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I’m sorry to hear about your loss but know how you feel, i lost a baby at 4 weeks but we were trying to get pregnant. I’m only 18 and have a 21 month old son i was the same age as you when i had him and couldn’t afford much so my parents had to buy some things. Loosing a baby does make you feel you want another so bad but at your age you should really wait, it’s no fun and you won’t be able to do the things you do now you won’t have that freedom. Think about what your mom would do, i have my own place now so having another won’t affect my parents as much as it would if i was still living at home. Think about your bf does he really want a baby at his age?
I was in a committed relationship at 15 (he’s the same age) and had only been with my bf for 5 months when he proposed and i said yes. When we had been together for 11 months i found out i was pregnant (i was in my final year of school). Going through my exams was so hard it took me longer as my morning sickness was severe i was going to the toilet all the time, i had it all day and night so it just wasn’t mornings. My baby was due in December that year so my college told me there wasn’t any point in me going as i would miss most of the year, so i took 2 years out to raise our son. It was hard i moved out of my parents house at 16, moved into a hostel when my son was a month old and got our own flat when he was 6 months old. During those 6 months i got post natal depression and had to have tablets to help. I used to go out with friends all the time and since i’ve gotten pregnant i haven’t seen my friends and haven’t gone out, i stay in on the weekends and just relax when my baby is in bed. He is 21 months old now and i’ve been with his dad for 3 1/2 years.
You should think about the financial side of having a baby it’s not cheap i can’t afford much for myself after buying nappies, food and things my son really needs. Most teenagers see babies as an accessories but they don’t realise how hard it is and don’t look from every aspect. Think about it will your bf stick around when you fall pregnant? Will your mom be supportive? I had the support of my parents but not many people are lucky. Will you be able to afford a baby? I was lucky enough to have my parents help out with some things even though they couldn’t afford it. Will you still want to change nappies and do night feeds instead of being out with your friends? Think about things proper before you decide you want a baby.I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve lost a baby but i lost it early on in the pregnancy i was 4 weeks so everything came out on it’s own. I can’t imagine what it must of felt for you to see the baby on the ultrasound and no heartbeat and having to go through the birth. Words can’t make you feel better, i’m sure you’ll never get over it but you’ll get through it. I’ve never got over my miscarriage but have managed to get through it. x
Just tell your parents sit them down then tell them, that way they can be prepared. It’s normal for them to have a shock so don’t think it isn’t. When i got pregnant i was 15 and nobody would take 15 year olds on so when i got to 16 it was too late to find a job. Look in the obvious places like mcdonalds, caffi, sales jobs ask around shops when you go out someone might take you on. Good luck
