Hi, I was pregnant before on September 18th 2013! I had a miscarriage on February 20th 2014! I was 22 weeks pregnant! Her name is Misa Grace Parkinson! She was supposed to be born on June 25th 2014! So it’s been like almost 10 weeks now! I thought I would have gotten fewer pregnancy symptoms, but instead I got more! I will tell you why I think I am pregnant!
I got pregnancy signs (like I said)! 🙂 They are: Breast tenderness, Fatigue, Headaches, Mood swings, Nausea, Frequent urination. And bit more!
I also just finished this wearied bleeding last night, which was Tuesday 29th April, I start on Saturday 26th April, that was spotting! The colour was pinkish, brownish, orange and odd red, but it is more pinkish and brownish! I am also getting this tummy round, bump, (not to sound rude) but I am getting back where I couldn’t see my private part when I take a shower! Day after my miscarriage, I went down completely back to normal, in a day! So I don’t think that be the cost of this bump! I also feel wearied movements in my tummy! I also thought my boobs would be going down because the milk stopped running from it on March 8th 2014, but they still feel full! I calculate that if I am pregnant I would be around 5 weeks because of that wearied bleeding! I do want a baby because I want to take care of something that will look up at me knowing that I am there for him/her every single day and every single minute! 🙂 I am going to hospital on the Thursday 8th May, to do the blood test pregnancy! So please tell me what you think it could be of, with all of it! 🙂
Thank you for reading! ^_^
Finding Out I was Pregnant. To start off, I kind of figured out that I was pregnant before actually going to the doctors. My menstrual cycle is like clockwork (ALWAYS ON TIME) and I knew that I had had a few times of unprotected sex. So when I didn’t get my period the first month, I thought well it might be stress-induced because I was crammed with school work.
Then I started getting sick and becoming more fatigued, which was unusual because I never get sick to my stomach. So I got worried and I let my boyfriend know something may be going on. He was like your fine, you are just really stressed and need to relax and this was just a warning sign of my body telling me to rest. So I pushed it aside.
Month two came and still no period. So I went to my adviser. Well, I guess things aren’t kept confidential anymore because somehow my grandmother all of a sudden wants to take me to the doctors because my adviser called her. So the day came for the appointment and I was really nervous because my grandmother didn’t know that I started having sex again (previously celibate).
The doctor calls me back and ask for my last menstrual cycle which I don’t remember. Next, she asked for a sample of urine which I gave. Then she comes out and my grandmother says that I need to go on birth control, but the doctor stops her and says the test came back positive. And my face drops.
Next words that came out of my grandmother’s mouth which really hurt me were “So you’re going to terminate this baby”. I can’t believe she asked me that question. I literally wanted her to just leave.
I called my boyfriend and gave him the news. And at first, he was yelling, then came crying but after a hour, he calmed down. He asked so many question like he didn’t know how girls got pregnant. I am nervous and scared to the point I don’t know what to say or do, or even talk about.
I found out I was pregnant in February, My girlfriend/partner made me take hpt. I was nervous and scared. I thought she was going to break up with me. Even though it wasn’t a surprise to me, but just having her in the bathroom with me made me feel shocked to see a positive sign. I know whoever is reading this is wondering how I got pregnant and have a girlfriend.
Well you see in December, we broke up and I felt alone. So I called on an ex-guy friend. We had a past relationship for 5 years and became close friends and talked about everything. So one night, we were together (Dec 21 2012) and one thing led to another. When we were together, we tried to get pregnant but didn’t seem like I could conceive so we gave up. So we really didn’t think anything of it until my period was late by a month. I brought it to his attention but by then, we were back to not talking and just chilling. I felt my body begin to change, my mouth was becoming dry and I was starting to feel sick. This wasn’t normal for me. I didn’t tell anyone.
Which led to the second month I was late. By that time, me and my girlfriend I was back together and now we were living together at my sister’s place. She asked me when was my last period. I told her I didn’t know, but it should be coming on soon. (My body does that sometimes, miss a period, because I used to bleed twice a month so one month I would miss) She didn’t stick with that for me for a long time because I was now 2 months late. But the thing is, the night me and my guy friend had sex, my period came on the next day (Dec 22).
