OK, let’s start off. I’m 15 almost 16 and have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years.
5 months ago, we became parents for the first time to a son who wasn’t even ours. On July 6th, this lady called. She had a newborn baby born 2 days earlier. She said she needed help. She had to get a few baby items and would return later. She dropped baby Christopher off at our house where my boyfriend and I live together. As soon as she left, she got on a plane to Washington and ditched her cell phone. We had no way to reach her. Now 5 months later, we have had to adjust to life as parents. When we started out, we had issues. We weren’t ready at all. In one weekend, we turned our spare room into a nursery then had to go out and get all the baby stuff. We need not mention that we had no clue how to raise a baby. But we have raised Christopher as our son and are trying as hard as we can now to get full custody. Trying to deal with a new baby at school is hard. When Chris is sick, we take turns watching him and have agreed to not miss much school, our grades are important. Our families have helped a lot they helped get us set up and helped show us how to be good parents. Now after raising Christopher for 5 months, we look at him and think about having our own baby.
Well, now that wish is coming through because we just recently found out we are pregnant with our first child.
I’m thirteen years old and got pregnant in September. That is now two months ago.
I know I am not ready to have a baby or take care of one or anything. My boyfriend broke up with me and I know if I tell him, he’ll end up calling me a slut, saying that it’s not his. We haven’t even talked since the break-up. This whole thing is just so stressful, I hate it. There is no possible way I am ever going to tell my family… Only my best friend that I know won’t tell anyone knows. I don’t believe in abortions but I can’t have a baby, that’s for sure. No one in my family would accept it at all. They’ll probably disown me too and I can’t handle that at all. I don’t know how to get an abortion without your parents’ consent but I just can’t do this……
I’m really lost on what to do.
I am 25 years old with a six-year-old son. I was raped a week before Thanksgiving.
The day after, I tried to forget the little I did remember, and blame myself for trying to start a relationship with a guy that I thought I knew and trusted. Well anyway, now I am having symptoms of pregnancy: sore breasts, sick throughout the day, weird cravings, and so on. I don’t know what to do. I have taken five HPT since that day and they are all negative but the period is still a no-show. I have a dr appt tomorrow and wel, I am trying to prepare myself for what the outcome may be.
I don’t know what to do. Didn’t file charges against the guy either because I couldn’t remember what happened and felt too ashamed and came to find out he is married with two kids already.
OK. Wow! I never thought I would be someone who was even considering an abortion. I’ve never agreed with it and never thought it was the right answer. But this is my situation.
I’ve been married a little over 2 years, and it’s been rocky he has been unfaithful many times, and that has led me to do the same. We have an 18-month-old daughter together, who is my entire world. And I have stayed in the marriage and tried to make it work because I have thought it was best for her. But my husband and I have been separated majority of the year.. and I have been living with my parents. I met this guy and we have become good friends… Well, I guess I’ve been vulnerable and we slept together. I found comfort in him I guess because of everything that I’ve had going on. Well about a week ago, I found out I was pregnant.. and I was terrified. For many different reasons… I’m scared that if my husband finds out even though we are separated that he will be so pissed that he tries to get custody of my daughter, the guy that got me pregnant is a nice guy but he does drugs and isn’t financially ready for a child. I’m currently not working and will not have insurance to cover the pregnancy.
Parts of me feels like abortion would be the best thing… But on the other hand, I want to keep the baby and don’t know that I could live with myself if I actually went thru with it. I’m just so scared and really just don’t know what to do.. PLEASE HELP!
I am 20 years old. I am the mother of a little girl. She is currently 11 months old, about to be 1 in just a few weeks… I just found out that I am now pregnant [again] and I am at a loss at what to do…
Back when I was 18, I got pregnant for the first time with my longtime boyfriend of 4 years, only to be forced and tortured emotionally into having an abortion by him. My mother was the only other person that knew what was going on and while she would have supported me no matter what, she gave me the impression that she agreed with my boyfriend’s decision due to the fact I was too young and she herself started motherhood very young. So I went through with it. I sit and think to myself still to this day wondering what I was thinking? While I feel awful about it and it haunts me from time to time, especially when I look at my daughter, I can’t help but somehow justify it to myself and say that I did the right thing. I go back and forth with it because I know I would not have my daughter whom I love more than anything if I had not had the abortion… But in the end, I vowed never to have another because it was painful physically & emotionally and I hated the whole experience.
