I’m not sure how to start off. I guess I’ll start like this…
Dec 31 was a day that changed my life forever. I was 13 and I got pregnant. When my family found out, they flipped out. They all wanted me to get an abortion, including the father of my child. His mom and dad wanted me to keep the baby and I so made the choice to keep the baby. I found out I was having a little girl at 19 weeks. I was so excited and ready to be a mommy. I choose the name Heather Ann Jordan. She was gonna be named after my sister who had died and her middle name was the father’s grandmother’s middle name. I thought it was perfect. Day by day went by and I got more excited every day and every day my family disowned me a little more. When I was 8 months along, I had to be rushed to the hospital. Something went wrong and Heather died. :'( I had to give birth to a dead baby girl.
When I gave birth to her, they asked me if I wanted to hold her. If I wanted pics of her and what I wanted to do with her body. Of course, I wanted to hold her so I said yes. I held her and cried and cried. I just prayed to God, “Just let this be a bad dream. Let her be OK.” But I never woke up from this bad dream. In the end, my family and her father all got what they wanted except me. I didn’t get my baby girl. I felt so lost I cried for months. I still cry till this day about what happened to my baby girl. I have an angel up there and every day, I just want to end my life and be with her, but I don’t. I pray every day and talk to her. Now I’m with a steady guy and we’re engaged. He’s amazing and we’re in love. He went through the same thing. He was having a baby girl. Her name was gonna be Evilin. Something went wrong with her and she died. Evilin’s mom was 8 months pregnant turns out we were the exact same weeks along when we lost our baby girls.
I just found out I’m 5 weeks along. My fiancé and I are so happy. We’re not telling anyone until I start to show so they can’t do anything about it. We both still miss our daughters and still both cry but we know they are all taken care of up in heaven
<3 R.I.P Heather Ann Jordan and Evilin Marisa Eastman. Our angels!
My son’s due date was 8th August, but obviously, he came early. So I shouldn’t be worried about his due date? I am probably making a big deal over nothing, but this day means a lot to me. He should either be on his way and almost here or a few days old. But actually, the 8th of August will be 2 months since Leo has been home from the hospital…And almost 4 months of him being here. So it’s special to me. Today(6th August), my son has reached his due date goal of 6 pounds. He finally fits into newborn clothes, woo!
We are also having a small engagement party on the 8th, but will also be a type of baby shower for him too. So yeah, we’re having a party to celebrate my son and me and my fiancé’s engagement. It’s a pretty late party, but it will be fun. So we’re pretty busy right now. We picked up the cake earlier today, hopefully it stays okay. Picking up our son’s cake tomorrow.
Well, I’m so glad my son has made it here. I don’t really care when he arrived. He made it to his due date healthy and happy. He’s just a little older than what he should be. My fiancé and I are so privileged to have such a wonderful son. He’s already lifting his head up, and he’s so active. He’s really aware of everything around him…And he clearly shows emotion. Still, no sign of teeth cutting, but I’m grateful because that’s going to be a nightmare. He is gorgeous and I love him lots!
I can’t believe the journey we’ve been through already…Hopefully, we’ll get his scan results back this week then no more hospital for 2 months! Can’t wait for the next few months to pass. I’m a lucky momma. Oh, and I apologize if I occasionally spam you with pictures.
I’ll be 39 weeks pregnant this Friday. I and everyone in my family thought that my baby was going to be premature. I was just so big and well, I looked more like a 9-month pregnant woman than a 7-month pregnant woman. I’ve gained 70 pounds since I got pregnant. I’m guessing most of it is the water. My doctor measured the baby and says that the baby’s size is normal and on track.
My mother is leaving town in August and she is worried that the baby won’t be born before she leaves. This is my first baby and I do feel like I will need her help. She spoke to the doctor and because she is leaving, he won’t have any problem with inducing me this Sunday. He wanted to induce me this Friday, but remembered that he was going to be out of town, and won’t be back till this Sunday. So, I’ll just have to wait till Sunday. And I don’t mind.