So now it’s 2014 and I’m 14 weeks and in the 11 grade, hoping I will be good parent. The father wants to be around, but he has a 1-year-old which was conceived while we were supposed to have been in a relationship.
According to a research that was recently conducted, girls with disability have higher chances of facing violence as compared to the ones without disability. This violence can be in the form of sexual, verbal, or even emotional assault. What’s worse is that such violence against girls with disability is expected to last for a longer time than the normal average. This means these girls are made to go through an ordeal which very few of us know about. We hardly read about it, and few people are sensitive about the issue too.
Who abuses these women? Interestingly, most women, who were found abused, were made to go through this ordeal by their known people. This could be anyone from their family members to the caregivers. While the family members might verbally abuse them or even attack them emotionally, the caregivers’ assault can be in the form of disagreements or refusal to help these disabled girls with their daily needs.
It is estimated that almost two-thirds of women/girls with disability have been physically or sexually assaulted in their life. More surprisingly, most women/girls faced this assault when they were very young. Let me share a story of a young girl who was made to go through this ordeal when she was just 10. Like any other girl, she wanted to make friends. She wanted to be loved and cared for. However, what she received was completely opposite. She could not make friends as most of them would always make her a source of humor. Her family wouldn’t be of any help either. As soon as she reached home, her mother would start to curse her, and even threaten to beat her. She would be frustrated about how slow this girl worked. Unfortunately, the girl could not take it for very long. She became a victim of depression in a couple of years, and left her house one day. No one still knows what happened to her, and where did she go. How many such girls go through the same torment in their lives? It is important that a solution is derived soon enough.
TYPES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST DISABLED GIRLS
Here are the various types of physical abuses that a girl with disability can generally face:
Physical Abuse: This is that type of violence that can cause physical harm or injury. This could include various forms of violence like hitting, kicking or even shaking someone. We have heard stories of parents punishing their girls because of the fact that they were slow in performing the tasks that they were assigned.
Sexual Assault: This comes as a surprise to many, and it did to me too. We hardly tend to believe that girls with disability can be sexually assaulted, but the number of assaults that they face is whopping. A person that they know or don’t know might force them to perform a sexual activity. It is not just confined to forced intercourse, but people are also found to touch the personal parts of these girls or even make them touch the assaulters’ personal parts.
Verbal Abuse: While physical and sexual assault get reported at some time, verbal abuse mostly goes unnoticed and unreported. However, it can be seriously damaging to the girls’ self-esteem. This can include admonishing someone or even using harsh words about their disability.
Emotional Abuse: This form of abuse stems from verbal abuse. This, however, goes a step further. It does not only include words but also actions through which the self-esteem of the disabled girl can be shattered. As we noticed in the story above, a disabled girl can simply be ignored to destroy her emotionally. Making her feel that she is good for nothing is another form of emotional abuse.
Deprivation: Finally, another form of violence against disabled girls is depriving them of their basic needs as also their human rights. We mentioned above of how some care-givers refuse to help the girls with their daily needs. That is a form of deprivation, and one that might slice the girls from within.
WAYS OF PREVENTING VIOLENCE
It was very important to note the various forms of violence; because unless we know that it is violence we wouldn’t be able to act against it. Here are some ways that can be used to prevent such violence to occur or recur:
- Assertiveness: The first thing to do is to be assertive. If you feel that you aren’t strong enough, there are chances that the assaulters will gain more confidence to be violent against you. You must be able to clearly express your feelings to the other person.
- Support: You must express your feelings; however, you should not try to tackle it all by yourself. You have to realize that confronting a situation alone can be a risky endeavor. Therefore, it is essential that you avail support from your friends in the time of need.
- Self-Defense Course: It shall be worthwhile to take a self-defense course. It will prepare you with things you can do when violence does take place.
