Period a week after Having Intercourse? Spotting??
I got my period September 3rd and then I had sexual intercourse on the 26th of Sept with my partner. I got light red/pink bleeding on the 3rd of October. But the bleeding wasn’t normal. It was like blood, with spots like with my firstborn! But what I don’t understand is if I am pregnant, how can this be because I had intercourse about 2 1/2 weeks from the first day of my period?! I feel light cramps and I urinate often and my lower abdomen feels sore and a little hard?
HAS ANYONE ENCOUNTERED THIS BEFORE?
Another thing is when I was pregnant with my daughter, my baby father slept a lot and now he is doing the same!! Am I?? I am going to the doctor’s to take a test but I feel that I am. I also have slight back pain (cramps) which I felt with my first child. I don’t know.
Please someone tell me that this has happened to them before! Is It Normal??
Here I was, 20 years old with 3 children, no education, no guidance, not one person to truly help me. To make a very long story short. I knew I had to do better for my children.
By the time I turned 16 years old, I had 2 beautiful daughters. Not quite understanding the importance of parenting, I did my best. In the relationship with their father, I was abused mentally and physically. He cheated numerous times and being that I was young without guidance, I stayed in the relationship until I gave birth to my little boy.
I went back to school and obtained my High school Diploma aka (GED) at a community school. Not only that, I accomplished a goal I never thought was an option for a single mother of three kids. I went to COLLEGE and obtained my AS Degree in business.
Not only that, my children are doing very well in school. Their grades are unbelievable, both of my daughters make A’s & B’s each marking period.
I think I turned out to be a GREAT MOTHER with GREAT CHILDREN.
To the teen mother/s that may be reading this today. Be encouraged, don’t give up on yourself even when everyone else does. Every story can have a Terrific ending. It’s up to you. Take it from someone who has walked in your shoes and once was there.
Blessed, Jasmyn
Just last week, I found out I was pregnant. This is so very hard for me because I am in my first year in college away from home. My boyfriend lives back home and just got a job the day that I found out I was pregnant.
Although I was terrified, I told my mother and she eventually told my father. They both are being very supportive of me even though I know they are extremely disappointed. This is very hard because my father does not like my boyfriend and talks down on him so much that it makes it hard to look at this situation with a positive outlook. I’ve already begun to plan for my next years in college. My main priority for me and my unborn child is for me to finish school so that I can sufficiently provide for my baby. I know it’s going to be very hard because it’s not easy being a 19-year-old mother. I’m looking at the future, hoping that the father of my child will be there, and not end up like his father, but I know there is always that chance that he could be gone in a New York Minute. I have tried to make a plan that involves him and one that doesn’t so in the event that he does leave I won’t be all alone without one clue as of what to do.
The best advice my mother gave me so far is to plan and look to the future, because adults don’t break down and let the situation get the best of them. They take the situation and guide it in which direction they want it to go in.
Dear Becky,
I am 17 and went through a lot with my pregnancy. Here’s my story.
My fiancé and I have been dating for almost a year. We got engaged in March. We did decide that we wanted a baby. I know babies are very hard to take care of and all that other stuff parents tell you about. But my Fiancé and I were total different about the situation. My mother knew about me getting pregnant but was on our side completely. She is one great mother. She supported us through it all. After going through all the hassle my dad gave my fiancé and I, we moved out. Things were very rough for awhile.
I went off the pill in the middle of the pack and didn’t get my period for over 4 1/2 months. I spotted on and off for those very long months. We kept on buying pregnancy test and they all came back negative. Until in early August. I tested on that first Friday, something just didn’t feel right. I was tired and getting sick but nope, still came back negative. That next Friday, I took another and it was positive! Amazing, freaked and scared at the same time, I told my boyfriend. He was ecstatic… We were so over joyed. My mother made me an OB/GYN appt. My levels they said were almost tripling.
By the fourth week, I started bleeding a pregnant girl’s worst nightmare. On the ultrasound, the doctor said something wasn’t right. This went on for over 2 weeks. Then finally, he said that I was miscarrying. It was the most empty feeling I have ever felt in my life.. Something so good turned out so bad. I didn’t know what to think or say.
Its been about 4 or 5 weeks since my miscarriage and all my fiancé and I can think of is have our own little one around. We are waiting till one full cycle to try again. But inside, I feel so lost. No one really knows the pain and hurt a girl goes through in situations like these.