I’m very excited. If everything goes well, and if God permits it, I will have my baby in my arms this Monday. Because I will be entering the hospital at six to be induced and I’ve heard that it’s a long process. I can’t believe it. I am very excited. I can’t believe the time is so near. And I am a little scared. I had an appointment yesterday because my doctor is going to induce me this Sunday. He had to check my cervix. It hurt!! And I’m sure that pain doesn’t compare to labor pain. I am only 1 cm dilated.
My husband and I are trying to have everything ready. Now, that we really don’t have time, we’re trying to fix the rooms so that everything will be ready. The flooring to my room is all done and this Friday, if there is money in hand, we’re gonna buy more flooring to complete the baby’s room. He’s gonna repaint the baby’s room and ceiling.
I know that all of this should have been done before. But, work wasn’t coming around well with my husband. And the week that there were lots of houses available for him to work with, he suffered a concussion. So therefore he had to take that week off to heal. Ugh!!
But thank goodness, his soccer team helped us out. My husband wins around 400 dollars weekly. And we didn’t think his team was gonna be able to raise enough money. The amount we’re used to, at least. I was shocked that my husband’s league handed us 405 dollars of donations from all the soccer players in the league and other people who helped out. I thought it was kind of funny because it was as if he worked the week before. I was very thankful to God. With the money, we bought the flooring. And other needs that the floor needed.
I’m so glad things are going a lot better. I can’t believe all the accomplishments we have made in the past two weeks. I hope things keep getting better. We can only pray.
Heya people. I’m Shreya and I’m from India. I’m 15 years.
Well, it’s been one and a half year. I’m dating a guy, and we both love each other too much. We even have had sex three times . But the problem starts from there. It was okay till this May. I was getting my periods, but from June, it stopped. I got my periods a week late in May, but from June on, no sign of it. We had sex last in April. Well, after that, in June, we twice did foreplay, but not sex. And both the times of foreplay, his sperms were all over my hand and I touched myself with my hand. Well, sometimes I feel an intense stomachache, and my boobs are a bit swollen. And I need to pee a lot also. Well, I told my parents that I am not getting my periods. They want me to do a pregnancy test. I’m too scared. What if I’m pregnant? If I’m pregnant, I don’t want an abortion. It’ll be my first baby, how can I let it go? My mind says so. But the circumstances would force me to abort my baby. In India, having sex before marriage is an offense and people would leave me and my family alone if they come to know that I have had sex and am pregnant now. 🙁 I’m praying to God all day and night to make my pregnancy test result negative. Even my guy also says he may leave me if I keep my child. Well, it’s not his fault. He has his family and his family won’t ever let him marry a single mom, even if the child is his. And I don’t wanna get married soon. If I become practical, I see the need to abort my baby, but my mind says not to abort.
I’m so scared… I think I should commit suicide. If I’m really pregnant, it’s gonna blacken the faces of my family. Better kill myself. 🙁
Ok, I have a little vent to get out here, please bear with me! I have seen and heard many people give arguments in regards to teen pregnancy….Some have been AGAINST people like us at Standupgirl.com….They ask and question WHY we encourage young girls to follow through in their pregnancy. Maybe because they write in saying THEY WANT TO HAVE THEIR BABY, THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE FORCED INTO ABORTION….Is not this battle between life and death based on CHOICE? Forgive me for encouraging a girl to FOLLOW HER CHOICE…..They say things like, ‘She doesn’t have a diploma’, ‘Working at a fast food restaurant with a baby is hard’, ‘Why bring a child to this earth to suffer’, ‘Will your relationship last’, ‘Get on Birth Control’, Oh and my FAVORITE, ‘You should be enjoying your youth’….Well, ladies…Is that NOT how we found ourselves PREGNANT…ENJOYING OUR YOUTH?
