Hi, I’m 19 years old… I’m here cuz I’m in a bad situation.
My fiancé is wanting n forcing me 2 get an abortion… But that is not what I want. I want 2 keep my baby so bad. 4 years ago, when I was 15, I got pregnant n had 2 make a decision, 2 either get an abortion or move out n raise the baby on my own.. But I chose 2 get an abortion 2 make my family happy, but u can’t imagine how much I regret that decision… I really wish I would have kept the baby cuz I wouldn’t have been so depressed n badly wanting a baby!
I just want him 2 realize that me getting an abortion again would really break my heart, n I don’t think I would ever 4give him 4 this…
Well, I just found out that I am pregnant and I really didn’t have a reaction at first considering who I was pregnant by. This is my story.
I am a college student and I was havin’ a good time here up until the beginning of this year. It all started with me finding out that my roommate/friend had been stealing money out of my account, $1405 to be exact over a period of a month. I should of sent her to jail or even beat her up but I had another idea in mind. Well, when she finally admitted she stole the money after being threatened with 11 felony charges, she picked up and moved out without telling anyone, not even her boyfriend which she left here. To make a long story short, I took matters in my own hands and decided 2 sleep with him as a little taste of revenge. It was supposed to be a one-time thing but somehow, I started falling for him and he told me the same thing and we became “boy/girlfriend”. After she found out we were 2gether, she did everything possible 2 cause me drama and he was acting as if he wanted her back. Soon after the girl got him, but in jail, and 3 weeks later, I found out I’m pregnant. It was hard telling my ex, who I was still trying 2 get back with that I was pregnant and he took it really bad he even called my parents and put it on Facebook but I can’t get mad at him. I broke his heart so many times but I still love him and want 2 be with him. My parents don’t want me 2 keep it. They say it will ruin my life and I’m not ready for the responsibilities. But I can’t get an abortion. I already had one b4 with my x and I always think about it. I used 2 try 2 get pregnant, just 2 somehow erase the mistake with the first one. I told the baby daddy I was pregnant and he wants me 2 keep it, but he is in jail and I know he is still in love with her. What am I 2 do? And plus I really miss my ex, right, and he will never speak 2 me if I have dis baby!! It’s a crazy situation and I just don’t know what’s best cuz the dad wants to be there, but he is in jail for who knows how long and my parents will cut me off and I will probably have 2 drop out of school.
I feel like my life is over!!! What do I do?
I have been reading a few of the stories on here and some girls can relate to me. I am 17, going to be 18 on Sunday. I found out that I was pregnant about 3 months ago. When I found out I was so happy, but scared at the same time. How was I going to tell my parents, would they be mad? Ugh, so many thoughts ran through my head. The day that I told my boyfriend he was calm. I will admit I wasn’t sure if he would leave me cuz we were still pretty new. But he didn’t, thank gosh!!!
Well, a week passed and I told my aunt, and me and her both told my parents. To my surprise, my parents were pretty understanding, and supportive. After I told my parents, I was so happy that I was pregnant and went to the store the next day and bought all of the little things like bottles and washcloths, etc. I didn’t buy any clothes cuz I didn’t know the sex of the baby. Later that day, my mom took me to the hospital to make sure that I was pregnant and because I told her that I was spotting. At the hospital, I had an ultrasound and the doctor said that everything was fine. I still went on and was happy as ever. Then I started having really bad cramps while I was in school. So I called my mom and told her. She told me to come home and she would take me to the hospital again. This time when we went, they said everything was fine also. Then my first appointment came and me, my mom, and my boyfriend went. I was so excited to go. Then when it was time to hear a heartbeat, I heard nothing. I asked if that meant it wasn’t okay. The doctor said well we will get another ultrasound done to see if we see a heartbeat.
As I laid there, I saw nothing on the screen, just my “sac”. I was confused, where was my baby, was it hiding, where the heck was it? The person that did the ultrasound said she would take the pictures to my doctor. I looked at my mom, then at my boyfriend. I knew something wasn’t right. Since all of the chairs in the room were taken, I sat on the floor, and I started crying. My mom came over and she hugged me and cried with me. Then we all went to my doctor’s office and she came in and told me that my body destroyed my baby!!!! I started crying even more. I tried not to look at anyone. I felt alone although I wasn’t.
