I’m 20. I’m my cousin’s live-in nanny. I should have never taken the risk and slept with anyone knowing how hard it is to look like you’re 16 and have people look down at you in the grocery store. But I did. and now, I have this wicked feeling I’m pregnant.
I’ve been feeling sick and I’m a few days late. Best part is, the possible baby’s father, my boyfriend(24), is moving out of the country in three weeks. We’ve already had a few conversations about abortion (we both do not agree with it), and he has flat-out told me he was scared of me getting pregnant, that he couldn’t afford a child right now, and neither can I. He would be gone a whole year, missing me being pregnant and the baby being born. I can’t support myself, much less a baby! I’m in my second year at the local community college. I don’t have time for a real, money-paying job because I am always watching my cousin’s babies, a 2 1/2 yr old and a 9-month-old. How would having a baby work right now? I have no idea how. The cheapest apartments over here are 600/month , and I would still need baby gear, which I suppose craigslist would be a godsend but still, it’s a lot when you don’t even have a job to start out with. I don’t think I could swing it, and I don’t think I could live with either an abortion or giving the baby to a couple who couldn’t have children.
My boyfriend and I are old enough to have known better than to trust birth control pills. I don’t know what he, or his extremely Baptist family, will say about this. His little brother is getting married in three weeks. He is leaving for a year, his parents are retiring this year. I’m living with family, my mom and close friends don’t even live in this state cuz I moved here to help my cousin out… What do I do? And what if it’s TWINS??? I’m a twin! My mother is a twin! My grandfather was a twin, his mother had EIGHT sets of twins (Greece, in the 1800’s, she was married at 13 and dead at 26. Wonder why.)
Oh, I don’t even know where to begin to end this post. Please, anyone with any advice on what to do if I am pregnant?
Here’s my story…
I’m 18 years old, and 3 months pregnant. The father of my baby completely abandoned me, saying that I cheated on him with my boss and that it’s really his. He demands a DNA test… which I will get when the baby is born, but if he thinks I’m gonna put that little life at risk, he’s got another thing coming. He’s blocked me from his life, Facebook \ MSN \ anything, I’ve gotten rid of my cell phone so I would stop getting harassing text messages from his friends, one of which wants to kick me in the stomach and kill the baby, or I quote in his words, have the baby in the alley, it’ll do you good. My father’s girlfriend let me know about this site and I was pretty interested. You all have really interesting stories and to know that I’m not alone in the least… makes me feel so good, but at the same time, I know that a lot of you are going through so much…
I started seeing my ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years before I found out I was pregnant. When I told him I was pregnant, he was kinda excited. He thought it was his. Then when I explained that it wasn’t his, and he had no clue I had been seeing someone else while we were broke up for a few months. He was devastated. He started calling me every name in the book, saying and promising he’d stand by me anyways, and then telling me off everyday, making me feel completely useless. Then there’s my best friend who promised she’d be there, about a week or 2 after she found out I was pregnant, I didn’t see her, talk to her, or hear from her in weeks just when I thought she wanted something. I was raised by my father sole-ly cause my mom died when I was a baby, and he raised me pretty decent and although I tell him absolutely everything, I find this really hard to talk about.
I considered abortion. My current ex/boyfriend (whatever he is ), they both wanted abortions. Then when the baby’s father read up on abortions he really thought it was in my best nature to have it. I mean I didn’t wanna get rid of it in the first place, and its not someone else’s decision… Then my ( whatever he is ) tried to tell me that he was gonna take me to Cuba in December and ask me to marry him in the fall of 2011, but only if I’d get an abortion… That’s sick in my opinion… Basically, I kinda wanna get some of your opinions on this, or advice or anything.
Keep in mind guys, I really do love my whatever he is. I just don’t know what to think anymore.
O my sweet love, you are out there somewhere,
on the wings of an angel.
You have been placed in your mother’s tummy.
You don’t know it yet,
but you are loved by so many.
Your mother fights for your life,
a fight she will not lose.
Abortion she will not allow,
she knows you’re alive.
She may not be ready or able to give all that you need,
but she loves you enough to do the best that
she knows how.
She will meet a couple that will love not only you,
but her as well.
With open arms, she is invited,
to enjoy your life and share in your love.
Her hurt few will know,
Her courage; a glorious show!
Tears will fall,
both of sadness and joy,
but your life is worth it all.
You will have two mothers,
one, an angel on earth,
the other, a soul filled with love and hope,
praying for your life.
As such is a beautiful opera
your first cry,
we all await.
You are tiny right now,
but you are strong,
You are My Angel, You are My Hope,
You are my life’s opera.
I’m fourteen years old.
I met a boy in February, and I fell in love with him immediately. So in love that I wanted to lose my virginity to him! Inside my heart, deep, deep down… I wanted a child with him.
All I thought about was the cute little chubby face and the fun time we’d spend together with our baby and I thought he’d become so much closer to me and we’d be like our own little family.
So…I had sex with him without any sort of protection and now I’m PREGNANT.
But now, I don’t want to be pregnant anymore. I think about if he leaves me and I’m only FOURTEEN! I just began high school and I’m not ready for a little baby to have to feed, take care of, etc.
I told my mom and his mom. We went to the doctors today. My mom is against abortion and will not let me have one no matter what. So my boyfriend wanted me to get an abortion, he’s only fifteen by the way.
Anyways, we decided on adoption. I’m really skinny so I don’t think anyone will be able to tell.
What do you think? Please, give me your suggestions!
I am 15, going on 16 in a month, and I really want a baby.
I have picked out names, clothes, baby gear, furniture, EVERYTHINGGG. I know how hard it will be and I know the money it is gunna suck up… I know I might….WILL prolly lose friends…but I am willing to risk it. I just need advice as to what I should do.
Should I follow what my heart has been saying to me, for the past 8 years I thought I was meant to be a teen mom, or should I worry about what people will say??
Been to see the doctors today after spending much of last night at the hospital with fears of an ectopic pregnancy(again) or a miscarriage.
Luckily everything seems OK for now. I am going back for a scan tomorrow so fingers crossed. Even though this angel wasn’t planned and the dad and I aren’t really getting on, (I think I am going to be alone through this pregnancy too), after what happened last night, I feel so sure that I will be ok when my new baby arrives. Even though I am feeling a mixture of emotions, I feel blessed and so so lucky. Would love to hear from others in the same situation or anyone who would like to chat. xxx
Write again soon.
chilipepper
