Hey
I’m 3 months pregnant and I was having a hard time deciding if I should have my baby or if I should get an abortion. But now I’m 100% sure that I want to have my baby….
Anyways, like 2 weeks ago, I went to my first doctor’s appointment and I finally got to see my baby… I got so excited I almost cried haha, LOL. I was there with my boyfriend and he also wanted to cry…
Now we’re really excited and were really looking forward to the baby’s birth…. I LOVE MY BABY
Well, I fell pregnant at the age of 15… Kept this a secret from my family for at least three and a half months.
I eventually plucked up the courage to tell my mum and dad. My dad more or less disowned me and my mum helped me in small parts but kept trying to persuade me into an abortion, which I could NEVER do. So I still haven’t really forgiven her for trying to make me do that, but sadly a few weeks after, I lost my bubs… worst ever feeling…
I want to try for another baby. It feels like I’m never going to be happy until I get my little angel… My baby was due on the 20th of December 🙁 truly missed 🙁 love you boo.
Oh and I am no longer with the partner. I will add more shortly.
I am 15 and in June, I had sex with this boy. Now I feel soooo stupid because the boy I messed with wasn’t my boyfriend or nothing, and he was a senior and I was a freshman.
Not that bad, but I feel so nasty because we had sex at school in the boy’s locker room. Not only that, but it got around the school real fast, and let me not forget me and his girlfriend had classes together. So I got to look like a hoe with only 2 weeks of school left. And now I’m confused because I knew I shouldn’t have messed with me when he didn’t have a condom and he came at me with dat with I’ll pull out bull. I was gonna walk away, but when I was about to leave out the door, I heard a teacher so I was stuck in tha locker with him. So when he had found a condom, he put it on and it was wayyyy 2 little, but I let him have his way anyway. When it was almost over, I felt a big gush and then he pulled out real fast in a panic. I don’t know but I think that tha condom broke.
Now I think it’s a chance I could be pregnant, and if! I am, it’s nobody’s fault but mine. And I’ll feel really bad because I wouldn’t consider anything else but abortion because first of all, I’m only 15 and especially because I haven’t talked to him since school got out and I don’t have no way of getting in touch with him.
Please help me !!!!!!!!!!!!!
This new blog rocks! I’ll come back to share tomorrow. Need to sleep now. Just a pain to be ’round when I don’t get 9 hours.
He started using drugs heavily, and since I didn’t like doing drugs, let alone drinking, I broke it off. About a month after we broke up, I sat staring in my friend’s bathroom, looking at a pink plus sign. It was faint, so I went to the expert on pregnancy, my mother. She then went to get me another one. And there we have it, I’m pregnant.
Dear Becky —
I first found out I was pregnant after me and my boyfriend of two years, on and off, broke up for good. He started using drugs heavily, and since I didn’t like doing drugs, let alone drinking, I broke it off. About a month after we broke up, I sat staring in my friend’s bathroom, looking at a pink plus sign. It was faint, so I went to the expert on pregnancy, my mother. She then went to get me another one. And there we have it, I’m pregnant. A few weeks later, I went to the doctor’s for my first check up. And they did a sonogram. When I saw my little “lima bean” baby, I cried so much. She told me then that I was already 6 weeks and 1 day (I am now 11 weeks and 1 day). =]. I decided I was not going to tell the father. He has already told me a million times he doesn’t want a kid(he already has one, and doesn’t even see his child who is now 3), and the fact that he does drugs, drinks, and is a pathological liar, made my decision very, very easy.
My birthday is actually in 2 weeks from today (July 27th =]]]]). I’ll officially be 17 =]] .
In September, I’ll be starting my Senior year in high school, and ready to take on any of the challenges that come my way. I’m ready for whatever anyone has to say. I’m ready for anything. I’m ready for single parenthood (with the help of my wonderful amazing, and supportive family and friends). My friend asked me the other day if my life goals have changed at all, like am I going to go to college, do what I’ve always wanted to do (forensic stuff for homicide/suicide cases), and the answer is no and yea. My goals in life haven’t changed, at all. They’ve just become more. I’m going to college. and I’m going to do the job I’ve always wanted to do!. My parents have gave me an amazing life, now I just hope I can do the same for my baby =]]
Megan
Dearest Megan — my name is Lisa and I help Becky at the Stand Up Girl website with some of her e-mails.
