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I really love the way you describe the relationship of your hub with your daughter.Ive got a bf too and things are not so rosy all the time.Still dont want her to call him dad in the future, I guess ive been hurt so deep it hurts.He does not like babies, he makes efforts of hell to adjust to situation, he is young and he knows and accept i come in double package.I feel so sad things are not perfect.Ive got to split my time in twains so to keep every1 satisfied but what about me…the 3 of us are ok,he enjoys our company but i dont trust any1 any further and its me the one who keeps us separated.Dont want a father( yet) but i dread the day she pops the quest….but im not surrendering to him ( bio) ,
what i mean is that once you give birht things will soothen up, then some other new feelings suddenly pop out.
Stop feeling guilty.You gave birth and you are so hormonal my dear.All the pain you feel and all the sadness you feel i have felt it too and although ive got no father around i feel like friends did betray me when pregnant and now they use me to go out when no bfs are around.I feel used! i feel so so sad most of the time when my bf is out and i feel like i have no choice.You cant just bottle up your feelings, at least you have some1 around who cares and you should open your heart about it…its not about making some1 feel guilty because you are lonely…remember its mostly hormones.I promise, and I know coz ive been there.My best and I hope you tell him.
Im so sorry you are going thru the same experience as i did.My ex also did pull out and bragged about not getting prego any1 before me..I think I was meant to be the 1st.6 days after my missing period due date i found out and still makes me shiver!!I suffered a lot becoz of it and he dumped me soon after.I decided I would continue without him and woul forbid him from getting in touch with me or baby.I know the way you feel, but i also recommend you to tell any1..i think parents know a lot more than we think we know…believe me.Turn to them, and if necessary cry to them.
Im so devastated at the kind of ignorants you have to put a brave face to!!I got pregnant in March and by April the 20th my baby’s dad called it quits.His allegations were so clear: you are not the right type of woman who suits me( well, the week before he was talking about forming a family and that stuff,but ok..he was 31 and didnt want complications).He wanted me to abort, although he said he would respect my decision…(of course, if IM to have the baby I WILL have the baby no matter his decision).He left afterwards but never doubted he was the father,It wasnt until July that we met again and then he reclaimed a paternity test ( only to prove to the family i guess…)I said i didnt want any further explanation, the baby was only mine and that is!!He said I wouldnt get along with all the rights to exclude him from my baby`s life and thats what I did.I excluded him and his family, had the baby in a secret location, He still wanted the tests and being the dad but i got good advicers…he never called again, My lawers did the rest,honestly, a father is welcome but not vital.Im sure your man did things wrong too so dont let his family get along with murder…in my opinion, you should show them you are so valid you dont need their charity,I may be so rough but i feel it so strong for you.Best wishes.;)
I wish i could give you the words.I just read your story today.I have a healthy baby, my life is full of good things as it may seem but im still so sad.I have a new bf but i dont trust ppl no more,I try to concentrate on her but i think im not prepared,not yet.I feel so selfish and so unhuman,,,sometimes i want to cry.Its been only 2 months and i can still conceive life w/o her, and im so scared my period will never come and im prego again ( my quarentine and pèriod altogether lasted for nearly 55 days!!) im obsessed with babies, im so obsessed with pregnancy and post pregnancy..i think it all went off so fast.I have nightmares about being prego again,about being alone, sometimes i feel so so sad i want to die although if i have to resume my life id say im happy.I dont know the pain you are going thru,,,but i feel so so bad im not a better mother and im not thankful, at least a lil bit more, for all the things I have.:(
mothers are favoured in any sensible country!!!please do stop talking to them…you have all the choices to win.Even in my country, drugaddicts and sick mothers are the only ones entitled to have all the paternal rights…its sad but true.
Hola.Im from Spain myself.I didnt fall preg on a nitestand but i have a girl from here who fell preg after one nitestand with an english man.What did she do? well..first, she never bothered to call him whatsoever,its easier if you can deal on your own.She has a 6 y-o child and she has these things in mind to say:
-If you plan not to contact him then tell him he’s dead: so efficient.
-You can also tell your child he left, or he disappeared.
I have issues with my babys dad, hes my neighbour but dont want him to be involved,if he shows up ill tell my child the whole truth( he was the 1 to blame and left us alone during the 9 months) and if things are fine ill move on, ill tell my child her father just left us for some1 else.Dont worry for it!!!believe me, you are lucky!!Let me tell you one thing: first you will notice sporadic kicks( i started feeling it at nearly 4 months), like tapping, and then…IT MOVES SOOOO MUCH, you will be thinking: o dear…it never stops hehehehe.One thing they do for sure is moving and then waking you up in the middle of the night LOL.:laugh:
