Hi. I can’t help but notice that a lot of guys don’t want to be dads and I just don’t understand it.
I’m a dad and I am so grateful that God gave me my son. He is truly the greatest blessing in my life. My wife and I don’t earn a lot of money and raising a child is very difficult but with God’s help, we find a way. We have just discovered that my wife is pregnant again and it will increase our problems but I’m not unhappy. In fact I am so happy I wish to scream it to the world.
Having a child is amazing. I often just sit and watch my son who is 3 now and I am amazed watching him discover his own abilities and failures. It is something I could do all day. And no matter how tough things get or how naughty he can be, when he comes over to me, puts his arms around me, and squeezes me with all his might then looks up and gives me a kiss and says, “I love you daddy”, I know that I did the right thing in having him. In that moment, nothing else matters and I know I would gladly lay down my life for him. I really can’t wait for my next one. The point is no matter how tough things may become, I promise you your child will be worth it. There is no price to pay or burden to carry or pain to endure that could ever make you regret the choice to keep your child.
From, Michael in South Africa
This is my story of how I met and am with the guy I’m having my baby with.
I met him on December 4th while hanging with a few of my friends at their house. I barely knew him at the time, but we had sex and I lost my virginity. I thought I was never going to hear from him again, but a couple of days later, he texted. I asked him about that night asking if he regretted what we did or anything like that. He said no. He said he didn’t regret anything and still wanted to see me, so next weekend he did. Everything was great. I had a new guy in my life and he is amazing. A few weeks ago, he told me he loves me and I love him too. After that, I started feeling funny; nausea in the morning and night and constantly eating. I was afraid I was pregnant so I had a friend get me a test and guess what? It was positive. I still didn’t believe it so I bought another one this weekend. It was still positive.
He still doesn’t know I’m pregnant but I’m going to tell him soon. I hope he doesn’t freak out. He’s a lot older than me and I’m not ready to be a mother I think, but honestly, I don’t know. Honestly, I’m kind of excited. All I know is I love my boyfriend and I hope he loves me enough to support me with the baby and we can be a family.
Okay, so here it is.
I am 16 years old and very responsible and dedicated. I’m only a sophomore in high school and already in college. I am on the pill and am very good about taking it. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. This past month, I messed up on my pill. I don’t know what happened, but I took the last week of the pills as the first week. I didn’t notice it till my period was late. Then I looked at the package and realized what I had done. My period is almost two weeks late now.
The pills being taken differently could have stopped my period this month I know. And my boyfriend and I only had sex twice last month. I took a $1 test on Monday, Jan 2nd. It was negative, but it was still early. I plan to take a First Response test this week. My boyfriend will raise it and has a good job. But he thinks it will ruin my future that i have pushed so hard for. He threw up the word Abortion once. Which was so odd for him because he is against it. But he is just so concerned about what my parents will do with their tempers and about my future. He said it’s in me and my choice though and he will be there through it all no matter what I do. And I know he will.
My parents will not understand, I am afraid. That’s my biggest fear. They treat me like a child when it comes to this stuff when clearly I am not. I am a high school student and a college student. I have a job. I have practically raised myself. But still, my boyfriend is really scared they will push us apart instead of telling him to own up.
I was thinking of telling them in a letter? That way I don’t have to be face to face with them. I know I don’t want to tell them alone if I turn out to be. I honestly would slightly fear for my child’s safety.
I haven’t had many symptoms, I find that my breasts are sore and my stomach hurts and I have a weird tugging feeling around my belly button. Also I have cysts on my ovaries and they have been killing me lately like they are stretching or about to bust. I know pregnancy ruptures them.
I know this is a lot to read and if you take the time I thank you greatly. I can do this I know I can. My boyfriend has a two year old daughter by the girl he was with before me. I have raised her as my own though, and I have raised my niece and nephew. I know what it feels like to get little sleep and go to school. I can do this I know I can. I just want some opinions, advice, COMFORT.
Thank you so much,
Black Rose <3
Well, since I last wrote the beginning to my story,
I finally got pregnant!
