Hey I’m Mariaih and i’m 17 and pregnant. I don’t really have a huge story right now ha ha because my baby isn’t here yet but i’m pretty much always at home resting and taking care of myself for my baby because my boyfriend and my family want me too.
My boyfriend is always working or at school and all of my friend’s don’t approve of my pregnancy so i’m most of the time alone. i try and tell my boyfriend and sometimes we fight about it because he wishes he could be here more but his family won’t let him all the time and he always at least tries and talks to me when he’s not with me to see how i’m feeling and everything.
Were all trying to just figure out how to handle the situation and for right now no matter how bad i don’t like it i’m trying to at least put up with it ( and i mean not seeing him all the time lol) but i am really excited and happy for my baby. I don’t know, I was nervous at the beginning and now I just get happy thinking about how cute my baby is gonna be and how I’m really excited to meet him or her.
I’m a teen expecting my first baby in a few short weeks. I have been experiencing a few issues with my boyfriend and i don’t know if its a normal things that everyone goes through. i have felt my emotions going crazy as it is really easy for something to tip me off and start an encore of my crying and going on rants. i know most of the times when i feel myself getting out of control, but i feel i just cant stop myself and find away to calm down.
Recently i have been going through a rough patch with the father of my baby. We have been together for awhile now but i feel that he just doesn’t take things serious. I’m a very organised person or has to have everything it place before the event, and i feel he doesn’t quiet get how important it is to me to have that support of someone being able to ask me if i needed help with anything. i find myself doing everything either on my own or just seem to be doing all the tasks by myself. I have done all the washing for the baby and have set her room up by myself with know help or even a good job.
All my doctors appointments i have had i have been to by myself as he feels that it isn’t important to know how his baby is growing and what all the medical plans are for when i have this baby. It frustrates me when i ask him to come to an appointment and i get declined, like its not a priority for that day.
i have also been to a few classes to learn a few things about the birthing process and what the hospital ward is going to look like. I have had the support from my mother and my sister through those classes but i would of really like to experience at least one with the father of my baby. it is something that i would of like to tell my baby that we did together.
i just don’t know how to get my message across to my partner.
I am 17 years old, my goal in life is to be somewhere in forensics. That goal requires a lot of school so I came up with the plan to graduate early through an independent studies program. When august comes around and school starts back up I will have one class to finish and ill graduate in that same month.
I am currently 9 weeks pregnant, I’ve had my first ultrasound, and told my mom. My parents are divorced, and I’m staying at my dads at the time being, I feel like it was easier to tell my mom the news rather than my dad, who still doesn’t know. I’m scared of his reaction, and id like to stay with him at his house where I have my own room and personal space.
I plan to do everything for my child on my own, I don’t want to be the teen mom where my parents are more of the parents than me. I want to do it all myself and I know ill need help along the way, but its what I’m tying to do. I plan to keep my goals, and I know it will be tough and ill probably have to take a few college classes online rather than the Jr. college like I planned for general education.
I’m keeping my goals, and accepting the challenge of having this child. The “father” and I have our struggles, even if he decides not to be in the picture ill have it taken care of, it’ll be harder with out his help but I am staying positive.
I know the whole situation is going to be extremely hard, but I’m staying positive. I have thought about abortion, or adoption.
One day I plan to start a family, intentionally, and I don’t think its fair to have a baby one day I intended to have and know my baby is out there and not in my family because I wasn’t ready for it. Ready or not here he/she comes. I’m going to have this baby and work everyday to make it have the most beautiful life and still continue on with my career goals.
My mother is supportive, and I cross my fingers my dad will come around too. I know ill have my family on my side once they know, I have a 29 year old sister whose blessed our family with an adorable boy and girl, and a 23 year old sister whose in college, and a 18 year old sister and 15 year old brother who still live at home with me.
Crisis Support
I Went Through With It
Nine Months
Hi everyone. I am 18 years of age and I would like to share my story with you. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and throughout our relationship we have talked about having a family together as most couples do. My story begins here. I have PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome)
This is where there are multiple cysts on your ovaries and they cause irregular periods and it is harder to get pregnant and you are placed on birth control pills to help shrink the cysts and regularize your period. I was attending university at the time and also working for the Christmas holidays last year December and on New Year’s Eve and New Years’ Day I started experiencing real bad pelvic cramps and plus I had the flu really bad with fever and body pains. So I drank some ginger tea to ease up the cramps and the fever…. I realized that my cramps were not going away at all. Then the vomiting started and I was scared because I thought I had some real bad sickness due to the cysts.
