On Feb 23rd 2008, I went along with the procedure.
I had everyone telling me that it was the right thing to do, that the father was a loser and would never be there, and deep down inside, I knew they were right. After the procedure, I hid the pain and emptiness well. I never talked about it in front of anyone.
I just found out a few weeks ago I am 6 weeks pregnant. The father and I are no longer together but we are still friends. He has other children and he is not with their mothers either. Well, he wants me to have an abortion. He doesn’t want another child from a broken family. It frustrates me when he says that because I told him just because we do not live together and are not in a relationship doesn’t mean that we both can’t be there for the baby. I don’t think he realizes the medical risks, let alone the mental or emotional stress it causes.
I don’t know how get him to understand how i feel…
I saved my virginity for almost eighteen years, and I finally slept with a guy I have been in love with for three years.
Nothing went according to plan. I wasn’t even planning on sleeping with him that day, and within minutes, the one thing I held dear to my heart had been given away. Now almost a week later, I am so paranoid that I am pregnant and I don’t know what to do. I’m stressing so much I can’t even think straight. I feel like I have a fever and my stomach is in knots. I’m so tired. I don’t know what to do.
I honestly just want to die at this point. No, I’m not saying I’m suicidal, but I’m so scared. I don’t know what to do.
I was 15 years old and so much in love. Me and my boyfriend had been dating close to 8 months and it seemed so perfect until I told him I might be pregnant.
All he could say was you better get rid of it and make it go away. I was so hurt. Around that same time, my parents were lookin’ to relocate and I didn’t dare breathe a word of this to them… I was lost and confused and hurt all at the same time. My boyfriend gave me a single pill and told me to take it, that it would take care of our problems… I took it that Friday and nothing happened. I didn’t know what to think and then that Saturday, we had finished moving all our stuff and Sunday, we went to church…
After church that Sunday, I was cramping so bad it felt like someone was stabbing a knife into my stomach… I went to the bathroom and I was bleeding so bad like I had never bled in my life… I just broke down. I could feel the life draining from my body… It was over… I told my boyfriend and he said good, you took care of it. And he was happy while I was standin’ there with tears running down my face…
Needless to say, we broke up but to this day, I live with that pain….
I’m 15 and I think I’m 4 weeks pregnant (not so sure because until now I didn’t do any pregnancy test).
Well actually, I did once after I had a sex (10/2) and I did a pregnancy test (10/13)and it’s negative. I don’t know why I did some crazy test although I know that I’m not… Actually supposed to be my period for the month of October will be (10/18-10/20)…and after we had a sex in 10/2… We did it again in 10/8,10/13,10/14,10/15… And until now, my period didn’t come!!!…. So I’m so so so stressed about Am I Pregnant??…
This few weeks, I felt some symptoms of being pregnant like…
_vomiting
_tiredness
_frequent urination
_dizziness
_of course what i said i missed my period
_constipation
_sometimes I’m so irritate of something i can’t explain
_nausea….
I can’t do some pregnant test because I’m scared also of what will be the result…and what I should do if it’s positive? How can I tell to my parents? They sure would kill me and of course, how I’ll tell to the boy who is responsible for this because he say so he’s not ready…
OK BOUT my boy actually, he is not my boy friend… He’s just my brod (in our fraternity-sorority) and a good friend of mine… I fall for him because of his sweetness, caring… I don’t know, I’m just comfortable with him..!! Well, I know he has a girl friend… Although I know it, still I do that thing SEX with him… How stupid Am I, right… Because I really really love him… He have a problem with her, girl, because his girl friend has no time for him, so I have… So every time we get to a party, I’m with him… I know and I felt it. He is happy with me but the thing is still, I’m not his girl friend and that’s my mistake…!!!
About 2 weeks, when my period missed, I talked to him. I went to their house… I just want to know his answers and if he is ready…because I’m so scared at that time too…because I’m two weeks delay on my period. So I want to ask him. I said to him that I think I’m pregnant and he’s sooooooo shocked and asked me if I did some pregnant test and I said NO and I don’t want to. We’re shouting each other because he said so that he was afraid if her girl friend know about this problem and all he said to me that if it’s true that I’m pregnant ,he wants to ABORT it… And that thing is, I don’t want to… So I said to him that I don’t even need you and until now, we have no communication…!!!
Ahhh, how stupid I am, right? But still, I DO LOVE HIM..!!!
It all started when I met a boy. I was only fourteen, he was almost twenty. Looking back, I can’t believe how blinded I was. He told me I was beautiful. I was the oldest of five kids and not used to so much attention. For the first few months, he was so sweet. We kissed a lot but not much more. After a while, he told me he had needs and me, being so innocent, believed him. The first time hurt but I kept quiet. He told me how much more he loved me. We had sex about once or twice a week for a few months, he said he always used a condom. About a month later, I realized I wasn’t getting my period. I was always very right on time. Then came the throwing up. I pretty much knew I was pregnant and told him. When he dropped me off at my house that night, he didn’t say much…That was the last time I saw him.
So here I was fourteen, pregnant, alone, and didn’t know what to do. About a week after I found out, my mom came into the bathroom early one night and asked me why I kept throwing up… I just started to cry and she screamed for my dad. They both wanted me to get a abortion but I wouldn’t. I loved this man who made our baby. I had a vision of me and him in our own house with a little blue eyed baby. My parents were livid. They took me to a OB/GYN and I found out I was about 6 weeks pregnant. My dad had to go to Iraq so here was mom with five kids all under fourteen with one pregnant. She said I could be home schooled until the baby was born then give it up.
Fast forward six months later…
We…I mean my mom decided I need to get a closed adoption. My sibs don’t really know what going on. I am an expert at hiding my belly but am still never allowed out of the house.
I have developed a close bond with my baby who, a few months ago, found out was a girl. I am dreading the day I will have to give her up. Every kick she gives me reminds me we only have so much time. My mom is still very unsupportive and is looking forward to the day this is all behind us. I never will be the same again.
Four months ago, I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time. After having 2 abortions in the past year, I told myself that no matter what the situation was, I would never have another abortion.
It’s not as easy as people say, abortions are a terrible thing to go through, both physically and emotionally. So when I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time, the 2nd pregnancy with my current boyfriend, I knew I was going to keep the baby. My boyfriend always said he wanted to have a baby with me, although we both knew that this was not the best time since we are both young, we don’t have a lot of money, we are still in college, and oftentimes, still depend on our parents. I knew that when my dad found out I was having a baby, he would freak out and stop talking to me and cut off all financial help. And that is exactly what happened.
He was paying my bills, college tuition, and giving me extra spending money. But when he found out I was pregnant… and even worse, pregnant with a black man, he cut off all that money and stopped talking to me. I am now working at a strip club because I don’t know how else to make enough money to pay for school and everything else. My boyfriend and I just moved out of our nice two bed, two bath apartment and into his parents’ house so we can save money until the baby is here. We are lucky to have the rest of our families supporting us and helping out when we need it. We just found out a couple days ago that we are having a baby girl. Even though life is extremely difficult right now, pregnancy is a beautiful thing and I feel so blessed to be healthy and have a beautiful healthy baby girl growing inside of me. I am now 2O weeks and 4 days pregnant and our baby is due on march 27th.
I pray everyday that everything will work out OK and my baby and I will stay healthy for the rest of the pregnancy and after she is born.