So here I am, ironically debating whether or not to do it again. My heart mostly tells me to have this baby because it may be my daughter’s only full blooded brother or sister as me and her father are no longer together and the outlook is grim for our relationship ever surviving. My daughter does already have a half-brother from her father’s previous relationship… So this makes him not want another child simply because he feels he can’t afford three at this point in his life. [He’s very cheap even when it doesn’t involve the babies]
I just know that right now I’m struggling to come to grips with the reality that I’m alone with my daughter and that I’m all she has to come home to. My vision of a family has been totally destroyed and now my worst fears for myself and my daughter are coming true… My sister raises 2 boys by herself and has for a very long time. I’ve watched men come in and out of her life and I’ve seen the pain it’s caused her and the confusion it’s caused her children and though she has it all together and has her own house and car and a good job, I can only imagine that she must be lonely and must long for a father figure for her kids and a man in her life for herself. I’ve secretly told myself as I’ve witnessed her lifestyle that I never wanted to be like that. It just didn’t seem desirable or something that I would want to happen to me. But now, it seems like it will. I will be a single mother with 2 babies… and I wonder how I will do it. I know it can be done. She does it as I’m sure lots of women do, but it’s ME we’re talking about… I just don’t know.
I love my daughter so much and when things were good with her father, we both talked of having another because we were so pleased the first time around. It just seems like this is the baby we were wanting and yet, we aren’t going to get to be together to enjoy it like last time. I really needed him throughout my first pregnancy and now what do I do without him if I go through with having this baby??? Who do I lean on? Sure, I have family and friends but it’s not the same. Not when you’ve done this once already with the person you created this child with, and the person you shared so much with, and who will understand it…
I think my heart is torn in both directions… but my brain says don’t have it.
I just don’t know what to do. I know people who read this are probably going to think I’m selfish…. because there are so many people who don’t even get to sit around getting pregnant and making these decisions…people who can’t have children and want to adopt… and maybe I should choose adoption… but then there goes another factor, how do I give my baby to people I don’t know after I’ve carried it, given birth, seen it, talked to it, held it, and watched it grow on a monitor for over 9 months??? Call me a wuss… but I can’t. I envy people who can… but I can’t… I think it would be even worse for me somehow….
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I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. To my boyfriend of 2 years. I trusted him with my life. When I told him, he said he would support any choice I made. So then a week later, I told my mum and dad who told his parents cos he was to scared too. Once they found out, they tried to force me to have an abortion. They said whatever they could to make me get rid of it. They even told me if I have the baby, you will never see your boyfriend again so they really gave me a choice between the baby or him. I though so hard about it and I wasn’t going to murder my own baby. They made my life hell. They said they wanted no part what so ever. It made me feel soo sad
My boyfriend was on his family’s side. He tried everything to. He told me that I would be an unfit mother. And that having an abortion would be the easy way out… Maybe for him… He said to me you just gotta do it. Then it will all be over. Just walk in there and close your eyes. I will be there, holding your hand. I think he just wanted to be there so I wouldn’t freak out and leave. But I wasn’t going to go. His mother made me appointments to get it done when I didn’t even want to. They said mean things to me they made my life hell. I cried every night. My mum would have to sleep beside me. He wouldn’t leave me alone. He called me every night telling me its for the best
I wasn’t gunna get sucked in by them. All I did was think about my baby. They tried to blackmail me. They made me feel so stressed and sad. I couldn’t believe them. After knowing them for 2 years, they seemed like the nicest people. I got along with them heaps well. Now I know who to trust and don’t believe everything you hear. They called up and had fight with my parents, telling them how much of bad parents they were for letting me keep it. My family is against abortion but they said they support me any way.
Now I am 4 months along and going OK. My boyfriend’s parents want a part in its life now. I think they were saying all that stuff just so I would get rid of it. They didn’t think I was gunna keep it. I proved them wrong and I’m soo happy I didn’t listen to them
I listened to my heart and I did it for my baby. My boyfriend’s still mad at me for keeping it. But I know it will all work out in the end. I just believe in myself and I think of the joy this baby will bring, not the pain of an abortion. My family and friends have been great support
I hope my story helped any one who is getting forced to do something they don’t want. Please do what YOU want, not what they want. Remember, you’re the one who will live with whatever you choose.
