Three months along & I found myself in the hospital…
I was having a m/c…. I had to have a DNC. They said the drugs would put me out of it enough that I would know what was going on. That I wouldn’t remember…..I wouldn’t hear, wouldn’t see.
I did hear & I did see… I do remember.
We were so sad. We wanted that baby. My man brought home a small porcelain doll with dark hair & beautiful skin just like our baby would have had. She sings a beautiful song, that still brings tears these many years later.
The first was the hardest, both physically & emotionally… I had another 4 after the first. I lost all of those babies at about a month along. I couldn’t understand why. The Doctors were looking & finding nothing.
Finally, they found an answer. Finally, they found a way that maybe I could carry a child to term. We tried again. I followed the instructions carefully. I made it past the first, then the second & third month…
This pregnancy hurt deep into the marrow of my bones, I felt tired & weak throughout the whole thing… But I made it through. I carried our baby to term!
This morning, that baby picked up a porcelain doll with dark hair & beautiful skin that sits in our room. “Is this yours, Mom?” … “Have you had her since you were little, Mom?”…
“No sweetheart, not since I was little. Your dad gave her to me.” I wound the key on her back, & as she sang her song today, I was able to smile.
Today is a day of celebration. Today is a day of victory.
I want to educate the world.
I want to educate women.
When you are pregnant, you have a choice.
You must choose life or death.
Choosing life does not mean choosing a life you are unprepared for.
Choosing life does not mean choosing to raise a child.
Many women are unprepared to
raise the child they are carrying.
There are people who are
prepared to raise a child.
They are ready, willing, & able.
Except they cannot carry a child,
they cannot give a child life.
Choosing adoption is not the easy way out.
When you are pregnant &
unprepared, there’s no easy way out.
Choosing adoption is
responsible parenting
when you know there is no other way, you can be responsible.
Choosing adoption is not giving your child away.
Choosing adoption is releasing.
Releasing your child…
releasing a life to be lived
releasing unspeakable love
releasing peace that passes understanding
releasing answers to prayers
Choosing adoption is receiving
receiving answered prayers
receiving peace that passes understanding
receiving unspeakable love
receiving a life to be lived.
Choosing adoption is choosing life.
I was a teen mom. I left home 2 days after I turned 17. Left with my boyfriend ~ who was 4 years older than me. My boyfriend & I lived in a car for a few weeks. Getting to school was hard.
He had friends who were getting their girlfriends pregnant or already had kids, so we decided we wanted to have a baby too. I did get pregnant. I quit making it to school altogether. We moved into a house with friends. It wasn’t a home, but a party house.
We didn’t stay there too long before he was put in jail. When he left, I moved in with my grandparents. They were very generous to me. Unfortunately, I didn’t appreciate it then. This all happened in a matter of months. It seemed like a long time but it wasn’t~ my life was completely changed within the first semester of my Junior year of high school. By the time the second semester started, I was pregnant, living with my grandparents, and my boyfriend was in jail. I was back in school & experiencing not morning sickness but all-day sickness.
My due date was in August, my boyfriend got out of jail a month or two before. We moved into a place together. My grandparents were upset & wanted me to stay with them. My baby was born about a week late with no problems. In October, I started at an alternative school & finished my senior year within 6 weeks.
Before my baby had even turned one. my boyfriend & I had broken up & I was pregnant again, with no idea what I was going to do.
I had a choice to make, & it wasn’t an easy one, it would affect my life & my children’s lives.
When you are young & you know you don’t have what it takes to raise the child growing inside of you, it’s scary.
We don’t talk about all the choices we have enough. Girls are left with a lot of questions. They are misled, they are manipulated, & coerced into choices they didn’t feel comfortable with. I have been a teen mom. I am also a birth mom who released a child through an open adoption. I have received blessings & joy, as well as heartache from this decision ~ but those are things that come with life. I feel very strongly that the choice for adoption, especially open adoption, be talked about & people be educated. If you have questions you want to ask, please ask.
I’ve been a teen mom, I am a birth mom, I am a mom who has lost babies to miscarriages.
I have been there, I have experienced the pain. I have come through it & have healed.
