I’m just taking one day at a time, hoping this pain will subside soon.
I get up in the morning and I get out of bed and I have a shower and get us ready, make breakfast which I don’t want to eat, and then I head out for the day. I can’t stay inside the house all day long. I can’t believe I’m so shattered. All the other days were looking good, but it’s storming today, and I’ve just shattered again.
I’m not coping very well at all…Just one day at a time.
So I’m 18 years old and I found out I was pregnant in January…
It was a big shock for me because it was totally unplanned… I was 8 hours away from home and scared like crazy… It hadn’t even crossed my mind until I realized I was late… I didn’t think I was pregnant but it wouldn’t leave the back of my mind so one day, I went to Walmart and took a test and sure enough, it was positive. I didn’t believe it at 1st. It took another test and a clinic visit later to finally believe it… I wasn’t sure what I was going to do… I knew exactly who the father was but I also knew what he’d say. You see I’m not with my baby’s daddy, I never officially was. I’ve known him for 4 years and he was my first love and basically first everything… We always had a very complicated relationship and I knew this wasn’t going to be easy. I hadn’t even talked to him since I went back home the month before for Christmas… Around the same time, I must have conceived.
A few days after I went to the clinic, I decided it was time to tell my sister. I told her and that’s when it hit me… This was really happening… I really was pregnant… The very next day, my other sister came to pick me up and bring me back home. I didn’t know what else to do so I gave up the life I spent the last 5 months trying to make for myself. I was trying to get my life back on track. I was tired of messing mine up and it seemed like I was doing good. I was studying hard for the pharmacy tech program I was in. I had cooled down on the partying and drinking, and even sex…and even though up until that night I hadn’t had sex in a long time, that’s all it takes… One time… And in one night, I changed my life forever without even knowing it…
After coming home, I was pretty confused. I didn’t really want to talk about it. I wasn’t sure how I really felt but I knew I couldn’t have an abortion, not that I’m against it but it wasn’t the right choice for me. I finally told the baby’s daddy and he took it better then I expected but still wasn’t ready to commit to being a daddy and I wasn’t going to make him. It was his choice, just like it was my choice to keep it. And even though, I was keeping it, I don’t think I was happy about it. At first, I was too scared but somewhere along the line, that all changed. I want this baby now.
It may have been unplanned but it was not a mistake. Everything happens for a reason… Now I’m 14 weeks pregnant and although, at times, I just want to go back, I know I made the right choice. It’s not always easy especially since not everyone is supportive and the baby’s daddy and I kind of had a big falling out and aren’t speaking. I know in the end when I have a beautiful baby to hold and it will all be worth it.
Hi, I am 18 and I am unexpectedly pregnant.
My husband and I got married almost a year ago, and had decided against kids for a while; like a couple years or so. We didn’t decide exactly on a date, but we knew that we had other things that we had wanted to do. I am in school, and I spend most of my time there, and when I am not at school, I am studying, working on homework, looking for a job (I lost mine a few months ago), and with what is left of my time, I spend with my husband or with friends. There are days where I feel like I am stretched pretty thin, and I didn’t know how I was going to handle things.
Well, we went on a vacation for a week, and I had thought that I was sick. We went out to eat, and the smell and taste of things made me nauseous. I wanted these pancakes, and when we went to the restaurant and I had gotten them, I suddenly got really nauseous. I knew that I was sick, I had the flu or something, but I didn’t know that I was pregnant. I was always so tired, and weak. I didn’t connect the dots when I started getting tender breasts. Well when I got back from the vacation, I was wondering why I hadn’t gotten my period, so I went and bought a test. I had thought that it was a false positive all the times I took it until my husband said, you’re pregnant.
After a lot of decision making, we have decided to keep the baby; whether it was in the plan or not.
Just when you think you find someone… It all ends in a shattering display of broken pieces. Ah well, I know it ended and I’m not in that much pain. On the one hand, I have this weird feeling of freedom and like I can move on. He left because it was in his right to leave… He did not take me or my dignity or my ability to love with him….that stayed behind with me — and I’m dealing fine. It just feels a little empty without him — all these weird thoughts come into my head.
It scares me now that maybe I will be a single mother forever and ever and ever. I get scared that I will never have somebody to love me and to help me and to treat me right like a woman will be treated. I get scared that I will never have a family with a lot of children and be the mother of that family and make sure that my house is happy. It just scares me.
But life goes on. As long as I have the ability to love and not be afraid of the future — goodness, I have a beautiful son. I have lovely friends who supported me so much through the darker days when it actually was hard to wake up in the morning, I have God…I have love….I have a future….I have a degree to finish this year. I have a new flat to move in to next year… I have a family to visit in my homeland in a few months…Life goes on.
It will be fine. Life goes on. There’s hope. I just have to stop worrying and let go of this fear. For He is looking after me.
Hi, I am 23 now but when I was 16, I got pregnant. It wasn’t planned at all.
Honestly, I went on life like I wasn’t pregnant. Never really told anyone till I was about 6 months. I was a full-time student as well as held down a job. My daughter’s father never was involved with her, not even till this day and she’s 6. So I’ve been doing it on my own ever since I found out I was pregnant. It’s been hard really hard but hey, who said life is easy? Just seeing a smile on my daughter’s face helps all the bad days go away. Last year was when life got really hard for me.
I got pregnant again. I was so happy. My boyfriend at the time was happy. We had been together for a year at that time. Everything happened so fast. One minute, we were so happy then we just started arguing. During an argument, he said he wanted nothing to do with the baby and it wasn’t his. In the end, I got an abortion. That MISTAKE is still eating me up inside. He also feels the same way I do but its kinda too late now. I blame him for not being there when I needed him the most. I couldn’t be a single mother to 2 kids, I just couldn’t. Now looking back, that was just me being selfish. I made it work with 1, I could of done it with 2… I love my daughter more then anything. Being a teen mom, I’ve had my obstacles. But so far, I’ve overcome all of them and so can everyone else.
I’m 17, a senior, and I love to dance. I have a wonderful bouncer on the way. I’m 20 weeks pregnant.
My due date is May 4th and I’m so happy. I can’t wait.
