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Char, your baby is gonna need you when he/she is born. You wouldn’t want the baby growing up without going through life wondering why mommy did what she did and daddy doesn’t have anything to do with me. We don’t know the outcome but I’ve heard beautiful beginnings of the same story happening to other girls who gave birth thinking they couldn’t love the baby and turns out they thought wrong. I can’t imagine or relate to what you’re going through at all. But I do know that ending your life wouldn’t be an ending, it would be just the beginning. We’ve gotta all learn to take our eyes off ourselves and our problems and see how we can make it through and help others. Life is not an easy road and I’ve been there many times where I’ve done things with guys I didn’t want to do but I put myself in that situation. The first guy I had sex with pressured me and I gave in when I didn’t want to and without protection when I told him I can’t do this. The guy I got pregnant from I was intoxicated and kept pushing away when I told him no and ended up having an abortion, which made it worse. We never know what the futures to hold and it can be scary but know that you’re not in this alone, other women have been in your exact situation and made it through so you can too! I am so proud of you for not listening to that careless, panicked guy and being bold and staying strong. You’ve made it this far, in my opinion you’ve made it through the hardest part. If you need someone to talk to, God is always available and waiting. He loves to hear our cries and our praises. He has filled me with peace and love I’ve never known or ever knew existed. Cry out to him.
You have to realize we base most our decisions in life on feelings and emotions, rather than the facts and faith. I want to encourage you to go through with having the baby. There’s always adoption as a choice but don’t go for the abortion, because I’ve been there. Don’t let circumstances control your life either. You need to rely and trust on God with this situation that he will carry you and your baby through and that nothing is impossible with God. You need to ask your boyfriend and yourself this, what are we aborting here? And if it’s from a human being then, it’s a human being. Nothing compares in this world too loosing your own baby because you had control over this innocent being and destroyed it’s right to live and that you must live with that for the rest of your life. Yeah, I’ve been forgiven and able to be open about my abortion but a part of me is gone that I can never get back. Even for years I couldn’t stand to look at babies, hear them, see a picture, hear or see the word abortion because it haunted me so much. I just ask you make the best decision you’ll ever make and that would be give life no matter what anyone tells you. Be strong, stand up and fight for you know that having the baby is right! You can do it! Much love…
I think there is such thing, but I’m not 100% sure. I got pregnant & was really surprised. Because I pushed him off a few times, so we didn’t really have sex if you say & I never knew he ejected and we didn’t use protection. If you add the times up together it was probably 2 minutes or so & I have realized you can get pregnant really quick & easy while most people don’t realize that. This was with a one night stand too who I met at the beach. I had an abortion at 18 & do not encourage you to do so if you are pregnant. It will do huge damage to your mental, physical, spiritual & emotional state! And if you aren’t pregnant, you should thank God and be abstinent. Which is hard, but you can do because I’m living proof & I was a wild one!
You may very well be pregnant. Like the other girl said just because you use protection doesn’t mean you can’t get pregnant. When I became pregnant I was shocked, I knew I was, tired to live in denial about it & had an abortion. So if you are, please don’t live in denial or have an abortion. It affects your life in a huge negative way! Living with regret that you murdered a part of you, your own baby & it’s really tough to forgive yourself & know that God can forgive you of such a thing. Thankfully I have been forgiven, forgave the guy (whom I didn’t know & will never see again) & myself but it took 4 years. Not only that it is wrong because we’re taking someone’s life. It doesn’t matter what you do in life, you pay the consequences. Some people say it’s more of a burden to have the baby but it’s not, it’s a lot worse if you have an abortion. You’re not too young, I was 18 & thought I was too young but I was wrong. Really what is the perfect age to have a baby?? The answer is there isn’t. We can plan out our life all we want & it’s not gonna happen like we plan it out to be. So the thing is we’re selfish people & think about our plans, dreams, goals instead of other people & the unborn who did nothing wrong because we give into our temporary pleasures. So if you are, then please think about the baby, there’s plenty of help out there for you. I wish I would have known about the help out there & not rushed my decision instead I was wondering what everyone else thought about me. Also it really will do damage to your emotional, mental & physical health. I’ll be praying for your strength and good discernment. -Heather