Hope my story helps some people…
When one speaks of abortion, one is often judged, offended, scorned, and scrutinized. What did I really expect???
I’ve been on the giving out side… Now I’m on the receiving side! No one could have told or warned me what the effect would be on my life and the effect on my husband.
Let me start by telling you my story.
Like most people, I’ve been very narrow-minded about abortion. I grew up in a home with heavy high moral standards, so much so, that if my parents said it was wrong, then it was wrong. And so I came to the conclusion that abortion was wrong. I was judgmental about abortion and every time I got to get in a word about it, I spoke my mind.
I met my husband in May and in June, we got married. Life was great. We had a wonderful honeymoon and life has just started. Then I got the news in beginning of August… I was pregnant!
My whole world shook to a stand still. All these questions start popping into my mind. The pregnancy did not fall into the life I had planned, but still I was excited. Then I started to think… The whole time I was pregnant and did not know about it, we did all the stuff women who are pregnant should not do. And the other sour point was… we did not make it good financially.
The day I told my husband, I broke into tears…tears of happiness and that of fear. He was so supportive and happy. We started talking about the pregnancy, and the more we talked, the more we realized we were not going to be able to keep our baby. Yes it sounds terrible, I know. Please believe me, I’m not trying to make it sound better or more reasonable.
I started having cramps and were very tired, so I went to the doctor and asked his opinion. He said my baby might have fetal alcohol syndrome when he is born. We went to have a sonar, and found out I was 7 weeks pregnant.
After the worst week of my life, we decided to go for an abortion. Then then worst year of my life started.
We went for counselling before the abortion. The day of the abortion, I had doubts but pushed it aside. I tried to think about my and my husbands future. Financially, we wouldn’t be able to care for our baby, and we had no one that could support or help us financially.
The morning, 7 o’clock, the nurse gave me the pill to start the process. At first, I didn’t feel anything, then at 10 o’clock, the pain and cramps and bleeding started. It felt like I was dying…and I wanted to! When you start the process, you can’t stop it!!!! They left me till 1 o’clock that afternoon before they started with the vacuum abortion!
I can’t even start to describe the pain when they insert the clamps and start scraping and vacuum. I preferred not to have a sedative, because I wanted to feel the pain of my choice.
Everything was finished after 20 minutes. I was the most painful 20 minutes of my life. After that, they sent me home with antibiotics and painkillers, so that I wouldn’t get infection.
The week after the abortion, I can’t remember! Because I had allergies and asthma, I couldn’t use the medicine. My husband fed and bathed me for a week, because I just did not want to get out of bed.
I was devastated… I felt I made the wrong choice. I struggled with depression up and till now, and thought of taking my own life. My husband…he was devastated as well! We were struggling with our own emotions and didn’t have the power of energy to talk about it.
For 9 constant months. I bled. Sex was impossible! You can think how that effects a marriage! After 9 months, it stopped but when we had sex, it started all over!
Today, 14 months after the abortion, it is the first time I can go on! My husband didn’t leave me, he stuck with me! Helped me! Comforted me!
Sometimes, I still wonder where we would be if we didn’t have the abortion. I told my friends about it a month ago. At first, they were shocked, but then they tried to understand.
I tried to handle this on my own. Without counselling, without support! It was just my husband and I! We made it! We grew stronger!! But if I did not have my husband, I would not have made it!
I don’t promote abortions, and I don’t say it is right!!! I don’t advocate abortion or uplift it! But I feel that nobody has the right to scrutinize or judge a woman who chooses to have an abortion. No one really understands the emotional turmoil that a woman or girl goes through to arrive at that decision.
I really feel strong about this because i had an abortion. I live in a small town and believe me, there are the most narrow minded people living here. It is a year later and finally I can start picking up my head and looking people in their eyes.
That is the reason that made me decide to publish a book to help any woman or girl who choose to have an abortion, because there isn’t much help or sympathy out there.
The book will show woman the choices they have by either keeping the baby, giving it up for adoption or having an abortion. After the choices being depicted, it will show the process they need to follow as well as commentary from other woman being in the same situation. It will have the medical facts in every detail. It will also contain psychological help and advice by experts.
If you want to be part of it…you can be anonymous…please let me know. This book is to comfort and enlighten all woman out there!
Now you know my story…
LIFE SURE DOES HAVE A WAY OF SNEAKING UP ON YOU… BUT IT IS WHAT WE DO THAT MAKES US STRONGER!!!!
