This is an update from my last forum post…
I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to do the right thing. I want my baby to be happy, but I want to be happy too… See, all my life, I’ve been living, trying make everyone else happy (maybe that’s why I’m anorexic)… Working so hard to make everything easy for everyone else, I’m really really sensitive, and I worry a lot from other people’s feelings… So this thing with my boyfriend… I’ve been working so hard to make him happy, that I’m forgetting all about my happiness…. And even though he’s been a jerk, we’ve been through a lot of things together and he’s a great dad, that sometimes I’m really scared to lose him, but there’s other times when I don’t know if I still love him… Sometimes, I wish he had dumped me when I told him I was pregnant…
He may come today to my house, and I don’t know what would happen. I would have a serious chat with him. I will ask him for the last time if he still loves me… If he says no… Well, I’ll try to figure out how to continue my life having to see his face everytime he wants to see our baby while my heart brokens in a thousand pieces…
If he says yes, I’m going to tell him that if its true, that if he really loves me and respects me,,, He’ll wait until we get married to have sex, well actually, to make love, (for me its not the same thing) and I’ll tell him that if wants this relationship to work out that he has to respect me. He’s has to stop all that crap he’s been telling me…
We’ll see how all this ends. I’ll keep all of you updated. Any advice would be gladly accepted.
Girls, this situation is driving me crazy! So I have to talk before I explode.
I have a beautiful 10-month-old daughter. I have to admit it hasn’t been easy. I suffer from depression and take pills for that. Besides that, I live with my mother. We argue every other day cause sometimes I can’t take care of my baby like it has to be. I lose my calm. I am not with my baby’s father, he doesn’t even ask for her, so ignorant…. So I’m alone with her and my mom.
So like 10 years ago, I met this guy. I’ve been in love or something like that with him all this time. All of the sudden, he appears again in my life. So I started having sex with him without protection. One month later, I was pregnant again… He said he wasn’t ready for that and for me really, it was so difficult. I’m without a job and my mom will kill me. I was confused, but my baby was still a baby, only 10 months old. So we decided to not continue with my pregnancy. That was a horrible decision for me to make and right now, I still feel so bad about it. So, he is like my baby’s father, older but irresponsible. He likes to smoke pot and lives with his grandparents.
3 weeks after that, we had sex again with protection. One month has passed and I have no signs of my period. I’m not going out anymore with my so called platonic love, but I told him my period hasn’t come AGAIN. I think I’m pregnant AGAIN! And this time if God is sending me this, I’ll have to deal with it, with him or without him…
What worries me the most is my mom…I’m so worried!
OK, I do everything I’m supposed to. I go to school, I have a job, and I raise my 5-month-old son all by myself. My baby’s daddy doesn’t have anything to do with him. How about then yesterday, he decided he was going to go and get married to a girl he’s been engaged to for 4 days!!!!!!
She was dating his cousin on Thursday and on Friday, she was engaged to my baby’s daddy… How messed up is that? Anyway, he’s 18 and she’s 22. She has a 5-year-old daughter that he’s about to have parental custody signed over to him by her real father, and he’s going to “support” them with the money he makes off the job he DOESN’T have!!! Now how do you just not even acknowledge that you have a child that is your blood and take care of someone else’s child? I mean, come on!! He didn’t finish school, he doesn’t have a job, and he’s just recently decided that he was going to start doing pills? Hello, what’s wrong with you? How about this, you guys….. He even got her initials tattooed on him???????? And I’ve tried to be nice and still let his mom have something to do with my son, but how about I found out last night that she let them take MY SON with them the other night, and she just straight up lied to my face! And not to mention he lost his licenses recently also….. I mean what do I do about this? I feel like I’m being looked at as a bad parent because of the choices he is making.
What do you do? I’m so fed up with it…. It’s absolutely ridiculous. Anyways, I really needed to get that out. If anyone has any advice, please PLEASE don’t hesitate.
I always thought my dream job would be to work at a crisis pregnancy center. I now work there as the office manager and counselor.
When the women come in to talk, my heart bleeds for them. I have been through much of what they are going through. It is almost overwhelming, but I just remember God leads every word I say because NOTHING I say alone would ever cut it!
Well, I’m 15. 4 months pregnant. The baby’s due June 17.
I’m soo happy. I hope it’s a girl. My dad doesn’t know yet. My family is VERY Christian oriented, so I wonder how that will pass.
I’m friendly and just wanna talk sooo. I’ll keep everyone up-2-date with baby info.
Hi. Just two days ago, I found out that I was three months pregnant. I know I was for the simple fact that I had missed my period twice. I just didn’t want to believe I was.
I always wanted to have a baby, even at this young age of 15 but I wanted to have it with the person I loved and I guessed it came true but I didn’t know how to break it down to him. I thought a lot about it, like if I will really be ready to take care this baby with the situations that may come my way and I think I would. My mom didn’t know either but ever since she’s seen the text messages of me and my boyfriend talking about the time we had sex without a condom about three months ago, she’s been telling me not to have a baby if you cant teach the baby or feed the baby, you know the quote but if you of Michael Jacksons songs lol. But I feel that I could take care of my baby and teach my baby right from wrong, but she seems not to think I could.
Before I meet my boyfriend, I used to wild out but I guess he calmed me down a lot. I went to cheating on every relationship I ever had to being so faithful. I went from having sex with so many guys to just being with him.
But not too long ago when I had a hint that I was pregnant, I had to ask my boyfriend if I was to ever get pregnant would he ever change towards me and he told me yes. I had thought for the worst, being that he would hate me but I asked him why and he said because he would love me more, knowing that I’m the mother of his child and I’m the one he wants to have his child. I asked him what would we do if I became pregnant and he first said he would want me to move in with him. So I feel better knowing that he says he’s going to be there for me but that’s not always guaranteed.
My real fear is how I’m going to tell my mom cuz I have the feeling she’s going to be pissed off at me cuz she had her child at 16 too and she didn’t want none of this for us but I refuse to give up my child are have an abortion.
So could someone tell me what should I do? I need help?
