Heya people. I’m Shreya and I’m from India. I’m 15 years.
Well, it’s been one and a half year. I’m dating a guy, and we both love each other too much. We even have had sex three times . But the problem starts from there. It was okay till this May. I was getting my periods, but from June, it stopped. I got my periods a week late in May, but from June on, no sign of it. We had sex last in April. Well, after that, in June, we twice did foreplay, but not sex. And both the times of foreplay, his sperms were all over my hand and I touched myself with my hand. Well, sometimes I feel an intense stomachache, and my boobs are a bit swollen. And I need to pee a lot also. Well, I told my parents that I am not getting my periods. They want me to do a pregnancy test. I’m too scared. What if I’m pregnant? If I’m pregnant, I don’t want an abortion. It’ll be my first baby, how can I let it go? My mind says so. But the circumstances would force me to abort my baby. In India, having sex before marriage is an offense and people would leave me and my family alone if they come to know that I have had sex and am pregnant now. 🙁 I’m praying to God all day and night to make my pregnancy test result negative. Even my guy also says he may leave me if I keep my child. Well, it’s not his fault. He has his family and his family won’t ever let him marry a single mom, even if the child is his. And I don’t wanna get married soon. If I become practical, I see the need to abort my baby, but my mind says not to abort.
I’m so scared… I think I should commit suicide. If I’m really pregnant, it’s gonna blacken the faces of my family. Better kill myself. 🙁
Ok, I have a little vent to get out here, please bear with me! I have seen and heard many people give arguments in regards to teen pregnancy….Some have been AGAINST people like us at Standupgirl.com….They ask and question WHY we encourage young girls to follow through in their pregnancy. Maybe because they write in saying THEY WANT TO HAVE THEIR BABY, THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE FORCED INTO ABORTION….Is not this battle between life and death based on CHOICE? Forgive me for encouraging a girl to FOLLOW HER CHOICE…..They say things like, ‘She doesn’t have a diploma’, ‘Working at a fast food restaurant with a baby is hard’, ‘Why bring a child to this earth to suffer’, ‘Will your relationship last’, ‘Get on Birth Control’, Oh and my FAVORITE, ‘You should be enjoying your youth’….Well, ladies…Is that NOT how we found ourselves PREGNANT…ENJOYING OUR YOUTH?
Dave Thomas, Founder of Wendy’s, Quentin Tarantino, World Famous actor and Director, Peter Jennings, World Known News Broadcaster. How about Julie Andrews, Mrs. Mary Poppins herself, Princess Diana, The list goes on and on and on. NONE OF THEM GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL!!! Are you going to let someone treat you like you are the worst thing to ever happen to a baby? “Don’t bring a child to this earth to suffer”…Like YOU being their mom is the worst thing ever….Oh, that makes me angry….Lasting relationships…Umm, back to Celebrities…How about Celebrities WITH babies….Brangelina? Tom Cruise, Nicole Kidman?…. It is not age or children that give us the ability to have a lasting relationship. It is commitment and we are ALL capable of it…..Birth Control… Hmmm, OK. So pump yourself full of artificial hormones that can potentially cause you harm, even though it does NOT guarantee 100% effectiveness to prevent pregnancy? Yep, that sounds like the solution there….(that is my sarcastic font)…Enjoying your youth…….Clearly, we have all “enjoyed” our youth a little too much when we find ourselves pregnant….Can you all at least agree to that? You know what I say? I say it with conviction and I say it from MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE…..I say LEARN A LESSON….Don’t make your baby pay with his/her life, You take the consequence, better yourself….They do NOT have grants and scholarships specifically for post-abortive women…They DO however have college opportunities SPECIFICALLY for young women with children…..I was that girl. I DID have to get on government assistance. I did work a crummy job. I had two senior years BEFORE I got pregnant. My relationships DIDN’T last, THANK GOD, I am not stuck with those loser jerks… I deserved and got SO much better. Oh, and I got pregnant with my second kid from a second father BEFORE I was able to start taking my birth control…..See….It gives you a false sense of security. It’s not worth it…
I didn’t have the crummy job forever. As a matter of fact, I have worked as a dental assistant and as a well-rounded funeral home assistant, both WELL paying jobs. During my years as a single mom, I learned many skills through odd jobs as well. I chose to stop having sex until my wedding night. I had no idea if I would ever have one, but I LEARNED…I was NOT going to put my trust in birth control. It is NOT 100% effective. I finally accepted that I DESERVE a REAL man. One who would wait for me, prove his love, and take me as his wife BEFORE he got me in bed….I am now married, going on 6 years (and yes we waited till our wedding night). I am now a stay-at-home mom. We own the home I PURCHASED WHILE BEING A SINGLE PARENT. We are DEBT FREE. I am NOT on government assistance. I am a business owner and entrepreneur. I help plan weddings and arrange wedding flowers and bouquets, I home-school my kids, and YES, I DO help single moms, I follow through….If I encourage a girl to keep her baby, You BET I will be there to help. I have helped MANY young moms learn to shop wisely and cook nutritious cost-effective meals. I am known to babysit here and there and bend over backward to help single moms…..And there are MANY MANY more people out there who want to help YOU.