- Speak with Others: You can speak with other people who can help you with the problem. One of the options is to speak with your friends, who can instantly come to your rescue. Additionally, you can develop a community resource list for your area. Many of these resources provide support to community members during a difficult situation.
- Build Confidence: One of the most significant ways of preventing violence is by building confidence in you. When you are confident about yourself, it reflects in your demeanor. There are innovative ways of doing so. For example, simply by improving your mobility you can feel better about the situation. You can buy any of the available mobility scooters for the cause.
RAY OF HOPE
Not all is lost, though. It seems that there is some headway in terms of improving the situation of girls with disability. New systems and offices are being developed by the government for the sake of these girls. Moreover, there are counselors who can help you with your situation. Finally, the advent of scooters is another boon. Being mobile and independent gives you a sense of confidence. Buy a Go-Go electric mobility scooter or any other that suits your needs, and you are ready to explore the world – all on your own.
Thank you for Giving me Life, Mom!
I don’t what it is about that “Dallas Buyers” cast, but they proved to be pretty classy guys at last night’s Oscars. Lead actor winner Matthew McConaughey praised God for his first Oscar win – a breath of fresh air during a night in which He seemed to be all but forgotten. But, before McConaughey praised the Almighty, his costar Jared Leto also shared a beautiful message in his acceptance speech for Best Supporting Actor.
Leto, like McConaughey, was a first time Oscar winner last night. As such, he took advantage of the opportunity to share his mom’s courageous story:
In 1971, Bossier City, Louisiana, there was a teenage girl who was pregnant with her second child. She was a high school dropout and a single mom, but somehow she manage to make a better life for herself and her children. She encouraged her kids to be creative, to work hard and to do something special. That girl is my mother and she’s here tonight. And I just want to say ‘I love you mom, thank you for teaching me to dream.’
I want to thank Jared Leto for using the Oscar stage to recognize and appreciate his mother’s life giving decision. She proved that even as a teenage, high school dropout, she could succeed as a mother. She had no idea her son would win an Oscar one day.
Does this not prove that every human life has potential? Even if it was not his intention(a quick Google search suggests the actor is pro-choice), I hope Leto’s speech will encourage other scared, young women out there who are debating what to do about their pregnancies, to give their unborn child a chance. Their son or daughter may thank them on stage one day.
By Cortney O’Brien | Mar 03, 2014
You are craving chocolate ice-cream at two in the night, laughing aloud one moment and feeling completely worthless the next. Your nesting instincts are on an all-time high and you want to scrub those floors sparkly clean and feed everyone some pudding.You don’t even understand why the sunset made you cry and why just the sight of that bagel can start up a session of vomiting.
Pregnancy is anything but easy, sure it’s blissful at times but at others it can get pretty demanding. All that progesterone and estrogen can run riot in our bodies and we can end up feeling really exhausted and upset.
While mood swings, outbursts, cravings are inevitable during pregnancy, there are some simple ways by which we can stay happy and energized (yes I did say happy and energized) during pregnancy as well.
Eat with a Tinge of Caution
Pregnancy is pretty extreme swinging from one end to the other. Sugar and processed foods will seem to be your best friend. Doughnuts, cookies, sandwiches with lots of butter and cheese become your to-go foods. Now, of course this is a time for joys and indulgence and probably the only time you can eat without guilt. There is a miracle taking place inside you, but just remember that your posterior and those thunder hips and thighs you are making, eating all that cheese and chips will not disappear miraculously. So eating right is pretty damn important even during pregnancy.
Moreover,eating a wholesome and nutritious diet during pregnancy is not just beneficial for your body, but also for the proper development of the fetus as well.Vegetarians and lactose intolerant people need to pay special attention to their diet. So while you can binge on the breads, cheeses and chocolates, make sure you also get plenty of vegetables, fruits, eggs, lentils and dairy products in your diet.
Eating these foods will not only regulate your body but beans, lentils, spinach and dairy products like yogurt with strawberries are great mood enhancers and energy boosters as well. A good dosage of these will definitely keep away postpartum depression and even curb those volatile mood swings.
Dressing up is Fun during Pregnancy Too!