I have to tell you that after I read your e-mail … all I could say out loud was “WOW!” You are the most amazing Stand Up Girl!
I just know that your Stand will help other girls have that courage too. Megan – I’m so proud of you to see you take the Stand, and also I’m so happy that your family Stands with you. You are absolutely right! You CAN continue on with what you planned in your future. And your baby will definitely give you that much more of a drive to be a success! Please keep me posted on how you are doing. OK? Thank you so much for taking a Stand … for being a Stand Up Girl! I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Luv Lisa |
Dear Becky —
We were scared and I don’t think we really thought about it. So I made the appointment, and on the day of the appointment, I just rode in the car and looked at my boyfriend, just wanting my boyfriend to tell me, we should rethink this, a baby is a blessing. But …
This last year has been the worst but also the best for me in so many ways… About 10 months ago, my family, who I love with all my heart, found out that I had been sneaking around with a man much older man (now my boyfriend who I live with and love with all my heart) and they decided if I didn’t stop seeing him, I had to move out of their home. They didn’t abandon me or anything, but their religious beliefs helped them make this decision. So I moved in with my boyfriend of a year and we have had a blast. Living with him is everything I hoped to be and I’m even getting hints of him proposing to me, which would be amazing because I know I’ll be with him forever. Well, about 10 months ago, I started feeling sick, dizzy, and just so tired all the time. I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend put the idea of an abortion in my head, and after I thought about it just kept thinking, “this will make things okay, I’m not ready yet” (I’m 20 years old). We were scared and I don’t think we really thought about it.
So I made the appointment, and on the day of the appointment, I just rode in the car and looked at my boyfriend, just wanting my boyfriend to tell me, we should rethink this, a baby is a blessing. but it never happened. Even two minutes in the room, waiting for the doctor to start, I wanted to scream “STOP! I changed my mind,” but I didn’t, it happened. As we walked out of the building, I made myself so sick to my stomach thinking of what I’ve just done. I cried and cried, and we haven’t talked about it since, but yet, I think about it everyday. It didn’t make things better, it didn’t make me forget, it’s made me have so much anxiety and I make myself sick every time I see someone with a child, or I look at my little brother and sister and think I might not have them if my mom and dad decided to have an abortion.
What I’m trying to say is, I can’t get it out of my head, I’m afraid to tell my boyfriend this is what’s been making me strike out at him and make me angry at him. He knows something’s bothering me…I just can’t bring myself to tell him, or anyone… It’s just in my head eating at me every day I look in the mirror…I feel like such a bad person… I wish it would go away… I made a bad decision…and I hate myself for it. I just needed to get that out, even if this doesn’t get read, I know I tried.
Bell
Dearest Bell,
My name is Lisa and I help Becky at the Stand Up Girl website with some of her e-mails. Your e-mail is very important to me and I wanted to make sure that I gave my full attention to this response on your e-mail. I wanted to send you a response because … Well, I’ve also been down that horrible road of abortion. I can’t tell you how sorry that I am for your heartache! I know it is so painful – no words can express it. It is amazing to me that you knew why you are lashing out at your boyfriend. This is really very common – and honestly, Bell, it is truly vital that you express your heart to him. The truth. It is extremely important! Why? Because usually relationships after abortion do not last and if you see this relationship has a future – you need to start with honesty from your heart right now. Today. He needs to know. He needs to know that you wanted protection from him. That you wanted him to take a Stand and quite honestly, that you may even hold him partly responsible. You can put it in a way that is … not blaming him – but by telling him how vulnerable that you were and are right now. How much that you hurt and the loss that you feel inside of your heart. That since he was the closest one to you – that you feel like it has put a hindrance in your relationship and you don’t want that to be. Bell – I have a link to point you to a book called Forgiven and Set Free and it is written by a girl by the name of Linda Cochran. It is an amazing book of healing and freedom. It will bring you through all of these painful emotions and to help you put those feelings away. Anger, bitterness, depression, etc. There are so many – but this workbook is amazing! I would recommend doing 1 chapter a week. There is about 8 chapters … maybe 10. But it’s awesome. I’ll give you a link to help you find the book on e-bay and I can also give you a link where maybe you can find a nearby post abortion group. Please know that when you find other women that have experienced the same things, and you share with one another – there is healing. OK? Just know that I am only a keystroke away – OK? Take care of yourself.
Luv Lisa
