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sister, i am praying outloud for you right now!! please take a break from everything and everyone and know that things always work out, you have a decision to make, void of the boyfriend issues. i have a daughter that is three, when she was 18 months old i had 2 min intercourse, with another “friend”, and got pregnenat from a dribble. (i hadn’t had sex since concieving my daughter), nice huh? two in a row. different guys, neither wanted the babies. with the first, i pushed ahead and had her, with the second i aborted. it’s been almost two years and i wish every single day i would have had the baby. the little things i was worried about, don’t compare to bringing life full circle. i lived through court with my first child’s father, and i’ve even almost forgotten it and all the harrassment, but the abortion, i can’t forget. everyday. please please look into adoption. the abortion still affects me, as a mom already, it chips away at my confidence, i look at my daughter and don’t feel very worthy of her either.
i’m sort of in the same boat. my daughter is three and is very aware that most all of her friends have dad’s. she goes to christian preschool because her gma pays for it, and most of the kids there and the stories all have dad in them. she calls me dad, gma dad, her friend’s dads “dad”. her father lives way across the ocean near russia. he is from here originally, and visits home once or twice a year. he is married now and has a six month old daughter. i’m afraid she will put him on a pedastool because he shows up with gifts and doesn’t discipline her. he asked me to abort her. i’m not sure how to approach this. i don’t want to villify him either. i’m trying to let go of rage and do what is best for my daughter. my parent’s hated eachother most of my life, and it was hard on us kids. i still don’t really know my dad. i’m not sure i missed much. he wasn’t there to protect me, neither is my daughter’s father.
