how i feel

Right now, I’m a little happy… Today, I went on 3 sites to see when my period was due and it said July 23. As of today, I’m 8 days late.

Today, when I was at my boyfriend’s aunt’s house and it felt like I was cramping so I came home cause I thought it was starting but when I got home, there was nothing there. So I wonder what that was all about. But if I am pregnant, I don’t know what I’m going to do. I’m 15 years old, but I used to want a baby, but then I did some thinking and I changed my mind.  I don’t think I’m stable enough, yet maybe in a few years. So I’m going to wait a little longer.

If I don’t have my period, I’m going to take a home test.

She deserves better.

Okay well, I’m 6 months pregnant.

I had been friends with this guy for four years and we were really close. After him and his son’s mom’s split in September, we decided to date and we hit it off great. (After 4 years of friendship, you would think you would know someone.) When we got together, I was still a virgin, and I took every precaution to keep it that way. One night, we ended up gettin’ drunk and he got me into bed cause I was feeling really sick. And one thing led to another and we had sex, but safe sex. Time went on and we continued to sleep with each other, but because I was on the pill, he stopped using a condom (stupid idea)! In March, I had gone in to see my ob-gyn for a checkup and came out finding out that I was 8 weeks pregnant. I texted (at the time) my boyfriend and he was really excited and just kept tellin’ me everything would work out. Well, we decided in March to get married and raise our family together. (We have had a very bumpy relationship.)

So the night before I was supposed to move in with him and two days before we were supposed to get married, he and i get into a fight and he broke off the marriage/engagement and went back to his ex girlfriend. Three weeks went by and he came to see me and wanted to work things out for us and for our child, so we started talkin and ended up gettin’ back together (even after all the things he said to me during that three weeks.) Well, I didn’t feel right and we broke up to give me time to think but continued to talk and see each other. During this break up, an old boyfriend came back into the picture and we went out for a movie and dinner as friends and ended up gettin’ back together. My heart was torn between my baby’s father and my first true love.  So I went back and forth but chose to be with the second guy and my baby’s father has not liked that at all. He and I don’t talk at this time. He has chosen that she is not his and that he wants no part of her life as of now.

My boyfriend now is such an amazing guy and loves me to death. Our feelings have never gone away for each other and now they have grown stronger. He is a father to his son and has decided to take on the responsibility of being a father to my daughter. We have talked about marriage and having children together. When the news hit the surface about us getting married, my ex (aka baby daddy) decided he wanted to be a part of my life and my daughter’s life. My boyfriend has taken care of all the stress for me even though its caused him a lot of stress. He told my ex that he needed to back off and leave me alone. My ex then decided he didn’t want anything to do with us again and we haven’t talked since.

At 17, no teenager should be going through pregnancy or abuse but it happens to a lot of us. I’m very thankful that i am with a guy that can love my daughter as his own because she does deserve better than a deadbeat father that doesn’t care.

Stressed and Confused

Hi,

My girlfriend and I are both 16. We both attend high school and I am in football. I have a 3.9 GPA and was planning on attending college and becoming a pharmacist. Today, July 31st, she had a positive result on a pregnancy test. I’ve gone through and told my mom. I couldn’t hold back the tears, knowing that I have let down so many of my family members that have been so supportive of my success and achievements. My mom asked what I was going to do with my options, being abortion, adoption, or parenthood, and I told her that abortion was out of the question. As for adoption, I could live with that, but I don’t know if my girlfriend could after 9 months of pregnancy and having to let it go. I couldn’t live with myself if I hurt her that way. I will talk with her more about what SHE wants to do and than plan from there. I just wanted to get some advice and some feedback. Realistic advice is necessary. I can’t be in denial or anything.

Some questions:

– If we chose Parenthood, could I still finish school and move on to college?

– Is there anyone with success story after being a teen parent?

– What do I do if I don’t have that nice of a father and he would flip if I told him?                                                                                                              
– My girlfriend wanted to know if it’s selfish to hope that its a boy? Because my mother just gave birth to my little brother and if our child was a boy, we would have baby equipment already for him. I told her that its not selfish or wrong to hope for a certain gender, but whatever you do get you have to love and treat like it should be treated.                                          

– How should I cope with my family being disappointed?                                 

– Should I quit this football season (its just starting but my girlfriend might only be a month pregnant.) and just get a job or should I play it out and than get a job in late November?                                 

– And if anyone has any other advice, tips, information, or anything, will you please tell it to me?

Thanks,

is it badd? i need advice

Well, I’m 13 and people say something needs to come into my life to make me grow up. Is it bad to have a baby?