I am 7 months pregnant, I just turned 17 and I am still with my boyfriend but he is not the father of my child.
At first, I was scared of being pregnant. How am I going to provide, how will I finish school, how will I tell my mom. But long before I knew it, I started to think like a mom, things began to become easier and started to fall into place. And now I cannot be any happier. I’m going to be a mom.
For those out there, anything you may be going through, feel free to talk or ask me, I’ve been there, done that, and I’m still going. I would like to share anything I can because I know how scary things can be.
This is the first time I have shared my story of my pregnancy and my baby girl properly.
When I was in College, I got pregnant by my long-term boyfriend and although a shock at the time, we soon became very excited by the prospect of becoming parents. We both love kids and come from large families so knew we could do it and have support. Unfortunately, the excitement was fairly short-lived. At only 24 weeks, I started to get cramps, immediately went to the doctor’s who told me I was going into labour. My heart sank, I knew that my baby girl would be too small and was not ready to come into the world. But there was nothing that could be done when we got to the hospital as I was already 8 cm dilatated.
My baby girl was born on October 4th, 2004, we named her Mya. She was so tiny but so beautiful. However, our worst fears were confirmed. Her little body was too small and fragile to fight for long. She died the same day. Mine and my boyfriend’s world fell apart, but through everything, we had each other and slowly, life goes on.
It has now been 3 and a half years since our baby girl came into the world and left us. Me and my boyfriend are still together and are stronger than ever. There is not a day goes past when we don’t think about her, and we hope she knows that we love her and always will. We are beginning to look to starting a family again in the future, but know that no child will ever replace Mya. She will be forever in our hearts and minds and we will always cherish the few precious minutes we had with her.
I know there are girls on this website that have unfortunately been through similar situations. /i felt the time was right to share my story and try to help others in the same situation. It anyone needs support or advice, I don’t claim to be an expert, but just leave me a message.
Hi Everyone,
I am so happy you are stopping by to read this. I hope that it will guide some of you that are in a very tough stage in life. You may have an unplanned pregnancy and have no clue what to do. You may feel like the world is on your shoulders and you can’t think straight. This BABY is scaring you and you are looking for answers. Some of you are thinking of Abortion. Some of you think there is no way you could do that and are thinking of adoption but heck where do you start with that? And some of you want to parent this child but know that everyone around you will judge you and get angry with that decision. Some of you are thinking how the heck do I tell my parents I am pregnant and what are they going to make me do? Let me tell you one thing if nothing else. YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND YOU HAVEN’T BEEN FOR A VERY LONG TIME. Women all over the world right now are in your situation. Some of those countries have legal abortion and some don’t. Some are going to allow adoption to good families and some aren’t.
In America, we have many choices. You only need to see that by walking to a grocery store and the walls are lined with a thousand different ketchups. Isn’t it all made from tomatoes?
If you are pregnant in America ,you have 3 choices: abortion, parenting and adoption. I chose abortion 2 times in my life and I chose parenting 2 times. Out of those 2 choices, parenting was the way to go. People are going to ask you later in life if you have more kids, “How many kids do you have”. I tell them I have two here on earth and 2 in heaven. If you have an abortion, that is where you child will go. If you have an abortion, that maybe the only child you will ever have.
After 15 years and 4 pregnancies later, I decided that my life was a mess and I needed to make some changes. I went to a healing study for women that have had abortions. Here’s the part that we are not told when we decide to have an abortion. Later in life, you will realize that it was a child and you will be lost. Through the healing study, I was allowed to grieve my children and have a memorial for them to connect with 2 children whose lives where ended with a choice to have an abortion.
This is just a short summary of my life and if you have made it this far in reading, then I hope that you will contact me. I am a 34 year old single mom that has found laughter in life. My goal is to share my story with other young ladies that are in an unplanned pregnancy, let them know their options, and if you have had an abortion and you are lost and feel terrible, I will help you to understand why and how to get past that awful feeling that you are nobody for having an abortion.
I am now a trained post abortion counselor and next year will be on the road talking to young men and women about the truth of abortion, how to heal from an abortion and really truly move on from the choice they made or are thinking of making.
If you are still reading and would like to throw some comments my way, could you please answer this question-
If I was in an unplanned pregnancy, I would not have an abortion if I knew ?????
If you have had an abortion, what would it have taken to not have made that choice?
OK, basically I want to know how soon after you have unprotected sex can you take a pregnancy test?
My period already came on for the month of April. I recently stopped using my birth control, I was on the patch. Me and my boyfriend are trying to conceive. I took my patch off on April 24th and haven’t had one on since then. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex since then with the exception of April 29th and 30th due to me having irregular bleeding because I’m not on the patch anymore. I was told I should take a pregnancy test on Monday 5/5, but I want to know. Isn’t that too soon to be able to tell if I’m pregnant? I’ve been experiencing pregnancy symptoms as well. My stomach feels crampy, I feel dizzy like I’m going to pass out, having morning sickness, mood swings, can’t sleep at night really restless. My boyfriend swears I’m pregnant but I don’t want to get my hopes up just to be disappointed.
If anyone can give me some advice, it would be greatly appreciated.
When I first discovered I was pregnant with my Daughter, I was scared, didn’t know what to do. Didn’t know how to tell the guy I was pregnant by.
I thought to myself he will accept it. Everything would be okay. But coming to find out I was wrong. One day, I sent him a text message explaining to him I was pregnant with his child. Later on that night, he called. It wasn’t what I expected. He told me I had to have an abortion right away. I cried so hard and tried to convince him to let me keep it. Then for awhile, he disappeared on me. I was lost, not knowing what to do. No one to hold my hand and help me make the right choice. Finally, I made my mind up when I was two months. My choice was to keep my seed. I look at it as a blessing.
Only thing was left was to tell my mom. I didn’t know how she would react. Finally, I was brave enough. When I told her, she said I was to have an abortion right away. So she gave me a choice to have an abortion, if not, move out her house. I moved out my mother’s house and into my grandmother’s one bedroom apartment. When I began to hold my head down and thought everything was going bad, God sent me a blessing. My child father walked back in the picture. Everything start looking up for me. Then the storm really came. My grandparent’s drug use now became my burden. It was a time I didn’t have any food to eat. They would steal my money and do me so wrong. That was a down point in my life. Then my storm brightened. I found my father who took me in. I found a new loving family who accepted me being a teen mom.
After going through all that, I have beautiful daughter Samia who is 6 months. She was blessing that change my life for the good.
I AM 19 AND 5 WEEKS PREGNANT.
MY BOYFRIEND IS WORKING AND FINANCIALLY STABLE AT THE MOMENT BUT I AM IN SCHOOL DOING MY MEDICAL DEGREE. IT’S ONLY MY FIRST YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO TAKE THE YEAR OFF AFTER HIGH SCHOOL TO RAISE OUR FIRSTBORN. AT THE MOMENT, I AM REALLY CONSIDERING AN ABORTION BUT I AM SCARED TO DEATH!!
CAN ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH IT PLEASE HELP ME!
