annette

Being 15 is hard. I remember a lot of those feelings you mentioned. “Sex” and “Hormones” can really cloud the clarity of situations… I am glad that you are reaching out to others. Your parents will be upset, but in the grand scheme of life (and believe me, this is just a moment), your parents will be able to help you. Please turn to an adult in your life. It is normal to be scared. I am in my thirties, and if I were pregnant again, I would be scared too… but, that would only be for a little while. A baby in your life is not the end of the world…. it is the beginning of two new lives together. Yours as you know it will change… but, that is not a bad thing. It can be wonderful. You are so young and unable to see what a blessing a baby in your life will be. And, even if you do not think you can care for the baby, many other women who cannot have children would give anything to adopt yours. Your baby will be loved if you chose life… If you do not, then your baby will no longer have life. And, trust me, this is not something you want to live with. Even though I have forgiven myself and I know that God has forgiven me for aborting my first child, the pain of killing my first child is with me every day. How I wish that decision was different. Once you kill the baby, you cannot give him/her their life back. But, if you have the baby, you will offer the baby an opportunity for life beyond what you can imagine now. Moms and Dads will be upset over many things. You are growing up and it is time for you to Stand Up for yourself and your baby. If you are not pregnant, then, your mom and dad will be able to help you with some of your feelings/hormones. All humans go through this… Learning how to control them is a part of growing up too. Please go to your parents. The pain of disappointing them is only temporary. Best of luck to you.

I am 37 years old. I had an abortion when I was 21. It is absolutely the WORST thing I have ever done. I read somewhere on this sight that you “pay for it forever”. That is so true. God did not intend for us to KiLL. An abortion stops a beating heart. That is the plain truth.

Your mind tells you this is okay because other people do this… It wouldn’t be legal if this were “okay”. So, many women do this and some do not even think twice (or so they say). I know that this is your life…. you need to make that decision…. But, I am going to be the voice of your little baby…”Let me see you mommy! I will bring you so much love and joy!”

I now have six beautiful children. They are the best that life has to offer. And, even though I have happiness with them… I morn for my first child! This was something that I cannot take back. And, like I read somewhere else on this site, I will never know his/her favorite flavor of ice cream…

You need to know that tears are flowing uncontrollably down my face. If only I had the strength to “Stand Up” and face my parents. I too was fearful of disappointing them. My older sister had a baby at 19. She was unwed and not on good terms with the father. I heard so much from my parents about how “horrible” that situation was. But, unknown to me then… Her daughter, Sarah, grew up into such a beautiful young woman! Sarah is in college and with a life of her own. My sister did it! I am so proud of her. When I was 13 (that was when my sister was pregnant), I thought she was the sleeziest person. How ignorant I was. But, that shaped how I thought when I was 21. Shame came with my pregnancy. PLEASE do not feel shameful.

Your child will give you so much strength and courage. You will no longer be caring for one, but for two. And, there is a lot of help out there. Many of us give to local pregnancy centers so that young moms will have what they need. You will be provided for. More people than you are aware of right now, will love your baby and you…. I hope some of my story helps you. I do not wish you the pain that I go through without my first child.

Keep faith… God has already blessed you with this baby. You will receive more.