So…. I tried everything to stop the vomiting because nothing was staying down in my stomach. So my mother eventually got fed up of my vomiting and took me to the doctor but because I am 18 and considered an adult, I had to go see the doctor alone. So they took a urine sample from me and the nurse came and told me that she took a pregnancy test and that I am pregnant. I told her that she was lying and that it was impossible.
So…. after leaving the doctor’s office, my mother asked me what was the problem so I told her it was gas. I just couldn’t tell her then and then too I didn’t believe that I was pregnant. So the vomiting continued… and I tried to stop it again. So I bought two pregnancy tests to check again, I took one and it came back positive so I didn’t even bother to take the other one. I was so scared but I still didn’t believe that I was pregnant so my boyfriend and I went to an ultrasound laboratory and I found out that I was 7 weeks and 3 days pregnant, I was so scared.
My boyfriend and I were surprised because we didn’t expect this and I was on the birth control pill and had the Ovarian cysts. We weren’t ready to be parents and we were afraid of telling our parents. Eventually we got the courage to tell our parents after we had spoken to the pastor of our church. We both held offices in the church. He was the Technician and Communications person in our church and I was a Superintendent and Chorister. The church held a business meeting and they dis-fellowshipped us from the church so we are no longer members of the church and in order for us to take part in church activities we must re-baptize. It has been a hard road for us.
The people we thought were there for us literally kicked us out of the church. Anyways after telling our parents, they were, of course, disappointed but now they are supporting us more than ever. I am 7 months pregnant now and both my boyfriend and I are proud expectant parents looking forward to the arrival of our child.
My boyfriend has been supportive and more loving and caring. He has a job that pays really good enough to support us and the child. I have decided to get a job after giving birth and go back to school.
I just want encourage all the young girls out there never to give up on themselves or their children both unborn and born.
Children are blessings to us. There are many people who cannot get pregnant and want and love children and would do anything to have children so count your blessings. God will see you through. Just pray and never stop praying, God will never give up on you.
I have had the worst experiences during my pregnancy. I was and still am being judged, I vomited for 4 months and even ended up in the hospital on drips feeling weak. I eventually heard about Gravol Suppositories and I take them now and they work really well so I recommend them to anyone who is going through the same thing as I did. I have learnt that as soon as you get pregnant whether planned or unplanned, your life is not your own anymore.
You have to re-build your whole life around this new life that is inside of you. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing and a great blessing even with the little complications in between. And even though there are major changes in your life, you can still achieve your goals. I hope that my story can encourage and help anyone in many ways.
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Pregnancy is a cause of delight as well as apprehension for most women. You are worried about the changes your body will undergo, the loss of independence, the mood swings and of course the new life taking shape inside you. The fears and the worries double up when you are pregnant and are suffering from disabilities.
But that need not be the case. Technology has progressed to enable expectant mothers with disabilities to have a safe pregnancy and child-birth. There are going to be dilemmas and tough moments. But, being psychologically strong will help in having a smooth pregnancy. In this post we address some of the fears of expectant women with disabilities and how to get rid of them.
Accept and Deal with the Social Shock
Why the surprise? This is what I wanted to ask my family members and friends after seeing the look on their face when I told them I am pregnant. Is a woman with disabilities getting pregnant that incredible? Social reactions might tell you so but the reality is that more and more individuals with disabilities are opting for pregnancy and parenthood. The gap in the medical arena concerning pregnancy in disabled women has been met to a large extent. Obstetricians are more sensitive and well-trained to deal with pregnancies in disabled women.
So, next time you see and hear disbelief at the news of your pregnancy, deal with the reaction with a pinch of salt. Veer the conversation to another direction. Don’t be scared to tell people. Instead, derive as much information as you can on the issues you feel might cause problems in your pregnancy.
You will come across a lot of information that might make you more anxious. Address these issues. Talk to your doctor and your partner. However, you will also come across information that will help you have a positive and healthy pregnancy. Being correctly informed is one of the prerequisites to a healthy pregnancy.
Pick a Hospital Where All Your Healthcare Needs Are Met
Having anxiety pangs about your delivery? Most women go through delivery-related stress. However, this stress only does more harm than good. To alleviate these fears and feel more confident about your pregnancy and delivery, pick a hospital or medical center that is well-equipped for your needs and ready to make the required alterations for you to have a smooth pregnancy.
A hospital that has a resident disability specialist along with cooperative nurses and supportive gynecologist should be your first choice. Pick a facility that has specially designed labor and delivery wards for those with disabilities. Give preference to a hospital that is close to your home and has all the required facilities. Distance and accessibility can play key roles during the third trimester and the closer the facility, the better.