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Don’t believe the lies….You CAN do it. You CAN succeed. You CAN better yourself. And You WILL be a WONDERFUL Mommy if you have enough love for your child to keep you pressing on….I did…Put on your blinders to the naysayers. Prove them wrong. Never be afraid to ask for or receive help. You WILL need it. Don’t feel guilty for it…You just hold your head high and take this journey one step at a time….Just learn from this, let it drive you on a more positive path….I am STILL enjoying my youth. My kids keep me young. They give me purpose, reason, and excitement for each new day…..I have just learned to enjoy it with a few less consequences…You will too.
<3 Much Love to all of you Stand Up Girls. Be Brave, Stand Your Ground, and Keep Your Eyes Fixed at the End of the Tunnel Where the Light is Waiting to Shine on You!
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To start off, I’m 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. My last period was June 14th. We have had unprotected sex a lot and I’m not on the pill anymore. I’ve been getting nauseous, my boobs are swollen, and I can’t touch them! I’ve been peeing a lot, am super tired, and am now 4 days late for my period. Exactly a week before it was due, I noticed a tiny amount of dark brown blood which only lasted two days. I took 2 tests last week, both negative.
Any advice on what I should do?
I’m so excited! I’ll be 37 weeks pregnant tomorrow. I can’t believe of how the time has passed. I have been considering lots of things to provoke my labor. I’ve considered castor oil or just going out for a long walk.
My family is visiting Mexico this August. I’d say around the fourth or fifth day of the month. I would love to have my boy now, so that my mom could be here with me the first 3 weeks of my baby’s days.
So, I suggested to her that maybe I can induce my labor. And she didn’t like the idea. She told me how I need to be careful, and it’s always best to let the baby come when he is ready. And I knew that she was right. I should just be thankful that the baby will be here, before she leaves. Because my baby’s due date is August 3rd. And I really don’t think my baby will even make it to the month of August.
My husband thinks that the baby will be born on the 16th. That is because his first daughter was born on November 16th and his son September 16th. So, he hopes that the baby be born on the 16th of July. My guess is that the baby will be born between the 19th and the 23rd. My mother thinks the last days of July and so does the rest of my family.
I know that my son will be with me very soon. My pains are worse than ever. I can’t sleep on my hips anymore. I feel this instant pain that I can’t handle. I have to sleep on my back, which everyone thinks is crazy, because they don’t see how that is possible. My eating habits have changed completely. I can only eat small meals now. I have so much pressure. I feel like at any moment my son is just going to flop on the floor. The pressure is very bad.
But I really don’t mind. I know that my baby’s arrival is almost near and everything would of been worth it. I can’t wait till that day comes. I’m very excited. I’ve been waiting for this day to come for a very long time. I can’t believe that the day is very near. At any moment, I will have my baby boy in my arms.
I feel so foolish, even though I already know what I feel, I shouldn’t be OK. He gave me up. As a matter of fact, he gave “us” up because he couldn’t handle my choice of keeping her, our child. I love him again and again. I can’t explain why. I spend so many days and nights praying to God to rid me of my love for him and it won’t stop. I know love takes time to die, but this is ridiculous! I know it’s wrong but nothing that I do will stop this heartache, Won’t stop the dreams, won’t stop me from wanting him…
Hi all!
Well, I am new to this site, with postings. I found SUG about 2 and a half years ago. I was still in school and thought I might be pregnant. Well, I would have loved it, but I was not, and now I am trying for it. So to get to what I really want to say… Lately, with me trying to conceive, I have done a lot of research! It started with the whole process of pregnancy on Google then went to YouTube… It’s just so much better watching it than just reading don’t you think? So if you watch all these and take into consideration how some people take getting pregnant for granted, I get sad. I am not here to judge or anything but I think any woman, pregnant or not, should watch those videos. It gives a whole other side to pregnancy. Then I watched some on abortion as well, one where they took a scan while performing it, and the baby actually got agro and went into survival mode when the abortionist did not even break through the placenta yet! The baby actually screamed! And all this at a 12 week pregnancy. All of you Lady’s out there, most of the time life is hard, but the choices you make, can make it better or worse. I think you won’t be reading this if you did not need the advice and encouragement on what to do. I want to help, and be a shoulder. Feel free to add me or talk to me. I just felt I had to share what I saw.
Wishing you all a wonderful day.
