Sigh!!!… I have not a clue what to do…????
I think that I am pregnant but I don’t want to be. Know I am having symptoms of pregnancy like; getting hungry a lot faster, I’m urinating a lot more often than usual, I’m sleeping a lot more, am having cravings, and it’s obviously a lot more difficult for me to stool. However, I don’t want to be pregnant NOW because I have a lot more to do before I have a child in my life and am only 21 years but I have to deal with it. What I really want is some advice and how to even prepare myself to even start to take a pregnancy test…..?????????
Plz, I am stressed out.
It takes time to find yourself and finding the true means of survival is another task at hand. We become so fragile and afraid that we forget to speak out and be heard, in order to be saved and set free. It took me a while to find the voice inside me. The funny part is it was always there but I never took the time to listen until I fell and became a victim of abuse.
I hid all the pain inside me, afraid to speak out for I feared the man I slept with and I cooked for. He was my fiancé but he treated me like his possession. I did as I was told to avoid an argument because I knew what would happen if I tried to say what I felt.
I thank God for the courage He gave me because the day I was set free was because I had the power and strength to listen to the voice within and speak my mind. I did not care what he would do to me then, but I knew he had to hear me. Than I got the courage to tell him its over and I walked out tall and proud. Yes, I still do think about him but that’s because love does not die that easily and a part of me will always care.
But its good to be free because I’m able to love myself unconditionally and face the future with out fear.
I had been in a relationship for 5 months when I fell pregnant at 17.
It was a shock, but I had decided that I was keeping the baby. I was about 5 weeks along and experiencing morning sickness food cravings, etc. Then at 8 weeks, I got horrible pains in my stomach. I was having a miscarriage. My world kinda fell apart at that moment. I spiraled down into a world of depression. Couldn’t eat, never wanted to get out of bed, and couldn’t work. I felt like it was my fault that this baby never survived. Felt like I had caused it. A few months went by and I slowly went back to normal, still thinking about it every now and then, but getting my life on track. My boyfriend at the time was working away. When he got back, we had a celebration and everyone was a little drunk. That night, I fell pregnant.
I found out in early December. my partner wasn’t ready for this and made it very obvious. he was still a kid at heart and didn’t want the responsibility of a child. I was confused on what to do. I loved my boyfriend and wanted to be with him, but I felt he would never accept this. Stupid young love put me in the worst decision of my life. He made it clear what he wanted. I remember the night before crying myself to sleep telling him I wanted this baby, but he put doubts in my head that i would be an unfit mother from my depression. That I could cope raising a baby. I went through with it and now I think about it everyday. Guilt, sadness, loss. I still remember sitting in the white room with the clock ticking and ticking. Knowing in myself this was the wrong decision.
It has been one year and 7 months since it happened. I’m not with the boyfriend anymore, but I still struggle most days, knowing in myself that it was never the right decision or right thing to do. I hoped that when I do fall pregnant again that my baby will forgive me and come back to me.
Hmm… Where to start…
Well, I’m not pregnant! 🙂 I took a test and it’s official. I feel like I have a big weight lifted off of my shoulders. I didn’t tell my mom about this scare, but I’ll tell her someday when the time is right. Although I got strange looks from people at Target, it was well worth it and I made a friend who works there. She’s a single mom, maybe about 18? She was super nice. She said just to ignore the people who are giving you the weird looks. I stuck around for a while so that when she got off break, she could talk to me a little bit about my decision if I was indeed pregnant. She said that keeping the baby is a tough job, but well worth it. But after telling her how old I was, she said adoption would be my best option if I was pregnant. She was like the big sister I never had. She truly saved my life that day.
And then there’s one other thing. Me and boyfriend aren’t seeing each other anymore. We actually broke up before I took the test, which wasn’t a smart move because I would need him by my side if I was pregnant. I actually did the breaking up part. He was getting so serious, talking about settling down with me someday and having kids, and I’m not ready to be done looking for guys. I’m still only 14 and for all I know he might not be the right one for me. And plus, our relationship was getting too sexual too fast. He wanted to do sexual activity whenever I came over and all I wanted to do was hang out with him and have a good time. Now, I didn’t break up with him just because of those two things, I also didn’t have any feelings left for him. Before we started seeing each other, I worked so hard to get him and then when I finally got him, it was like ‘Oh.. well, I finally have you and I don’t have any feelings left for you now, wtf?’ And he said well we can just take a break and I said, “I’m sorry, but I can’t keep coming back to you. I need to move on and get rid of this security thing I have with you. I need to live life as a teenager and be thinking about settling down with you.” And also, me and him have been off and on for a year and a half, and this year, I’m going to a new school with new people, and if I meet someone I don’t want to cheat.
Well, I’m glad I have that weight lifted off my shoulders and can live life like a teenager now 🙂
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After reading many women’s stories, I thought writing everything down may help.
There’s a chance I could be pregnant. I think it’s more likely yes than no, and that thought scares me. I don’t really know what to do. I’ve had scares before as I am extremely paranoid. I’m a 16-year-old and I love my boyfriend more than anything. I know he thinks getting rid of a baby would be easy as when I’ve been scared before he’s always not really listened. But now I feel weird. I’ve had plans, looked up procedures, and I know everything I need to. But the reality is quite different from the facts. I am lost, as I don’t want to feel the hurt that some women have. However, I know I have to have an abortion as I have no financial support and my mum wouldn’t allow me to keep it. Neither would my boyfriend. It’s stupid of me to keep it. It would ruin my life and I know it’s impossible. Therefore, I have to sit and wait around, hoping I get my period.
I’ve been having cramps since at least a week ago, and I’m due at some point this week. I am praying I get it as I don’t want to hurt a baby, but I know that if I have to, then I have no other alternative. This makes me sad, and as much as I want this to all go away, its my own fault, and I shouldn’t have been so stupid.
I’m on the pill, so we haven’t always used condoms, not at all recently. Which I knew was a bad idea, but it didn’t stop me. But I always felt quite confident as he always pulled out, making it slightly safer as there would be less there.
But anyway, I now fear that this will change me, as it has so many others. I always thought I would be able to do this, but I just know it will hurt me emotionally and be quite unbearable.
I just joined this site for this purpose as I thought that someone on here would be more experienced and knowledge- filled than me.
So basically, I was wondering if you could tell me how likely it is that I’m pregnant, and if I am, has anyone had the up to 13 week surgical abortion? Because I think that would be my preference.
A final worry is that I will be too late to have the abortion done. I’ll test next week if nothing happens. And I’ll be around 5 weeks then, so I don’t want to run out of time.
Any advice is welcome, and sorry for writing so much, I always thought it was impossible to write as much as some people do, but then I guess I’ve found I have a lot to say.
Thank you for reading.
I’m Really Confused right now! I need help figuring it out…
I’m thinking about taking Skyler’s Daddy to court to get child support from him. He hasn’t paid for her ever. It’s been 3 1/2 years now. I don’t know how to get him to pay it. I’m scared he will fight and not have to pay for his daughter who he calls a mistake that should have not been born. He told me that I shouldn’t have kept my baby and killed it. I have never seen this side of him before.
How can I get him to pay for his kid, even though he doesn’t want her alive? I need HELP!!
