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I was young when I got pregnant and it was hard telling my parents. They wanted me to get an abortion at first but I just said I could not do it. I felt so alone and scared – for me and the baby. My boyfriend (now my husband) was suportive but it was hard because he put me in the middle of my parents. he resented them for wanting me to have an abortion. I live in the south (bible belt), straight – a honor student, even passed up a full academic scholarship to have the baby. It was so hard at first because you feel like your parents will hate you and people will look at you differently and even get ashamed. But I am telling you, this did not last long. My parents came around and I do not know what I would do with out my little 7 year old girl now. It was hard but worth it – 100%. there is nothing like being a mommy and like someone said, there is a reason for everything you may not see it now. I have 2 babies, and pregnant again. My family is not rich, but we are not poor – we have what we need and it did work out. i see the bigger picture now. I know you are scared but the best support you will have is from your parents. they may get upset, but I promise they will stll love you and when they see the sonogram and feel the baby, their hearts will melt. Please let them know so you can get a check up and make sure all is well! i wish you the best of luck and will pray for you.
Please do not leave this site. You need all of the support you can get. If you need anyone to talk to, please email me. I worry about you being so sad – I know these feelings are natural but I know my lord will ease your heart with time. Again, please do not leave.
I encourage anyone that is considering abortion to watch this video – it is not gross but it gives you a view of what the baby goes through. The video is of an abortion that you see through ultrasound. it is not gory. It basically shows you that the baby is scared and tries to use its insticts of survival even in the womb – but it is not a match for an abortionist. I hope this does not offend anyone – i am not trying to preach about not getting an abortion – just to look at it from this perspective.
Send an email to me through my profile. It always helps to have someone to talk to who has been there. I am here for you anythime!
I have been in your situation and I know where you are right now. you are depressed – thinking I will fail my husband if i don’t do it but fail the little life inside if I do. It makes me angry that men try to pressure women into something like this like we did it on our own. I went through a lot and after many heart breaking talks with my husband and crying spells I decided that I had to stand up what was right for me. If he wanted to dio it with me and have the baby great – if not I would prosper from having another baby and he could just be lonely and have regrets. i told my husband how i felt and it was not easy, but he did come around. I am 5 months now and he keeps telling me I need to eat, or I need to be careful, etc. he is concerned and there for me and he said the exact same thing you described your hysband as saying. I hope the best for you and hope that my story can give you the courage to do what is right for you. There are many reasons you can come up with to not have a baby but there is always a reason to have it that will not change and somehow get you through the hard times – love.
I was in the exact same situation a couple of months ago. I told my husband (we already have 2 kids – 7 years old and 5 years old) that I was pregnant and he told me to get an abortion. He said we can’t afford it. He told me if I chose to keep the baby I would be a single mother and that I would have to move out. He told me awful things that really hurt. I made my decision that he helped to make this baby and if he did not want us then he did not love us and I decided to tell him I would leave and somehow make it with out him. I am keeping my baby – that is what I WANT. I did it for me! So, I did tell him and do you know what he said? He immediately started back tracking. He told me he could not lose his family and he even started saying things like this baby deserves a chance to live. It caught me off guard. he even cried and told me how much he loved me and did not want to lose us. So, long story short, I stood up for what I wanted. Do not get me wrong, there was some tough times but he came around. He is telling everyone now and is so excited. He wants a boy. : ) I look at him and think, what if I would have went through with it just becuase he wanted it at the time. We would probably be separated because I could not have lived with myself and things would have probably been worse. I have been there and learned, if he really loves you he will stick with you. It may take some time for him to get used to (if you tell him you want to keep the baby) but I am telling you do not do this for him. Read my blog – I have been in some pretty tough times with pregnancy and we still pull through – with the babies! : ) Let me know if you need to talk – you can email me.
