I just turned 17 on April 9th. I am 25 weeks pregnant.
When I first found out, like most other girls, I was terrified. My boyfriend, who is 18 years old, really didn’t want a baby and he was leaning towards an abortion. Which is completely against my beliefs. We talked more about what each of us wanted and honestly, I too thought about having an abortion. But those thoughts didn’t last long. I finally got the courage to tell my mom and it was a lot harder than I ever thought it could be. But she was pretty cool about the situation, upset and hurt, but still supportive. My boyfriend and I went to the hospital and got to hear the heartbeat and see my baby and I knew that this was going to be an amazing opportunity, 16 years old or not.
My boyfriend, my mom, and I have all been going shopping for baby stuff. My boyfriend has been going with me to all my doctor’s appointments and he is extremely supportive and really excited to be a daddy. I can feel my baby kick and everytime I feel that little baby kick, I am so glad that I chose to grow up and accept responsibility. There is nothing more amazing. My boyfriend is in the navy and I am finishing up high school. I know life is going to be tough but I’m willing to work it out. I can’t even describe the love I feel for this baby. I would do anything for her.
I wish the best of luck to everyone going through this, but don’t focus on the bad or the hard things. Think about all the great things this can mean. Think of the good changes and affects this has on your life, not the negative ones. Not only for you but for your baby as well.
I don’t see myself as a mother to my child but just another girl who had an abortion.
On 7th March 2008 was the day my world fell apart. I aborted my 2nd child at 11 weeks. I had my first baby August 2007 and got pregnant when I was on the pill. I was going to continue with the pregnancy to start with and was bleeding at 5 weeks and had an early scan. My partner would support me either way but it was up to me. I was very confused and emotional and didn’t think I would cope with 2 children under 2.
I rushed into my abortion and now I am full of regret, guilt, and hate. I had no counseling, which I wanted, and was not fully informed of the aftereffects. I am different and my life will never be the same. As I feel I killed my baby. I keep wondering what if, how far, etc. I want another baby so badly that I feel all I see is newborns and bumps and think that should be me. Remember I made my choice and now wish I could rewind. I feel alone and people just expect me to get over it. I can’t. My baby should still be with me, growing, but I decided to end that and I regret it.
Please think before you act. Abortion is very hard and should not be taken lightly. I am only 25 years old and I have to live with this forever.
Hi, I’m 15 and 2 weeks ago, I found I was pregnant for the second time. I am now 5 weeks pregnant. The first time I got pregnant was when I was 13 years old. I chose the option to get an abortion because I knew that I couldn’t take care of a baby at that age.
It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I cried for so long after the procedure was done. I felt like I did a horrible thing. Till this day, I feel that I did a horrible thing. I promised myself if I ever got pregnant again that I would not get an abortion.
Exactly two years later, here I am again, pregnant again and by the same guy. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years exactly in June and I love him to death and we live together with his parents. The only problem is that he is 4 1/2 years older than me. He is way older than me but he doesn’t act his age at all. I have been through a lot in my life, so my maturity level is a lot more than most girls should be at my age. So in reality, I don’t look or act 15. Most people think I’m 18.
He is now 20 yet he looks and acts like he is 16 or 17. I do believe you’re as old as you act and that age shouldn’t matter. Anyways, I don’t want him to get in trouble with the law for getting me pregnant. I have talked to my family and they said I can just tell them I don’t know who the father is and they will leave me alone. Is that true? But I don’t want some random person to find out and anonymously report him as a sex offender and then I would never be able to see him again and I can’t handle that. I don’t know what to do.
All I know is that I don’t want to get another abortion as much as all my friends are telling me to do so. I can’t go through that again. Please someone, give me some advice on what to do. This is an emergency! Thanks.
So he’s currently deployed.