We then went to see when I could get a D&C….. which was the next day. After that day, I feel empty. So many thoughts going through my head everyday. I often think it’s not fair, there are women out there that do drugs while pregnant and still get to have their baby. Why not me? I’m doing everything I could but it didn’t make it. I also think, I never even got to see its face, who it would look more like, I never got to see my baby’s first steps or hear it cry, I’ll never get to hold my baby and just look at it while it’s sleeping. I cry everyday and I can’t look at babies.
I do want another one, but my boyfriend wants to wait. Maybe it’s the best thing to do…
Well, I really just want to tell my story because I am the type of person who keeps her feelings in because I am so scared that people will think bad of me if they really knew anything that went on with me.
There are only a few people that I let in on my feelings and what I am thinking. Well almost a month ago, me and my boyfriend had sex and we didn’t use any protection. But I was on the pill so I didn’t really think about it until I got my period. My period is never really normal but it isn’t too abnormal and when it got how it was. I was a little worried then I talked to my mom about it and she asked me “Did you ever do anything with your boyfriend?” and I was scared to tell her, but then I did and she said, ” Well that could be why.” And then I wasn’t too worried about being pregnant or anything because I was on the pill, like I said before. But when I did this with my boyfriend, I was staying over at my friend’s for the weekend and I forgot that I didn’t take my pill. So now I might be pregnant! I am extremely scared because I am only 15 years old! But I am happy that I have my mom there to help me through this because she is still mad, but she is going to be there for me and the baby (if there is one). I go to the doctor on Tuesday but this isn’t the end of my story, there is more.
When I was talking to my mom about this, she told me well we have to move because we need to get better jobs so that we can take care of ourselves and especially if you are pregnant. So now I don’t know what to do. I am soo scared that I am going to be and I have to move in two weeks. But the good thing is that my boyfriend wants to be there for me. Well, I would really like some advice if anyone has any for me B) ♥
Wow, first time writing… I’m 16, I’m six months pregnant on Nov. 8th, and right now, I’m dealing with having H1N1.
I’m pretty much over the worst of it though and it helped having my baby nudge me along. I live with my parents, my boyfriend broke up with me after he found out I wanted to keep the baby. He’s 22. He now has a new girlfriend who threatened to make me lose the baby if she ever saw me trying to contact him. On October 16th, he brought me to my doctor’s appointment and then left me outside of Walmart for 7 hours, saying he’d be back in 30 min. I left my ultrasound pictures in his truck and no matter how many times I beg him, he won’t give them back. Recently, he contacted me saying he wasn’t sure if he loved his girlfriend and that he made a big mistake breaking up with me… But I’m not sure I want to go back with him, after everything he did. There’s been someone else helping me though. I like him and he says he likes me too. He doesn’t care if I’m pregnant. I’m still going to school and it’s getting pretty hard with everyone talking about me and spreading rumors, but I’ve learned who my friends are that way. Everyone keeps talking about how I should’ve aborted my baby, but I know I couldn’t have. I already love him/her and nothing would have been able to replace that.
I may not be ready, but I’m slowly making my way towards being ready.
Hi to all frightened pregnant women out there,
Two years ago, I fell pregnant. My current boyfriend at that time did not care about me and was too selfish to even consider my feelings. When he found out that I was pregnant, he ran away so fast. He stopped calling me and did not return any of my calls either.
Despite this, I was happy to become a mommy. I had just obtained my degree and had a good enough job to support the baby. Just when I thought I could do this, 9 weeks into the pregnancy I found out that my baby was severely deformed. Doctors told me that the baby would not live past 1 week after being born, if born at all. Abortion was my only option. I had gone to 4 doctors and they all refused to handle my pregnancy due to the severity of the deformation.
I made the difficult choice of aborting my baby. It is something that I still can’t get over to this day. I think about my baby every day.
I am now married to an incredible man, that loves me. At present, I’m unable to conceive and my past choice now haunts me even more. Sometimes I feel that my choice to kill my first child has led to me never being able to be blessed with another baby again. I wasn’t given the choice by doctors but in the end, it is I that needs to answer to God one day. God has forgiven me but I still need to forgive myself. This has been a difficult journey but I know that I can make it.
If you have your baby, you may face difficulties now being parents’ disapproval, school pressures, etc. but it is a decision that you will never regret.
I ask you, no, I beg you…. Please don’t see abortion as an option. It’s a decision that you will never be able to live with. It’s a decision that may cost you more when you want to be happy with your husband.
Sometimes I feel anger towards woman that still make a decision to abort their healthy babies but I know that it is their choice in the end.
I hope my story has changed your mind.
Regards,
SAgirl
