I’m 19 years old and I have a 2 1/2-month-old Baby boy.
Hears the BIG!!!!! Problem….
I’m 3 weeks pregnant and thinking about having an abortion.
I talked to my husband about it and he thinks that I should get an abortion because we can’t afford another baby.
Let me know what you think…
Hey everyone. I’m new to this site, but I’m absolutely in love with it!! So kudos to those who created it. Anyways, so I personally think I have a lot to offer and advice to give on almost anything. So let me dive in.
I am 18 years old and only remember, basically, the last 4 years of my life, which is basically high school and the few months I’ve been out. I will later update each year with a blog but in short, this is what happened year by year and then feel free to jump to the year you want to read about.
My freshman year, I got into a relationship that lasted two years with sexual abuse.
Sophomore year I was in a head-on car collision with a drunk driver, everyone involved should of been dead, but we all survived. This is why I only remember 4 years of my life.
Junior year, I was raped and couldn’t turn the man in who did it to me.
Senior year, I had a complicated surgery on my shoulder. Since I’ve graduated, I’ve had a miscarriage.
Now I am newly married to the love of my life. We have known each other since I was little and have dated for a year and a half. We did the distance thing for almost a year. He is in the Air Force, and I recently moved half way around the world to be with him. So I went from a small town livin’ on a ranch in Nebraska to living on a military base, on an island in Japan.
Also we may be expecting again, but that is kinda up in the air still.
So that is it for me. Feel free to leave comments or write in the guest book. I love giving advice and I’m told I’m one of the nicest people you could ever meet.
There are times I go back and forth. I am going through so much right now.
I got married on a whim a few months ago. He already has 2 kids from 2 different mothers. I found out today that my husband has been with another female. I have been in legal trouble because of him and it is still not over with. Due to this, I am not able to have contact with him. He does not know and thoughts run through my head. Does he even need to know if I go the abortion route? I found out 3 days ago and I have to be around 6-12 weeks so if I’m going to make a decision, I need to make one quick.
I am so emotionally confused with everything. I would not be able to go through with an adoption and it just seems impossible to even think about doing this on my own. I have been blessed to have my sister to talk to but as soon as I decide on abortion, it seems like later I am not so sure. I want to throw my hands in the air, scream, and pretend this is not happening to me. I find this a blessing yet a complete disaster. I almost positive I am going to get an annulment if I can and when I can. I have a lot on my plate right now. By the grace of God, I have been completely sober through this and plan to be, whether I have an abortion or not. I don’t have any friends to really speak to. All of them drink or do drugs, which I have made a choice to walk away from that life. I am done running and being a kid about my life. I feel like wow, as soon as I made this choice, God puts this in my path. It’s not easy and I can’t help but feel like there is a reason why I am pregnant now. It’s not about my husband b/c either he will be there or won’t. It’s about me and what can I handle. I am pro-choice now that it’s in my hands. I feel like I am on a swing set, going back and forth. All I want to do is jump off.
If you have any advice, please I am open to it and I need all the feedback I can get.
OK, I have loved this boy since I was 18. I got pregnant with my daughter Feb, while I was a freshman in college and doing very well. We decided to have her regardless of how young and unsure we were.
In Sept, he was arrested and spent the next 2 years locked up. I cheated on him while he was locked up and also was raped the year before he came home. He was released in Feb and at first, we were happy. I was never able to go back to school because the rape happened down at my school. I have been trying to work and pay off debt I incurred while I was pregnant. After a couple of months, I realized that the man I love has changed. He is abusive toward me, in all ways thinkable. I have since moved back in with my mother. But I have recently found out I am pregnant again.
I no longer want anything to do with him but I still love this boy with everything I am made of. He has told me time and time again that if I have this baby, he will never connect with me again and I should never contact him. I have given up on fighting for a relationship that isn’t meant to be. However, I do not know if bringing a baby into my situation is a smart decision. I am 22 with a 2, almost 3 year old. I live with my mother who is not helping me financially to better myself and I have yet to return to school to do the one thing i promised myself I would do….get my degree. I do know adoption is not an option for me as I am the product of adoption and would not wish my insecurities on my worst enemies. I have heard so many horrible stories about abortion but that seems to be my only option at this point. I can’t bear the emotional toll of abortion but I am not sure if I will ever achieve my goals and dreams with two babies by a boy who thinks so little of me and his kids that he does nothing to help.
What should I do? I will consider any alternatives at this point.
I just started birth control about a month ago and I am not sure how long the side effects are supposed to last. However, I was on birth control before and I didn’t have these side effects as long as I’ve had them recently.
It’s the same pill so it’s not my body adjusting to a new type of birth control. My symptoms consist of my breasts hurting for about a month and a half; feeling sick to my stomach when I eat or brush my teeth sometimes; getting tired a lot earlier and waking up earlier each day; getting headaches close to the end of the day and lower back pain at times. I also will get lightheaded sometimes but not a lot. All these symptoms have been going on for about a month and a half and I am afraid I am pregnant.
Could someone help me!!!
OK so me and this guy were together for 2 and a half years and we had, I wouldn’t say a lot of problems cus what couple doesn’t have problems??
Well, he cheated on me more than once and nobody ever had to tell me, it was just an instinct!! I know it sounds bad but we were madly in love and would do anything for each other. We talked about having a baby because we both wanted it and we were ready. It was amazing for about 3 months. I didn’t have my period and I knew I was pregnant but I was scared because our relationship was on the rocks pretty bad, but a friend of mine made me take a test so I did and sure enough, I am. So I called my boyfriend up and told him. He seemed so happy but at the time, we were broken up and he had another girlfriend.
A couple days after that, we got back together… We were good for about four or five days and then he was with his homeboy and I got a text from his mom saying to call her. Something bad had happened. So I called her and she told me he got shot and died at the hospital. I feel like my life is over. I’m 26 weeks pregnant with his baby and he isn’t here and it kills me everyday he was my everything!!!
I’m sad because he was my soul mate, my everything. I miss being with him and talking to him, just everything about him but on the other hand, I’m happy because I’m pregnant with his baby and in a way, he’s Still here…..
I need help
