The Plan

Ever since I was like eight years old, I’ve known I wanted to find Mr. Right, travel the world, and then settle down and have a family. I’ve also dreamed of living in the city and partying every night with my friends *but just for like a year…I love the country wayy too much to stay away* …. I’ve wanted to start orphanages all over the world….and become a flight attendant that way I can travel n experience different things….but life has its surprises…

Most are wayy out there and SUPER life changing…like getting a job in a different state or even country….or falling in love n getting married….OR having a baby… It’s LIFE…. n it hurts and can crush you n make you question who you are and what you’ve become…but it can also be soooooooo beautiful… .I’m scared to death of what is coming down the road within the next five years….within the next seven months even. But I know that God wouldn’t make a mountain I can’t climb…not to say having a baby is easy, but I think it’s going to be okay. I know my life is going to change drastically… It already has… My life has done a complete 360. The way it was four months ago is soooooooooo completely different from the way it is now. But I’m expecting that it’s okay… it’s the way my life was meant to be…I’m going to be a young unwed mother working at MacDonald’s 🙂 lol Makes me sound pretty pessimistic….But it’s the truth…But I know ima be a good mommy… It just wasn’t in my plans for right now…But that’s life huh… It takes ya by surprise…Sheesh, I feel like I’m mumbling and I’m not entirely sure what I’m really even saying lol. I have so many emotions right now…. They’re always between scared for my life to being sooooo happy and excited to being mad about the way everything is going… A baby was not in the plan, remember lol. But hey, I’ve always wanted to have kids…Sometimes I still think this is all just a dream, you know…Ima wake up n not be in the position I’m in. But I don’t think it is 🙂 N that’s okay… Cuz Ima be fine… My baby is gonna be fine. I might never be the CEO of some big company or live in some mansion on the good side of town, but that was never in the plan…

The New Plan *As of now*
1.Keep putting away some money for college *online is only $44 a month* YAY
2.Build up some credit that way we can buy a house in a few years YAY YAY lol
And keep pursuing my dreams… They aren’t too far out of reach…N I know I can do anything if I set my mind to it…And now I have to more than ever for my baby. I can’t let him/her down! 🙂

So far…

Wow, first time writing… I’m 16, I’m six months pregnant on Nov. 8th, and right now, I’m dealing with having H1N1.

I’m pretty much over the worst of it though and it helped having my baby nudge me along. I live with my parents, my boyfriend broke up with me after he found out I wanted to keep the baby. He’s 22. He now has a new girlfriend who threatened to make me lose the baby if she ever saw me trying to contact him. On October 16th, he brought me to my doctor’s appointment and then left me outside of Walmart for 7 hours, saying he’d be back in 30 min. I left my ultrasound pictures in his truck and no matter how many times I beg him, he won’t give them back. Recently, he contacted me saying he wasn’t sure if he loved his girlfriend and that he made a big mistake breaking up with me… But I’m not sure I want to go back with him, after everything he did. There’s been someone else helping me though. I like him and he says he likes me too. He doesn’t care if I’m pregnant. I’m still going to school and it’s getting pretty hard with everyone talking about me and spreading rumors, but I’ve learned who my friends are that way. Everyone keeps talking about how I should’ve aborted my baby, but I know I couldn’t have. I already love him/her and nothing would have been able to replace that.

I may not be ready, but I’m slowly making my way towards being ready.

A plea to all woman out there NOT to abort.. Here’s my story!

Hi to all frightened pregnant women out there,

Two years ago, I fell pregnant.  My current boyfriend at that time did not care about me and was too selfish to even consider my feelings.  When he found out that I was pregnant, he ran away so fast. He stopped calling me and did not return any of my calls either.

Despite this, I was happy to become a mommy.  I had just obtained my degree and had a good enough job to support the baby.  Just when I thought I could do this, 9 weeks into the pregnancy I found out that my baby was severely deformed.  Doctors told me that the baby would not live past 1 week after being born, if born at all.  Abortion was my only option.  I had gone to 4 doctors and they all refused to handle my pregnancy due to the severity of the deformation.

I made the difficult choice of aborting my baby.  It is something that I still can’t get over to this day.  I think about my baby every day.