Have a Support Group
Don’t let the over-reactions of some people make you go into a shell or become depressed. This is a new phase of your life and having positive and encouraging people around you will make the experience an enjoyable one for you. Meet fellow disabled, pregnant women and mothers with disabilities. Learn about their experiences. You will find great support and information.
Form a group of mothers-to-be and meet up weekly. Bond over your pregnancy. Exchange anecdotes and information. Build a circle of trust, share and talk openly. You will feel much more confident and relaxed when you meet and interact with other women just like you and in the same stage of life.
This is also the time you will need your spouse to be supportive of you. With hormones playing havoc during this phase, he should be able to bear with your mood swings and bouts of depression. Make your spouse your best friend and confidante. Ask for what you need from him– sensitivity, care and attention.
Some partners automatically know how to deal with a pregnancy and make you feel loved and special during this phase. However, some may not. Telling him what you are expecting will help. Share your fears and apprehensions and co-operate with him when he is trying to find solutions. Spousal support is important during this phase.
Retain Your Mobility and Accessibility
Do not give up on your independence and mobility as soon as you hear the news that you are pregnant. In the first trimester carry on with all that you did prior to the pregnancy. Some additional exercise during this time is a good idea. Keep a check on your diet. Certain foods might affect your body adversely when you are pregnant. Go to the supermarket yourself until you can, and pick your foods carefully.
Go for strolls in the early mornings and evenings and take in the fresh air. See your disability doctor, nutritionist and gynecologist regularly to know the progress of your pregnancy. Your partner can accompany you to these trips, or you can use some specially built vehicles like the pride go go mobility scooter or the challenger sport mobility scooter to make these necessary visits and trips. The important part is that you should not surrender your accessibility and mobility.
Prepare for the Baby before Childbirth
Pregnancy is the first step. Parenting is the actual climb up the mountain. Be aware of your conditions and restrictions. Take informed and well-planned decisions about your pregnancy whether you are going to be a single mother or will have your partner’s support.
Choose the method of birth after weighing the pros and cons of vaginal delivery and C-section for your individual case. Ask your doctor if your body will support breastfeeding of the infant. Take appropriate decisions. Find and seek help from an occupational therapist who can provide you with solutions for baby care tasks.
Talk to your physical and occupational therapist and ask them about suitable adaptive equipment that will allow you to hold, play, feed and care for your baby like any other mother. This equipment facilitates baby-care for disabled mothers and ensures the safety of both the mother and the child. Remember, as a mother you should not become vulnerable to injury while nurturing your child.
Your doctors can also show you specific techniques of handling the baby properly and postures where you can be most comfortable holding and feeding the baby without risking injury to the baby. Having a nanny will not make you any less of a mother but will just be additional help. Consider the option.
To Conclude,
Be confident about your pregnancy. Have honest discussions with your doctors, family and friends. Ask yourself how prepared you are for it. Do not panic at the jerky reactions you receive from others or when you receive the tag of a high-risk patient. Your disability may make you vulnerable but research has proved that all women with disabilities are not high risk patients and are equally capable of delivering healthy babies. So take care and don’t feel scared. Keep in mind the points mentioned here and get ready to enjoy the rollercoaster ride of pregnancy.
Hi, I was pregnant before on September 18th 2013! I had a miscarriage on February 20th 2014! I was 22 weeks pregnant! Her name is Misa Grace Parkinson! She supposed been born on June 25th 2014! So it been like almost 10 weeks now! I thought I would of gotten lesser pregnancy symptoms, but instead I got more! I will tell you why I think I am pregnant!
I got pregnancy signs (like I said)! 🙂 They are: Breast tenderness, Fatigue, Headaches, Mood swings, Nausea, Frequent urination. And bit more!
I also just finish this wearied bleeding last night, which was Tuesday 29th April, I start on Saturday 26th April, that was spotting! The colour was pinkish, brownish, orange and odd red, but it is more pinkish and brownish! I am also getting this tummy round, bump, (not to sound rude) but I am getting back where I couldn’t see my private part when I take a shower! Day after my miscarriage I went down completely back to normal, in a day! So I don’t think that be the cost of this bump! I also feel wearied movements in my tummy! I also thought my boobs would of going down because the milk stop running from it on March 8th 2014, but it still feel full! I collate that if I am pregnant I wold be around 5 weeks because of that wearied bleeding! I do want a baby because I want to take care of something that will look up at me knowing that I am there for him/her every single day and every single minute! 🙂 I am going to hospital on the Thursday 8th May, to do the blood test pregnancy! So please tell me what you think it could be of, with all of it! 🙂 Thank you for reading! ^_^