Dave Thomas, Founder of Wendy’s, Quentin Tarantino, World Famous actor and Director, Peter Jennings, World Known News Broadcaster. How about Julie Andrews, Mrs. Mary Poppins herself, Princess Diana, The list goes on and on and on. NONE OF THEM GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL!!! Are you going to let someone treat you like you are the worst thing to ever happen to a baby? “Don’t bring a child to this earth to suffer”…Like YOU being their mom is the worst thing ever….Oh, that makes me angry….Lasting relationships…Umm, back to Celebrities…How about Celebrities WITH babies….Brangelina? Tom Cruise, Nicole Kidman?…. It is not age or children that give us the ability to have a lasting relationship. It is commitment and we are ALL capable of it…..Birth Control… Hmmm, OK. So pump yourself full of artificial hormones that can potentially cause you harm, even though it does NOT guarantee 100% effectiveness to prevent pregnancy? Yep, that sounds like the solution there….(that is my sarcastic font)…Enjoying your youth…….Clearly, we have all “enjoyed” our youth a little too much when we find ourselves pregnant….Can you all at least agree to that? You know what I say? I say it with conviction and I say it from MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE…..I say LEARN A LESSON….Don’t make your baby pay with his/her life, You take the consequence, better yourself….They do NOT have grants and scholarships specifically for post-abortive women…They DO however have college opportunities SPECIFICALLY for young women with children…..I was that girl. I DID have to get on government assistance. I did work a crummy job. I had two senior years BEFORE I got pregnant. My relationships DIDN’T last, THANK GOD, I am not stuck with those loser jerks… I deserved and got SO much better. Oh, and I got pregnant with my second kid from a second father BEFORE I was able to start taking my birth control…..See….It gives you a false sense of security. It’s not worth it…
I didn’t have the crummy job forever. As a matter of fact, I have worked as a dental assistant and as a well-rounded funeral home assistant, both WELL paying jobs. During my years as a single mom, I learned many skills through odd jobs as well. I chose to stop having sex until my wedding night. I had no idea if I would ever have one, but I LEARNED…I was NOT going to put my trust in birth control. It is NOT 100% effective. I finally accepted that I DESERVE a REAL man. One who would wait for me, prove his love, and take me as his wife BEFORE he got me in bed….I am now married, going on 6 years (and yes we waited till our wedding night). I am now a stay-at-home mom. We own the home I PURCHASED WHILE BEING A SINGLE PARENT. We are DEBT FREE. I am NOT on government assistance. I am a business owner and entrepreneur. I help plan weddings and arrange wedding flowers and bouquets, I home-school my kids, and YES, I DO help single moms, I follow through….If I encourage a girl to keep her baby, You BET I will be there to help. I have helped MANY young moms learn to shop wisely and cook nutritious cost-effective meals. I am known to babysit here and there and bend over backward to help single moms…..And there are MANY MANY more people out there who want to help YOU.
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Don’t believe the lies….You CAN do it. You CAN succeed. You CAN better yourself. And You WILL be a WONDERFUL Mommy if you have enough love for your child to keep you pressing on….I did…Put on your blinders to the naysayers. Prove them wrong. Never be afraid to ask for or receive help. You WILL need it. Don’t feel guilty for it…You just hold your head high and take this journey one step at a time….Just learn from this, let it drive you on a more positive path….I am STILL enjoying my youth. My kids keep me young. They give me purpose, reason, and excitement for each new day…..I have just learned to enjoy it with a few less consequences…You will too.
<3 Much Love to all of you Stand Up Girls. Be Brave, Stand Your Ground, and Keep Your Eyes Fixed at the End of the Tunnel Where the Light is Waiting to Shine on You!
<3 Meg
To start off, I’m 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. My last period was June 14th. We have had unprotected sex a lot and I’m not on the pill anymore. I’ve been getting nauseous, my boobs are swollen, and I can’t touch them! I’ve been peeing a lot, am super tired, and am now 4 days late for my period. Exactly a week before it was due, I noticed a tiny amount of dark brown blood which only lasted two days. I took 2 tests last week, both negative.
Any advice on what I should do?
