowing a man who was already in kindergarten when you were born to have casual sex with you is a big thing. My brother is always going after "little girls" he says that they are old enough to make the decision for themselves which may be true but I would always tell him that he is the adult and the resposible party and he should have more respect for these young girls. Please have more respect for your body I am 25 and I let guys take advantage of me for years and it caused so much emotional damage. it doesnt hurt at the time when you are having fun but after it happens over and over again you feel empty used and worthless. Also if you end up loving an older man especially with kids think about their life and how having sex with you could classify them as a sex offender for life and the harm their families will go through for it. this guy could loose his daughter over being tagged as an offender. these are big things to think about. I pray that your pregnancy will go well and that you find a good way to tell your parents. and please if they press charges on this guy …let them be your parents and let them protect you just as you would this little baby you are having 🙂 take care

I would encourage you to keep this baby. I had my daughter on my own at 20 I now have two children. You are an adult you are capable of supporting yourself with a job and this baby will only grow you up further than you are now. my caution is for your boyfriend. if he is supportive of your decision to keep or abort that means he is saying i dont care if the baby lives or dies. my daughters father was the same way. he is no longer in her life . even after she was born when we would fight he would sometimes tell me he wished i would have had an abortion. he even said it in front of her when she was 1. a real man who is expecting a baby and is willing to be a part of the childs life would have more of an opinion of what he wants. I am not judging or steriotyping your bf but you are on here looking for advice. please keep this baby. Just think as the baby is born and grows overtime you know he/she will be cute and im sure even if your family is upset at first that the baby will just grow on them 🙂 dont give them a reason to regret this baby either be responsible and make every effort you can to keep your family together 🙂

Well if you are pregnant I would strongly urge you to keep the baby. A child will change the way you live think and feel about yourself. Stand strong and dont be moved on your decision to keep it no matter what. If you are not pregnant please stop putting yourself into situations that could get you pregnant. I have two kids , after my second pregnancy ( Iwas alone both times 2 dads) I commited to waiting till marriage to have sex again. well after almost 3 years I had sex on my wedding night and it was amazing 🙂 There is so much blessing and if I find out that I am pregnant I have no fear of what the father will say because he loves me enough to have respected my body and waited for me to be his wife. You deserve so much better than to give yourself to a man that wont commit to you 🙂 I hope all goes well…..God Bless