Being pregnant with twins is kinda crazy.
I’m only 13 weeks (14 Friday) but it’s already like WOW!! I’m pregnant with fraternal twins. When I first found out, I didn’t believe it, I thought the doc was crazy!! Now, I’m scared and happy and I don’t know, I just have all these different emotions about it. My fiancé and I have been having a lot of trouble with our relationship so another baby, let alone 2 more babies was the LAST thing on our minds. But now that it’s here, we have to deal. Since we have found out, we have seen more sets of twins just walking somewhere than we have ever seen in our lives. I guess all in all I’m really scared because I’ll have 2 poopies to change not one. Extra Extra diapers, formula, clothing. Just double the trouble.
So I guess what I’m looking for is anyone who has had twins to get some advice from on how to get past the fear and get to the excitement. Thanks for reading everyone!!!
The Right To Live
Some people say that I am nothing yet
Just a big oh blob of nothing less
From the time I was conceived
I am a life that has a right to breathe
Who are you to make a choice for me
To end my life so you can be free
For I am a living human inside of thee
With all the rights of thee
The killing must stop
For I have The Right To Live
Christina Hoaks
Copyright ©2008 Christina Hoaks
Hi, y’all… Now that I decided to keep my baby, am now 19 weeks pregnant, I am happy about it but the problem is my friends who just don’t understand that I kept it…
They think I should have terminated it and that am too young (am 22 years) and the responsibility is huge and I won’t manage… Can you imagine that from the closest people???? It’s really heartbreaking to know that none of them thinks the way I do as regards this matter. I know raising a child is no easy task but am determined to do the best for my child… My boyfriend is coming on Friday and we shall talk more about our plans but in the meantime, being around such negativity is really not a good feeling. All this is worsened by the fact that a friend recently gave birth and is more or less doing it single-handedly because she had broken up with her boyfriend and so the baby was born but they are not together… She is having a hard time, earns minimum wage, and still lives with her mum. They compare her to me. I, feel really bad about it.
Pliz advise…thanks
I’m feeling more positive and not so scared anymore. I’m quite excited. just a few worries, that’s all!
So…I have this unquenchable desire to be a mother.
Even though I’m still in college, working on a degree for Art Education. I’ve had unprotected sex with my boyfriend a lot, and we’re honestly trying to get pregnant. And now that I think I am, I keep thinking about certain things we’ll have to do. We’ll have to rent an apartment near our school so that he can still attend classes while I would need to get a full-time job and drop out of school for a while. I’ll need to tell my super-conservative Christian parents and beg and plead with them to not get disowned. I’m a Christian, and know that pre-marital sex is wrong, but I listened to my gut instincts and tried for a baby with my boyfriend. Now this possibility is staring me in the face, and I’m scared to death and excited to see the results at the same time.
What should I do? I’m very confused and need help and people to talk to.
So I went from being in a situation with 2 possible dads, now to knowing the real father…
I had an amniocentesis done a while back now, and it was a big relief to finally know who the dad was, and it turned out to be my ex-boyfriend of 3 years. At first, he seemed okay, a bit… It wasn’t like he hated the thought, and then all of a sudden, he turned on me. I remained friends with the other guy and now he’s my go-to guy that I can talk to.
He said even having the scare that he was going to be a father changed his life. He’s been skydiving, taking pilot lessons, and doing all kinds of crazy intense things to get it all out of his system, but at the same time, he’s doing things he loves so that when he does have a baby, he won’t react the same way and abandon whoever it is he’s with… Now my ex-boyfriend of 3 years says ” I don’t care what you do, whatever, I don’t care, f off, f u.” But the minute he found out I was hanging out with the other guy, he just seems to think he can say hurtful things that will bring me down… He doesn’t understand that the other guy was my friend for years. Just the other day, he told me not to speak to him till the baby was born (in February). I also needed some info from him to get unemployment for my parental benefits and he refused to give that to me, also threatened to call the unemployment place where my maternity was already approved and tell them to not give me it, for such and such reasons (such as I’M NOT THE FATHER )…
I can see why he would be a little pissed off at me and all. I can’t get the proof from the dr’s office and he’s not allowed to review the papers cause his name isn’t on them, but why would I lie when it comes to something this major? Specially when the other guy is financially fit and would make a great dad. Just because he’s my ex? All I really wanted to say when he pretty much accused me of doing so was, right… Can you pull your head outta your butt now? The world doesn’t revolve around you… I’m 23 weeks & 5 days as of today and I know I shouldn’t be feeling stressed and upset all the time. I did eliminate him from my life for now, and my dad’s girlfriend gave me some pretty encouraging words and my family has been more supportive now. (for now )… I just wish I knew what was going through his head. He told me a few days prior… “It’s hard to love you, because of the stuff you pulled.” ( Which was nothing at all? ) ” I love you sometimes.”…
But any memories, we had or done all fade away a little at a time when I feel that baby kick… It’s the most amazing feeling in the world and he’s missing it… I just hope he comes to realize he walked away on 2 of the most important people in his life, regardless if he says he hates me, deep down… He’s only saying them as words… Which is why he doesn’t wanna talk to me & be around me, because I’m not the person he makes me out to be to people and he knows it…
I just hope he comes to realize he has to step up and be a man now… and if he doesn’t, he’s gonna be sorry… specially when that baby is old enough to realize…
