I’m 14, turning 15 in a couple of days.
And I have a boyfriend… We have been going out for 4 months now. And we have talked about sex
and I have told him since we started dating that I’m not ready. Because I’m a virgin. He says that he’s gonna wait for me until we get married…Which is in like 2 years… But sometimes when I’m with him, it gets so tempting… And I try to calm myself down but sometimes, I just can`t…
And I think about it… And it’s so hard because I have no one to talk to… He tells me that if I get pregnant, he will take responsibility. I am so in love with him… But I’m not ready to have sex… I want to.,. I really do, but I can`t right now… I’m so confused… Sometimes, I cry because idk what to do… Should I wait… Or should I have sex with him just to make him happy? I’m scared that after that, he will just leave me…
I really need some advice.
I’m 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been together for 7 months, are deeply in love, and just recently became sexually active these past two weeks. He, you know, has been inside me 10 times.
Being pregnant wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing or a burden for us but I’m also kinda concerned and nervous, given that I have a lot of medical problems (currently a UTI/kidney infection and dermoid cysts and I have Von Willebrand disease). I’m afraid to tell my boyfriend how scared I am that something will be wrong with the baby if I’m pregnant. We’re both overjoyed at the strong possibility of my being pregnant, but I’m just so terrified of something going wrong.
What should I do?
When I found out I was pregnant, it was the weirdest day of my life. I kept thinking that all of it was a dream. That tomorrow, I would wake up and think let’s go to school and see all my mates. But I woke up that day and it was there still, positive, telling me I was pregnant.
Obviously, I told my boyfriend first and he was saying, “Get rid of it cos you’ll be the laughing stock, the person who is bullied.” So I was always thinking, hmm, should I? And in the end, yes, I kept the baby. My boyfriend dumped me and went off with some other girl. I had to carry this baby for 9 months, getting a new flat paid for by my grandparents who gave me it as a gift. Saying, “We will pay all for this so you and your baby are somewhere safe to stay and not in a cramped room at home.” And for 5 months of my pregnancy, I went to my own flat all by myself. One night at 1:00 am, I went into labour. Both my parents rushed round and took me to the hospital to get ready for this baby to be delivered. I was in labour for 3 days and finally had a baby girl called Isabelle Grace, delivered at 10:24 am on the 19th June. I gave her her dad’s last name because i still wanted him to be a part of this even if he didn’t see her. That’s how she would commit to him.
On Saturday, a day after I took my baby girl home, my family helped out a lot that day, getting me back up into shape. But after that, I was fine with handling her and no longer needed too much help. So I let my mum look after her 2 hours a day so i could go to school for those 2 hours in the morning and spend the rest of the day with Isabelle.
And now in a week, she will be 1. The time has gone so fast and I would have it no other way because I love her with all my heart.
Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. And on May 05th, I was very sick in the morning so I decided to do a pregnancy test JUST to be safe. When two lines appeared, I was mortified as I’m just 18, studying my A levels. I rang him straight away and we had both decided to have a termination… Well, it was talked of. However, he did mention getting a place together, getting better jobs to support our baby, etc., etc.
Anyway, I had a scan at 7 weeks, then at 8 weeks. The baby was very healthy. At this point, I didn’t know what I wanted to do – keep or abort. Anyway, my partner decided for me; said that if I didn’t abort my baby, he wouldn’t stay with me. That petrified me as I didn’t want to be a single mummy. He pushed me into doing it. So I sat at the clinic until it was time to go into the surgery place… That’s when I changed my mind. The boyfriend was VERY unhappy. Low and behold, I made another appointment which was yesterday (12th of June) and that was the last time I had my little person inside me. The procedure itself, I don’t remember. I was drugged up and asleep, but when I came round, the nurses were not all that nice and I was entirely alone. I had to go out of the clinic and find my boyfriend’s car, still drugged up to my eyeballs and barely able to walk. I was also approached by protesters telling me my baby was beautiful 🙁
I cried myself to sleep last night. I woke up crying this morning. I just feel so upset because girls around me are having their little people and mine’s gone. 🙁 I want my baby back so much and I know it would of been hard. But going back, if I would have known I’d feel like this, I would not have aborted my little person. 🙁 Now I don’t have a little person inside my belly. I feel empty and I hate my boyfriend. I lost my two best things because I ended it with him this morning.
Advice – please think twice before you do what I did 🙁
I had intercourse on March 27 for the first time and got my period the next month.
I decided I would do it for the 2nd time on April 25. The next month, I got my period but it lasted for a week and my period usually lasts for 7days …:S
The next month, I never got my period. It was supposed to come on the 4th …
Am I pregnant? Or is it just my period arriving late ?? :S
My symptoms are :
Fatigue, lower abdominal pain, stomach pain, tender nipples, and uterus pain but it comes and goes
Hi, Well to start I’m currently 15 years old soon to be 16 this month and i’m 5 months pregnant. I am still with the father of my child and we are both very happy. We have decided to call her Valerie and are still thinking of a middle name. (It may be Juliette) I have bought many baby clothes for Valerie and still need a whole lot more things. I am getting check ups and I have a lot of support from my family, my friends, and my boyfriend. I write to girls that are in the same situation and are confused on what to do. I want to let every girl out there know: Be strong. I haven’t thought of this but many girls who are in this situation don’t think they can do it. Last week my boyfriend said,”I’m scared, what if i can’t do it?” I looked at him straight in the eyes and said,”I know we can.” Girls, we have to realize that our babies are already here. They can listen to all the things we listen to, they can move, they can blink there eyes, they can even yawn. You can’t be thinking that you can’t do it, you have to stay strong for your baby because once he/she with you, you can’t be thinking,”can i do this?” because now you are going to have to regardless. I’m very happy that i am pregnant but many of you may not feel the same way. You may not know it but a lot of people are here for you. So my message is stay strong and don’t give up because you are going to be giving up on that precious baby inside of you too.
-eli
