HELP!! I’m 16 years old and currently not in a relationship.
My boyfriend split up with me a month ago. I just found out today I am pregnant. I knew something was not right and took myself to the chemist this morning and got a pregnancy test. it came out positive. I and my ex used protection when we were together so I was quite shocked, but had a feeling something was not right. I don’t know what to do. Please can people tell me what they decided to do when they found out they were pregnant? I don’t think I can do anything else, but keep my baby, but I am just worried about my age and if I could cope.
Please tell me your stories because I am so lost at the moment and have not told anyone about this yet.
My life has been far from perfect…
I’ve made several mistakes throughout my teenage life that led me to the position I am in now. I made poor sexual choices that resulted in not only hurting myself but several people around me as well. I don’t really know what happened in between then and now. All I can say is that I’ve grown, developed, and learned to make much better decisions with my body and otherwise.
I am 20 years old, I have a boyfriend of 3 years whom I love, and together, we have a beautiful 8-month-old baby girl. We had an apartment for about 9 months, but he hasn’t worked in over a year and I quit my job in June. We ran out of money and got evicted, leaving the 3 of us back at my mother’s house. I’m beyond hurt. I feel like I wasted all my money, time, and energy when I was the only one trying to provide for my family. Now I have poor credit, no savings, no apartment, and I’m about $2,000 in debt.
Wanna know the best part to this fairy tale life I lead?
We’re pregnant again.
Yup, that’s right… We’re gonna have another baby… Making our 2 children less than 18 months apart.
We’ve agreed that we can barely provide a good lifestyle for our daughter alone and to add another child into the mix would be very unfair for her, let alone an extremely large amount of work for the 2 of us. I’ve always disagreed with abortion and never really spoke to anyone who had an abortion about their abortion. About an hour ago, I read exactly what they do to a woman and the fetus to perform an abortion and frankly, it makes me sick. We’ve considered giving the child to a couple in the family who is unable to conceive children.
At this point, I truly believe that that is the best choice for the baby. I know we do not have the resources to care for another child. I know that the people we are considering giving the child to do. What I don’t know is… How are we going to explain this to the kids when they get older? Will they spite me for this decision and say I love one more than the other because I decided to keep them?.. Am I wrong if I have another child after this one and decide to keep it? How am I going to tell my mother that I’m pregnant, again?
And I understand I am a mother now and things like parties and how I look shouldn’t really concern me… But I’m still young. I found out I was pregnant with my first child on my 19th birthday (in March) and had the baby in December… So I couldn’t really do anything then… Or for my 20th birthday.. So I’m already getting excited for my 21st because its supposed to be a big deal…. But it looks like I’ll be around 36 weeks pregnant then, so no celebration… And I mean… I gained 60 lbs. with my first baby… 60 freaking pounds!!!! I have so many stretch marks on my stomach legs and hips that I looks like a zebra… I often compare my stomach to that of my grandmother’s, saggy and wrinkly…. And it really… I mean REALLY bothers me… I’m 20… Yea, I know… Most 20 year olds look good.. 5’6” 135 lbs. like… I got a nice figure… But my skin looks terrible and I have love handles… And I just don’t know how I’m gunna look after I have another baby…
I just got used to not being pregnant… Now I have to spend the next 40 weeks, peeing and sleeping and eating and nauseas and going to the doctor and being frikkin huge… Then I have to deliver another child!!! For those of you who have not had a kid yet… It’s hard… It’s a lot of work being pregnant and then you have to deliver a baby and I think its kinda scary and I’m really nervous about doing it again so soon.
I guess I just need some support/ motivation….
It’s been 2 years now and everything has been OK.
A few months back, I had a dream and in that dream, I was in a hospital. My mom was there with me and then a nurse came in and gave my mother a baby. She handed that baby to me and said, “He was crying for his mommy.” And I took him and held him. He was wrapped in a blue blanket and wore blue clothes. I couldn’t see his face, but I knew that it was him, my baby 🙂 . That was the most wonderful dream ever and when I woke up, I thought about it and I had a boy. My little angel is a boy :). I have a name for him and it’s Dylan, this name has a wonderful meaning that suits my angel…
I told my boyfriend about what happened and about Dylan. You know not a day passes without him talking about how blessed I am to have a guardian angel who’s always watching over me. He tells me that he is the one and only dad that Dylan has and nothing is gonna change that
These have been the best 9 months of my life since my boyfriend came in the picture. For some reason, I think Dylan brought my boyfriend and I together because there’s been a lot we’ve been through in these 9 months, but not even one moment have I doubted the love that me and him share.
Every tough time we go through, my angel is always there to see us through….
So even though at the moment, I’m staying with my boyfriend’s mother and we stay on the living room floor, I dislike it so much.
Don’t get me wrong. I thank for her letting us stay there we do; pay rent and buy food, cook and clean the house. But I just don’t wanna bring My son home to that place. My boyfriend’s brother and his girlfriend fight all the time and smoke a lot in the house. Same with my boyfriend’s mother. She smokes a lot in the house to and I just don’t wanna bring my son home to something like that. I have been trying everything I can think of to keep our family together and find a place that is safe to bring my son home to, but I have lost all hope at the moment because I’m 34 weeks today and don’t have much time to find a home. I don’t know what to do.
I feel alone, lost, and am just so confused because my boyfriend doesn’t understand where I’m coming from or help me try to find a better place for our son to come home to…
Hi. I found out four months ago that I was pregnant.
I was scared like every person is when they find out. I did decide to have an abortion which I regret till this day. The man that got me pregnant I love with all my heart, but he feels different about me which hurts me so much. We had been seeing each other for two years. I don’t know what to do without him.
It takes time to finally put all behind you and move on. God knows I still miss him, but I’m moving on for me.
It’s hard to forget someone you have been with for years and harder when you have lived together, shared the same bed, and cried together, but his apology now won’t change things. Ladies, don’t stay with a man who abuses you, even if you love him to bits. Get out and let him get help. Don’t be the victim because it will always haunt you.
I’m glad I found this site because it has helped me be stronger and able to move on.