You know one common thing I see in a lot of women during pregnancy is that they start having a lot of self-image issues.And I just cannot understand why. I mean yes you have a bloated belly and you are probably a few pounds heavier but you are beautiful. Pregnancy gets this amazing radiance and glow in a woman and believe me your fuller figure will be appreciated by a lot of people. So why not dress up and play up your looks instead of playing them down?
You will have to say goodbye to a lot of your favorite lingerie now, what with all that volume in the butts, breasts and thighs. However, there are a lot of pretty maternity lingerie options available now, pick ones that do maximum justice to your new curves.
Another myth, wear only loose clothes during pregnancy. Wearing those XXXL clothes during your pregnancy is doing nothing to you except making you look like a barrel. So get up and up that style quotient.
There are lots of stylish and comfortable options available for maternity wear now, from jeggings and dresses to knitwear and versatile jackets. They fit you well and make you look great. When you look great, you automatically feel great. A nice pair of flat sandals, your favorite scarfs, and an elegant pair of studs go a long way in making you pretty, pregnant and poised.
Catch Up on Romance
If this is your first baby, it is also probably the first real break you are taking away from work.Heavy schedules of couples often throws the romance out of the window. But with some time in your hand, why not rekindle the romance with your partner now?
Pregnancy gives you that much needed time to reconnect and communicate with your partner before the beginning of a whole new chapter. So talk, giggle, watch mushy movies, action flicks if you like and don’t just concentrate on the baby (talk about it obviously) but concentrate on yourselves too as a couple. After all it’s a happy couple that makes great parents.
Surprises and dates are such a great way to bring the fire back. Start dating again; go to all the places you all loved to frequent during those initial years of the relationship. Text him “I love you” just randomly or maybe even drop him a naughty message (wink! wink!)
Surprise him with his favorite dish that you haven’t cooked forever or simply turn the passion on with some scented candles and sexy lingerie. He needs a break from the moodiness, crankiness and whining too you know and what can be a better surprise than some romance right?
Vacation Time!
Yes, it’s babymoon time.That one last vacation just for the two of you before the little one arrives is a great way to reinvigorate yourself. So do take a vacation with your partner to some serene beautiful location with customized rooms for you, maybe some parents-to-be classes, spas and relaxation centers.
We all saw what a beautiful beaming mother-to-be Kate Middleton made during her babymoon to the West Indies.Take inspiration and let yourself get all pampered and loved during the vacation. Hotels and resorts across the world are catching up to this trend of babymoons and providing many customized and special facilities for the vacationing parents-to-be. Do your research well before picking your destination and ensure you talk to your gynecologist about the conditions and precautions before you embark on travelling.
Exercise Regularly
Finally, to stay healthy, happy and energetic during your pregnancy, include some exercise in you routine.
Some form of physical activity whether walking, swimming or pilates during pregnancy is great to keep your body posture and flexibility. Mothers that continue with exercise during pregnancy often are better prepared for the physical challenges of labor and childbirth.
Besides, exercise inevitably makes you feel fresher and more positive as we release the mood-enhancing hormone endorphin while performing any physical activity.
It also helps you stay in better shape and pumps more blood to the heart and take in a lot of oxygen. All of these don’t just regulate stress that you will often feel now but also will benefit your baby’s health.
Yoga and meditation are also great techniques of relaxation and will help you calm your nerves.If you like dancing you can always join some pregnancy dance courses and sway with the music. You will definitely feel happier and energized.Moreover, these classes also give you an opportunity to meet and bond with other pregnant ladies. Who knows you all may actually form your own pregnant girls’ club and laugh at each other’s idiosyncrasies and moodiness during pregnancy or just share valuable baby information.A support group always helps. Exercise also helps you to sleep better and rest is of utmost importance during pregnancy.
Pregnancy is a beautiful phase of any woman’s life and will be full of moments of jubilation and tears. So feel blessed and deal with your pregnancy in the right way to stay happy and healthy. And yeah! The moment you see your baby for the first time, elation and energy will take on a whole new meaning for you.
