So I’m thinking I’m pregnant… I don’t want to take the test because I know what it will say… I’m almost 19 years old.
This can’t be happening now. I play sports in college and my parents are going to be so disappointed in me… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years now and he and his just moved to Minneapolis, MN (I live in Knoxville, Tennessee). That’s OH MY GOD far. I’m really close with his family and I’ve gone up there a few times, lived there for a month during Christmas break. I know he’ll support me; we’ve talked about getting married and me coming to live there permanently, but I don’t know if I can handle all this.
I’m going to keep my baby but I’ve never had to deal with anything like this… I haven’t gotten my period all of December. I’ve been bloated for a good 3 weeks now. I don’t throw up but I get nauseous. I have to walk away from strong smells, my boobs feel so heavy, and they hurt so bad. I can’t stand to have any pressure on my stomach. I normally weigh 105 pounds (and have for 2 years now) and all the sudden, I’m 109, I have horrible cravings, & I eat like a cow… and I’m so moody! Does it sound like I’m pregnant or what?!
Happy New Year to me… 🙁
Advice //help…please…
DEAR BECKY,
I AM 19 YEARS OLD AND I AM I THINK 8 OR 9 WEEKS PREG. MY SITUATION IS THAT I WANT THIS BABY MORE THAN ANYTHING I REALLY DO BUT I HAVE RECENTLY LOST MY HOME AND MY JOB! I HAVE NO MONEY, NO CAR. I AM NOT IN COLLEGE EVEN THOUGH I WANT TO BE. I HAVE NO FAMILY HERE IN VA WITH ME AND I GOT MY GRANDMA TO SAY THAT I CAN LIVE IN HER RV IN FL BUT IF I DO THAT, THEN THE BABY’S FATHER CAN’T SEE ME BECAUSE HE IS BLACK AND I AM WHITE!!! I LOVE THE BABY’S FATHER MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF BUT THAT SITUATION MAKES THIS EVEN MORE DIFFICULT BECAUSE HE RECENTLY LOST HIS JOB TOO AND HIS HOME!! (WE WERE LIVING TOGETHER AS FRIENDS OF 5 OR 6 YEARS AND STARTED SLEEPING TOGETHER!) HE IS IN SCHOOL AND IS ALMOST DONE AND DOESN’T WANT TO SETTLE DOWN YET. HE SAYS IN THE FUTURE, MAYBE WHEN WE HAVE OUR LIVES TOGETHER AND FATE BRINGS US BACK… WHICH IT ALWAYS HAS… BUT I CAN’T DO THIS ALONE AND MY SITUATION IS HORRIBLE!!!
I WANT THE BABY BUT AT THE SAME TIME, I AM THINKING ABOUT HOW I GREW UP WITHOUT MY DAD AND A MOM WHO WAS SINGLE AND NEVER THERE FOR ME AND TO THIS DAY STILL ISN’T BUT TRRIES IN SMALL WAYS TO BE THERE….AND I HATED MY LIFE!@!!!! EVERYTHING ALWAYS GOES BAD FOR ME BECAUSE OF MY DECISIONS AND I THINK AT THE TIME IT’S A GOOD DECISION BUT THEN AS TIME GOES BY AND THINGS GET EVEN WORSE, THAT IN FACT IT WAS A BAD DECISION!!! MY FAMILY THINKS AN ABORTION IS THE BEST THING FOR THE FATHER, THE BABY, AND FOR I AND THE FATHER IS NOW KIND OF AGREEING ON THAT. BUT I KNOW HOW I AM GOING TO FEEL AFTERWARDS AND I KNOW THAT IN MY HEART I REALLY DON’T WANT AN ABORTION. BUT AT THE SAME TIME, IT DOES SEEM LIKE IT’S THE RIGHT THING TO DO BECAUSE I WON’T GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION. I’M SORRY BUT I CAN’T DO THAT!!! THAT IS MY BABY AND IF I CARRY IT AND GIVE IT LIFE, IT WILL STAY WITH ME BUT I DON’T THINK IT IS FAIR TO BRING A LIFE INTO MY LIFE WHEN MY LIFE IS NOT GOING WELL AT ALL!!!!