I will never forget November 3rd, the morning the love of my life and I found out I was pregnant. Following that morning, we wrecked our car. We were okay. Only a burn on my collarbone from the seat belt and I was a little shook up. But following the days on the 5th of November, I miscarried. We were devastated. We fell in love with our little cheeto as we called it as soon as we found out I was pregnant. And once we finally got what we had wanted, just like that, it disappeared. But our baby is in heaven now and my doctor told me we could try again once I have my next full cycle. Well, it’s been a month and Flo was due today but she has yet to arrive so this week we shall see if our prayers have been answered!
On another note I found out my cousin is pregnant! So this should be a lot of fun! :]
When things get good, why do they go wrong?
Wednesday, I started having pain, more pain then I’ve ever had, and I called my doctor, and she told me to relax and to come in Monday the 2nd at 8:30…
Thursday night/ Friday morning, I collapsed, and my mom called an ambulance, and I was taken to urgent care… and I think my doctor was avoiding me because the U.C. doctor told me she’d be there, but Kaufman never came in until after 4!!!!! I was waiting on my OBGYN to come check on me for OVER TWELVE HOURS!! What the hell! I could have saved my baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She didn’t think I miscarried at first, because I wasn’t bleeding.
Then, she did my ultrasound.. You wanna talk about making a DR. sweat???? She KNEW my baby wasn’t alive. I’m NOT EFFING STUPID!!! She moved me and moved me and searched for the freaking heartbeat… and I lost it! I HATED my doctor. HATED HER. It’s like she wanted this to be unsuccessful! I followed everything like a good mommy, and I worked to make this pregnancy work!!! Even with everything else, and my doctor had to say I’m sorry for your loss?????? She never let me have an ultrasound; she let me listen to the heartbeat ONCE, but that was ONLY because William was there. I wanna die, it’s unfair that I lost another baby. I never meant for things to go wrong, ever. Dr. Kaufman says that low progesterone, low iron, and low white blood cells are to blame… && that, my blood work backs up… but, I don’t understand why? I was doing EVERYTHING she asked me to…
But I decided. I’m not going to try to have more babies… If I get pregnant again, I’ll make sure not to get excited. Because everything I get happy before it dies.
OH MY GOD. I’ve never been sooooo impatient in my life!!
I’m 39 weeks tomorrow and dying to go into labor already. I’m going to the doctor tomorrow & Hopefully, they check my cervix! They still haven’t yet… If I’m dilated or effaced at all, I’m going to walk a million miles and drive on a really bumpy road! I’m pretty much desperate to get him out…
As for my Christmas… Guess who got engaged(: Meeeeeee!!!! Hehe. No, he didn’t get down on one knee like in a fairy tale. It went like this: Christmas morning, we had gotten each other one thing and it was under the tree at my dad’s. I got him a big huge thing of gum (I had gotten him a tattoo days prior) and he got me a pillow & blanket… After we opened those, we went to my mom’s house. We opened the stuff ‘Santa’ (my mom) had gotten us. Then I went on my merry way decorating the cookies I made the day before… After a few minutes, my mom brings me a box, all wrapped up… I opened it and it was a bra. Hahaha thank you darling. Then I continue with my cookies. Then I get ANOTHER box, this one was a hallmark one all wrapped up. I opened it had a little white box in it… In it was a diamond turtle necklace (: I peeked in the box and saw the turtle then closed it and said ‘No! Its too much!” After a few minutes of refusal, I pouted & put it on. After that, totally in the zone of cookie decorating, he and my mom bring out ANOTHER box. Gosh guys… In this box, there was another white box all wrapped up. I peeked in the box and it was a freaking ring!! I closed it and set it on the counter, I said no way, not taking it. Its a ring!!!!” I don’t handle big gifts well….. After more minutes and arguing, I opened it up and put it on. I hugged Thomas and I guess he was going to say “So will you marry me?” But I interrupted him at “So will you…..” “SO will I what?!!?” “Marry me!” *Grabs the counter*”Omg, WHAAAT?!!?!?” hahahah. I said yes of course, but when i get surprised, it is the funniest thing eveeeer.
So that was my great highlight of my holiday.
I’m stilll awaiting labor… grrr.