It’s every day or at least every other day we talk to each other for 1 to 2 hours. We’re at the level of best friends and I enjoy it. I’m getting help with all the pain attached to the procedure experience. In March, I enlisted in the army for the fact I’m not eligible for financial aid to go to college, I need insurance and a little discipline wouldn’t hurt. I’ve graduated and this Sunday, I’m attending the actual ceremony to set in stone that I graduated high school. But this whole time since I’ve “graduated” has been nothing but work, therapy, airsofting, and preparing for basic training. I can’t say it will be a cake walk but it will be tough, test my issues, and slowly pull away from playing mother to my little bro. I can’t have kids anymore but it’s becoming less of an issue once the fact was absorbed.
Well, that’s all. I got drill this morning and I gotta wake up to go to Emporia.
PVT
I’m 17 and 3 months pregnant.
We have dated for only about 4 months but we got REALLY serious, REALLY fast.
We had actually talked about what we would do if I were to get pregnant somehow. I’ve always said I would get an abortion. I never had a second thought. I honestly didn’t think I would get pregnant, but I knew I wouldn’t be ready for a baby for a long time. Well, one day at work, I just felt weird and the first thing I thought was “Oh my God, I’m pregnant”. I wasn’t even late for my period yet, but I knew. I bought a test on my break and went to the Food Lion bathroom and to my utter shock, it said pregnant. I really didn’t know what to do. I just went back to work with my eyes wide. I was so out of it, I kept ringing people up wrong and giving the wrong change. My boyfriend was at Busch Gardens that day. I had texted him and told him we needed to talk and he texted “I’m @ busch gardens. I don’t want 2 talk. BYE”. I was already ill that I wasn’t at Busch Gardens because all his friends had taken their girlfriends. I don’t know, it just hurt my feelings. So I texted back “I’m pregnant. BYE”. He was mad that I wasn’t getting an abortion and saying that I was ruining his life.
Every now and then, we would get into big arguments but It always ended up OK. But ever since I told him I was pregnant, everything has changed. He calmed down for a while and supported me and was sweet. Then I decided I DID want to get an abortion. I had so many dreams. I felt like my baby would hold me back. But I kept putting it off and having an excuse not to go to the clinic. Throughout these couple weeks, we had broke up. We hadn’t talked in about 2 weeks when I called him to tell him I was keeping the baby.
What made me decide to keep it was when I watched Juno. That sounds really dumb but just seeing how happy the mom was at the end when Juno gave her a baby made me cry. And he doesn’t get it. I mean, I get sick all the time and nauseous and like that shows me that the baby is THERE. Like it is affecting me. The things it does to me makes it so much more real. I wish he could understand.
Anyways, after I told him that, he turned into like super boyfriend. He was so sweet and nice and wanted to go to the doctor- everything. Slowly though, he got ill again. I couldn’t even count all the times he told me I ruined everything for him. He once said I was a gold digger and got pregnant on purpose. He says the nastiest things to me. All I do is cry. He literally makes me want to kill myself. I am so depressed because of him. Things were going good for about 4 days (a record here lately) then today, he got pissed because I wanted to know what he was doing. We’re not talking now and I am crazy and stupid, according to him anyway.
I just wish he could support me and help me. I wish he got my moods. I wish he didn’t ask me to give him a back massage when MY back is killing me. I really wish though that I didn’t love him so much. I want him so bad I just do everything he says. All we do anymore is have sex and fight. It makes me feel like absolute garbage!
It sounds really stupid but I feel like if I still have sex with him, I will still kind of have him. Like if I don’t have sex with him, I will lose him FOR GOOD. I have such a twisted mind about him. He treats me so badly but I let him. I always said I wouldn’t be that girl but it’s what I’ve become. I’m trying to not talk to him because it’s just a matter of time before he apologizes and wants to have sex. I usually fall for it and then it goes right back to how it was. But I’m going to try not to now.
It sucks a lot though because part of me wants us to be together for my baby. I want him at my appointments and I want to go baby shopping with him. He used to be so different. I wish I could get him back how he was.
I miss him. But the way he treats me stresses me out and I don’t need that right now.
I’ve started a new blog about coming full circle. Check it out…
http://www.joyinthemourning.blogspot.com
