I never win…never

If only words were to say…

But every weekend, I want to go out so madly. I leave my lil treasure sleeping besides Gran’s bedroom and she is completely unaware Mami is not there. I do not want to be here… I want to have a proper and normal life. I would like to live alone with her but yet, I know it’s so difficult to be just the two of us. I’ve got 4 things to do at the same time and being single mum is the 4th on the list… I’m not given more choice, I cannot choose. I know I can’t complain, I know I’m lucky…I know well, yes.

I wake up every morning at 8 to work, I catch the bus at 8.30 and I’m headed straight to school. I’m paid three times less than I should be for I’m only booked to work 20 hours ( but I do work more than 29 a week!). I finish up at 5.30 pm if lucky enough to reach home (or even later if I’ve got to take students home in a bus…). Then I have to go and rehab my poorly arm ( Rocio is heavy to carry and my right arm is completely in horrible bad shape!! I cannot even lift it to blow-dry my hair). Being nearly right-hand-handicapped and suffering from stiff neck and contractured shoulders every now and then doesn’t make life any easier… I feel so depressed, even thinking of doing anything involving my arms makes me tired…and hurts a lot… Nobody seems to understand. I guess pregnancy weight made it worse but who am I to complain??? I’m not given the turn to do so!

When I finish at 7, I have to stay with Rocio, take care of her, and study my second degree…. I feel so tired all the time. My boyfriend is living abroad and he calls everyday… I miss him like mad but again, I hide feelings and just tell him I’m doing fine but I’m not. At 10, I’m in bed…. Everybody watches tv and shares things about life next day…but I ain’t got no life….not now.

My life comes back on Fridays and Saturdays when I can go out at night…. She sleeps and Mami drinks and has fun—or at least i try.—but she is not happy…. I’m just waiting for him to come back and just killing time till we reunite again… It’s not fair because time always runs against me and I’m missing all other most important things in life—-I never win.

ALL ALone and confused

Hi, I am 17 years old and 7, almost 8 months pregnant. I am so in love with my boyfriend of 2 years but he has a lot of problems such as he is in jail as of right now he has been there for 6 almost 7 months.

At times, I feel really lonely and hopeless because he hasn’t gone to court yet. He is going soon in some weeks to see when he is coming home. I miss him so much. I got him a lawyer and everything. His lawyer says he will be home really soon because he was arrested without a warrant and was searched, him and his house, without a search warrant. But now, we just figured out he has a DUI in another county but they didn’t give him nor his friends a breath test or take them to jail when it happened. It’s been a year since that happened and now, they are trying to charge him with that too. On top of that, in the last 2 years, I have lost my dad (died of cancer), my grandmother, and grandfather and I don’t want to lose him too.

I try to stay positive but it’s hard when I graduate May 23 and don’t know if he will be home by then and baby is due June 19 and my 18th birthday is July 14. I want him to be there and I am scared he won’t! I feel so alone. I look around and see all mothers with their baby’s dad and I don’t mean to but I am jealous of that. I want and miss that and want that for my little girl Lilyana. All my friends don’t even come around much anymore unless they need something. I use to be the fun party girl that everyone loved to hang around and now I am just alone.

I don’t know what to do with myself. Things are also even more hard because I am African American and my boyfriend is Hispanic American and a lot of people at my school thinks that is not right but my mom and my family and his family love it and don’t mind but its just hard when you have people looking down on you all the time.

WHAT TO DO?

I’M 18, JUST FOUND OUT THAT I WAS HAVING A BABY.

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I THOUGHT ABOUT ABORTION BUT CHANGED MY MIND AFTER SEEING THE VIDEO. BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO FEEL. I WISH I JUST HAD ANSWERS!

SHOULD I KEEP THE BABY OR NOT? AND HOW DO I TELL MY FATHER?

my life

I’m seventeen and I have a one-year-old son.

Things were great at first with his dad but now I’m a single mom. Things are really hard now more than ever.

Things are so complicated.

im trying=/

Where do I start?.. Well, I’m 16, goin on 17, on 5/28…and I just found out that I am pregnant… Well, I already knew but I just found out for sure on Thursday… I’ll be 6 weeks tomorrow…

My boyfriend already knew too but now he knows for sure and I don’t think he’s too happy about it… I haven’t told my mom yet…or anybody really but my 2 best friends… They are so supportive and they went with me to my first doctor’s appointment!!.

My boyfriend doesn’t seem too interested in going… All he’s really worried about is buying a skateboard and making a skate crew… and that really upsets me because I feel like I’m goin to be going through this pregnancy without him.

He lives wit me also… But I don’t know… I just don’t feel like he care about the baby as much as I do… Maybe as I get bigger and start showing, he will come around and show me some more love and support…

oh yah… I told him he need to get a job but he still focused on skateboarding…like he isn’t even trying. And it’s really stressing me out.

I’m trying… I just need him !!!..100% support!

Why me?

I always wondered why this was happening to me.

I was born at twenty-seven weeks and weighed only a pound and ten ounces. I was faced with a lot of health problems and when I turned 16, I became pregnant. I lost the baby and also lost the baby’s daddy. We were together for 3 years but it was too much for him to handle so he left me when I was pregnant. While I was pregnant, I was under a lot of stress and I hadn’t told anyone so I was going to the doctor with my boyfriend and I was scared cause I wanted so badly to tell my mom. I finally told my sister and she helped me through it.

I know having a baby and raising it by myself would have been hard but I wish I was a mom. It hurt so bad for me to lose my baby.