I am now married to an incredible man, that loves me.  At present, I’m unable to conceive and my past choice now haunts me even more.  Sometimes I feel that my choice to kill my first child has led to me never being able to be blessed with another baby again.  I wasn’t given the choice by doctors but in the end, it is I that needs to answer to God one day.  God has forgiven me but I still need to forgive myself.  This has been a difficult journey but I know that I can make it.

If you have your baby, you may face difficulties now being parents’ disapproval, school pressures, etc. but it is a decision that you will never regret.

I ask you, no, I beg you…. Please don’t see abortion as an option.  It’s a decision that you will never be able to live with.  It’s a decision that may cost you more when you want to be happy with your husband.

Sometimes I feel anger towards woman that still make a decision to abort their healthy babies but I know that it is their choice in the end.

I hope my story has changed your mind.

Regards,

SAgirl

Am I pregnant?

I have felt pain in my nipples 2 weeks ago and I think I am pregnant. But I, yesterday, had menstruation, and my nipples are so sensitive to touch, and there are veins across near on my nipples. Is this the symptoms of early pregnancy? We made love with my husband on October 15 evening. Did, I am pregnant now? I am happy if I am pregnant. It’s 3 years now, waiting on this, hope we will have a baby soon…

Hope to hear good comments… Thanks.

2x 13 months

I have never been so confused in my life.

September 2, I found out I was pregnant with my first child. I never thought about abortion or adoption and I delivered my precious son, Cayden Malachi on April 12. After 4 months, I realized I was unable to be a full-time pre-med student, hold a full-time job, and be a full-time mother. I was 18 years old when he was born. I was so blessed that some very close (family member type) friends adopted him and let me see him on a very consistent basis…

Fast forward to October 27… I am pregnant. AGAIN!?!?!  My baby’s daddy is my best friend. We used to date at one point, but it didn’t really work out.  We are still very very close and sleep together on a regular basis.  Apparently, the birth control shot I was taking had worn off. Anyways, to make matters worse, my father is a music pastor, and my mother… well, she can be a real @$$ sometimes. The father and I have been discussing our options. He also has an 18 month old child with another woman. He swears that he will not tell his parents about our child whether we chose abortion, adoption, or to keep the baby. I don’t agree with abortion, but right now, its seeming to be the only option there is. My body suffered so bad through my last pregnancy. I don’t know if I can be pregnant for 18 months almost solid!!!!!!!

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had an abortion 3 years ago ……..

Hello

I’m 25 years old. I’m here because I can’t really talk to nobody about my abortion and that’s killing me. My story is I was dating a guy for 3 years. We always just talked about having a family together. He was the first guy I had sex with. I lost my virginity with him when I was 20 years old. I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the news. I never expected his answer. He changed right away. He told me it was not his, that he didn’t want nothing to do with me, that I was just a H*E. Wow, he just broke my heart. I was in so much pain. I couldn’t tell my parents, they are really old-fashioned. I felt like my world had ended. I could trust nobody.

He called me to meet him at the park. I thought he had changed his mind, I was so wrong. He threw $400.00 in my face and said “Do what you have to do. I don’t want that shit.” I couldn’t believe that the man I loved was telling me that. I threw the money back at him, but he played with my emotions, making me more scarred than I was. I felt I didn’t had an exit. Telling my parents I was pregnant and the guy didn’t want to do nothing with me was not an option. I fear my parents. They are so closed minded. I love them so much but they have gave me all the material things and never showed me how much they love me…

I decided to have the abortion. I didn’t know how far I was. He took me. I was crying since I got there. I told him how much I hated him, he didn’t care. I was done having the abortion. I still couldn’t believe what I had done. He took me to my car. I had it drive to my house, so weak. He left me like a piece of trash on my luck. That night, he called me and asked me, “How you feeling”. I was still crying. I told him I felt so bad. Why me? He just told me I don’t want no more drama. I just clicked. I was for 3 days in my dark room, not knowing if it was day or night, just by myself: sleeping, crying, didn’t talked to no body. I felt like I was death. Every day, I remind myself I had other options. I felt really bad I killed an innocent baby, I have never had peace after that. I can’t enjoy life. It’s so hard for me to be happy…. I hate myself for doing that. I wish I had never than that.

Wow, I feel so guilty ……….