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Understandable that with so much going on it may appear that all of your happiness has been taken from you! BUT, looking into your situation and having 10 years on you in age, I promise you that your life will fall into place and you will be happy again! Try to look at the loss of your job as an opportunity to find another job that is better! Look at the loss of love as nothing more than a building block which will better prepare you for your future Husband. All of the experiences we have in life be them stressful, happy, sad, depressing, etc are nothing more than God’s way of preparing us for something better. Pick your head up, learn to be alone, that in itself will make you more attractive to the type of man you would be proud to have in your life. You can not base your happiness on the presence of others. I know, I know, easier said than done right? RIGHT! But, I have been there! I know what it feels like to be alone, I know how hard it is. It was not until I embraced it and just marched forward trying to be the best Mom I could that I found what I needed. Sometimes when you just take your eyes off the prize and just worry about daily survival, the prize just appears on your doorstep when you least expect it. Kind of like watching water boil…think about it and remember “This too shall pass.”
I totally understand the confusion & fear you are dealing with right now. I got pregnant when I was 16 yrs old. I remember my Mom telling me “This child is NOT a gift from God!”, she scheduled my abortion and attempted to force me there! I refused at the last min. I remember very clearly how scared I was about the doctors, all the check-ups I would have to go to and OMG Child Birth? WHAT? But I decided at the last min that I got myself into this and I was going to be the one making the decisions. If I was going to go through pain (one way or another with an abortion or childbirth) I was going to do the one that produced positive outcome! My mom forced me to move out! that didn’t work because my BF swung a hammer at me one night so I moved home. Then I got smart – I told my mother that she may NOT be responsible for my Baby, but she was DEFINITELY responsible for me until I was 18 and she could not force me out of the house! That woman put me in an apartment and paid my rent until I was 18. I was VERY sick during my pregnancy! It was harsh! But I survived, Here I am at 32 with a beautiful 15 yr old girl whom I love more than life itself! I am not going to lie to you, it was VERY HARD, all the things I was scared of I was forced to face. None of it was as bad as I thought it would be. It made me have confidence in myself, showed me that I CAN DO THE THINGS I FEAR! I struggled for awhile, but I did pull through and I would NEVER change it for the world. I am married to a wonderful man who loves my daughter as though she came directly from him, own a business, etc. My Mom loves my daughter more than anything and her initial anger is now understandable to me. My point is teenage pregnancy is NOT the end of your life! It is the beginning of it! Your decision needs to be based on YOU! You can not let the father’s threats scare you. He is scared out of his mind right now and thinks that if he scares you into thinking he will take your baby that you will have the abortion. This seems very typical for a young man in his position. STOP thinking about that! Start thinking about YOU. What do You want? Make your decision and deal with everything else when you get to it. Overloading yourself with too much is not good for you. RELAX, breath, stop listing to other people and really listen to your heart, thats all you can do.
