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Zoe,
My situation was very similar to yours. My boyfriend was a lot older than me and when I found out that I was pregnant, I told him, his reaction shocked me, I thought he loved me, but he turned his back on me, my parents didn’t support me, I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t..there’s always someone who will give you a hand to hold. My advice to you is that you should tell him right away, but most important of all this, please it doesn’t matter what he says, don’t let him put pressure on your shoulders to go and get an abortion, believe me that’s not an easy way out, if he is not gonna support you and you think you just can’t raise this child, please consider adoption, that’s the best way to go if you can’t raise the baby, give a chance this unborn baby to live. I gave birth at 15 and I went through a lot of things, but I made it and here I am and I will never regret the choice I made: To keep my baby, and here she is, a beautiful and healthy girl, she’s 3 and half years old now, and really…every time I look through her eyes I’m 10000% sure I made the right choice. Best Wishes. keep in touch.
Heidi,
Those strong cramps could mean a lot of things. My advice to you is to go with a doctor and fast cuz maybe those cramps could be a sign that u could miscarry, so please go to a doctor before anything happens.
Amanda,
Everything you are feeling sounds like a pregnancy to me, and even more if u got off of your birth control and had unprotected sex during that week, I think what you should do right now first of all is take a pregnancy test to know if you are or not pregnant. And as far as I know, taking your birth control back (in case u got pregnant from that week) shouldn’t terminate your pregnancy but in some cases it can cause an indirect negative effect on the baby. Those cramps u say can mean a lot of things so you should have a talk about this with a doctor. Hope this helps. Best wishes!
Emily, as Filii says, if after taking all those test you still doubt about the results, do it with a kit. In my opinion, you should talk about with the real baby’s father to see wether if his gonna take responsability or what, but also, you should be very honest with your boyfriend, I know that you love him and that you’re afraid to let him down and obviously you don’t want your relationship to end but be honest, if he really loves you, he will support you all the way and be proud of you for being honest to him.
Danni,
First of all, Don’t panic! You gotta remain "calm" while u figure out if you are or not pregnant, our mind is a very powerful "weapon", sometimes it makes u believe that u are feeling all the symptoms u just said but, my advice to you is to go and get a pregnancy test right away, don’t waste any more time, also, try to speak with your boyfriend about it, you gotta let him know cuz in case you really are pregnant, you are gonna need his full support, try not to argue with him, try to have a "nice-and-calm-grown-ups conversation". I don’t know how old you are, but I guess you both aren’t kids, so try to have a chat with him. I hope everything works out the way you want it!! Keep in touch. 🙂
P.S : Please if you’re gonna have sex, do it the safe way, not just because you can be surprised with an unexpected pregnancy, remember there are so many STD out there!! please think about it.
Colleen,
I know your situation must be hard, but there are a lot of things I didn’t seem to get straight, you say you’re living with your boyfriend but they baby’s father is your boyfriend’s friend, ok that’s clear but does your boyfriend knows he isn’t the father of your baby? There is a really important issue here, the baby’s father is in jail and he wouldn’t be able to give your child everything he/she will demand, my advice to you is not to get back with the father of your baby even if he gets out of jail soon, first of all your child will need a role model to look up to and a jail image isn’t exactly what a baby needs and second you’re not even sure if you love him, you just said "I like him", so please think about your child and think about the enviroment she/he needs. And since you said you don’t know how long your boyfriend will want you to stay with him, you should get a job and try to make a living for your own, it’s not an easy thing but believe you are gonna make it, I’ve been there. I gave birth when I was 15, I was scared and alone, the father of my baby wasn’t there for me, my parents turned their back on me but my loving sister gave me a place to live but she couldn’t afford having me there, so I went out and look for a job, that’s how I made it through, I helped her with her bills and stuff but at the same time I earned some money, and here I am, I’m 18 and mother to a 3 and a half years old beautiful girl. So my advice to you is to keep your baby, believe there isn’t anything more wonderful in this world than the moment you look for the first time right through your baby’s eyes.Best Wishes 🙂
Post edited by: Julie, at: 2005/11/29 13:13
Jaefaye,
It’s completely normal what you’re feeling, when you see babies it’s like "oh my god i’d love to have one, they are so cute!" When I was at your age, I already had a one year old daughter, I gave birth when I was 15 and I love my daughter more than anything in this whole world but let me tell you, having a baby brings tons of responsabilities. You have to stop partying, you can’t just go out and leave your baby, most girls wouldn’t give that up, you gotta be aware that everything you do is for child. You gotta work to give the baby everything she/he needs such as clothes, food, shoes, a place to live, etc. I’m 18 now, and my daughter is 3 and a half years old, I’ve given up everything just for her, I think she deserves the entire world. I work really hard to try to give her everything she needs. So I hope this help and please, think about it, give yourself a chance to finish your education, to get a job, and then you’ll be ready to have a baby ;).
Take care! 🙂