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND EVEYONE I TALK TO IS SET TO ONE OPINION OR THE OTHER AND NO ONE IS NEUTRAL AND ABLE TO HELP BASED ON WHAT IS RIGHT FOR ME AND THE BABY RATHER THAN JUST THEIR OWN OPINION!!! I NEED HELP FROM SOMEONE WHO WONT JUDGE ME OR THE SITUATION BASED ON WHAT THEY BELIEVE BUT WHAT WOULD BE RIGHT FOR ME AND THE CHILD AND FOR THE FATHER ALSO!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ON MY LIVING SITUATION AND THAT IS THE HARDEST THING CONSIDERING THAT I HAVE NO JOB MONEY OR CAR!!!!! I AM NOT STABLE YET BUT I REALLY WANT TO BE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!
PLEASE HELP?????!!!!
I know I haven’t wrote in a while, but a lot has happened, and one is pregnancy and I’m basically being forced to have an abortion.
What should I do? The father doesn’t want it.
After months of waiting to find out what was making me so sick, I found out that I had cancer. The seizures, blackouts, memory lapses, and weight loss can finally be explained.
I feel so overwhelmed by everything that’s going to happen and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t scared because I am. I’ve seen what cancer can do. The cancer made my aunt weaker, but the chemo killed her. I don’t want that to happen to me.
I chose to have to have external radiation therapy instead of chemo, maybe it’ll work. I hope so. I’m tryna stay positive, but it’s so hard. I’ve already told my friend that I don’t want anyone visiting me the 8 weeks I’m gonna be in the hospital. I don’t want them seeing me like that. I don’t care if they call, but I don’t want to see anyone while I’m in treatment. Not even my boyfriend. [Oops. I forgot to mention I have one now. hehe. As far as I can tell, he’s a good guy. I hope he stays that way.] Anyways, my friends wanted to argue with me over whether or not they were gonna come visit me, and in the end, I won.
So wish me luck…and btw, I’m gonna be just fine.
I’m a fighter and this is another battle I’m gonna win.
I’m 14 years old. And me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. He’s my longest relationship and also my first.
I really love him and I know that he loves me too. He’s 17 and even though he’s older, he’s not with me for reasons most people would think that an older guy would be with a younger girl.
Well, we’ve had sex a couple of times and we’ve talked about the possibility of me becoming pregnant. He told me that if I ever were to become pregnant that he would be there for me and the baby, no matter what. And I definitely believe him. But this last time that we had sex, I’m scared that I may be pregnant and I’m not so sure what to do. I’m not scared to tell my boyfriend, but I’m scared to tell my parents. I really want to finish school and go to college. It’s like half of me is scared but the other half is excited.
If there’s anyone who can give me a little bit of advice on what I should do, I would really appreciate it.
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for a lil over 2 years, and lately, I dunno……. I feel like no matter how much I try, he just doesn’t or won’t get me.
We had an abortion 2 years ago and honestly, it’s been downhill since then. He’s tried to make it work but honestly, ever since the abortion, I’ve never felt the same. I asked for a break, but he didn’t want to take a break so we tried to stick it out but… I’ve been forcing my emotions for someone who I can no longer pretend to care for. I mean I love him I truly do but I’m almost 25 and I need someone I can rely on financially, emotionally, mentally, etc. And honestly, he’s none of those. Great guy. He’ll give you the shirt off his back but I don’t know. I need more. I need someone I can rely on…. I dunno if I’m just being cranky, but I just hate feeling like I’m the man in the relationship. I work. I go to school. I must plan our weekends. It’s like I’m the dude.
I dunno. Lemme stop rambling. It’s a New Year, hopefully with new beginnings.
