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Hey Meg, thank you for what you said. It makes me think a lot about my relationship, but not in a bad way. It’s in a completely good way. When I said "we don’t make a big deal out of it," I think that came out wrong. It’s hard for me to explain it. Everytime we have sex we don’t take it for granted at all, it’s amazing everytime, and in the form of love, not just pleasure. I’ve NEVER thought about marrying anyone else in my life, and I’ve had a number of men in my life. It honestly feels like everytime I see him, that it’s a "new" love, but we’re so comfortable at the same time. I would get a marriage license in a heartbeat knowing I would be married to him. We’re ready to start our lives together, but we’re trying to take it one step at a time. I know a lot of people that have already been through what I’m going through, and a lot of them say "oh you never know what can happen." And they’re right, but nobody knows how much we love each other unless they’re us. I’ve had that "oh no I’m pregnant" problem with another boyfriend.. who was EXTREMELY abusive and a drug addict – who in turn got me addicted to drugs. And when that happened, I was so unhappy and I never would want a baby with him. And for some reason I thought I loved him, but why wouldn’t I want his baby if I DID love him?? If I end up pregnant with my boyfriend now, I trust him completely and I would never think twice about having it. I’m only 19, but both of us have been through a lot of things, and we’re not joking around because it’s some sort of young irresponsible love. It’s completely real and we’re ready to grow up. We went through that whole phase a long time ago. I’m almost two years sober, and I’ve been with him for a year and a month. He was/is the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I couldn’t be more happy right now, and marrying him would just increase that happiness. I’m not saying I’m ready for a baby, but I’ll ALWAYS take responsiblity for my actions. I know my boyfriend feels the same, I can see it in his eyes and I trust him completely. He is a genuinely responsible/trustworthy/funny/real person I’ve ever met. I couldn’t ask for more from him for anything. I know exactly what you are saying to me, and I take in everything openly. I’m not a secretive person and I will always be honest. I really appreciate what you’ve said and you giving your time to help me out. Thank you so much. I’ll let you know what happens.
Xoxo Court
Hey thank you for the advice, but I know for sure that I don’t have an STD. Some things I left out were thirst and headaches. I don’t know, I’m probably not pregnant, I just wanted to see what others would think.
My boyfriend and I were actually talking about getting married the other day in a couple of years. I don’t think us having sex is a problem. We don’t make a big deal out of it, and it doesn’t effect our relationship. However, sometimes being pregnant/thinking I’m pregnant crosses my mind. We’ve talked about a lot of things together. We don’t have any problems with sex or our relationship, so that part is okay.
I guess I’ll have to take a test sooner or later. I’m trying not to think about it though. But thank you for your input, I really appreciate it!
Xoxo Courtney
Mine is:
That movie was awesome. It was funny, but i think it was realistic because of the kind of person they made Juno out to be. She wasn’t "in tune" with her emotions like some girls are, and being sarcastic and funny like she was is a way for some girls to make a brighter side of a "bad" situation. That’s just how she expressed herself. I thought it was good. That’s my input, haha.
the same thing happened to me that mia3 was explaining. it’s a little different though. my exboyfriend got me into drugs, and then my school found out and sent me to detox. after that, my parents stopped me from talking to him, which was the BEST thing they could’ve done, even though i didn’t think so at the time. he even called my parents telling them i was pregnant when i wasn’t just so he could see me. i had to completely cut him out of my life for him to get the point. he called my phone about 30 times a day for 3 days until he gave up. at one point i had to disconnect my house phone so he wouldn’t keep calling at night. after he gave up, i felt like i was finally free after two years of abuse. it was horrible at first because i didn’t know what to do with myself because i put my entire life into TRYING to change him and TRYING to make him happy, but i realized that wasn’t possible.
so after i realized this, i got support from close family and my best friend and it was the best thing i could do. don’t be afraid to ask for help – you won’t regret it. i felt stupid at first because i knew that i couldn’t hide what he did to me anymore, but they already knew before i said anything. they helped me stay busy and get my life back on track. don’t do this alone, and know that any abuse is BAD and you can’t change him once he’s done this to you more than once.
i guarantee that after a while you will feel so much better after a while. and be STRONG, don’t answer his calls no matter what. completely cut him off if you don’t want a dangerous environment for you and your baby.
hey hun, i read your story and i’m so sad for you, but happy that you were strong and knew you had to end it. about a year ago i broke up with my boyfriend of two years. he physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me. he also got me into drugs (i’ve been sober for a year now!! :o) happy as ever). it was really hard for me to trust men in general after i broke up with him. he was really manipulative and made me feel guilty for things that weren’t my fault at all. that sounds like what your ex was trying to do with you. i’m happy for you that you were strong and knew what was going on before it got too horrible. when i broke up with him, he called my parents and told them i was pregnant so they had to let me see him (it was completely untrue, that’s how crazy he was!). it took me a while to completely trust my boyfriend now, and he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. i just wanted to let you know that i know how you feel (except for the pregnancy part) and i give you so much credit for being so strong. and you’ll find that man who will be everything to you. a guy who will treat you right. if you ever want to talk to me, i’m always around! xoxoxo Courtney
